My parents are sorta pressuring me to date/marry Asian. The thing is, I don't really care about what race the women in my relationships are. Love matters more than the color of our skin.
But my parents still pressure me a bit, especially when I'm in a relationship with a woman who isn't Asian, like right now. I'm 2nd generation, born in the US and my parents are born in Asia.
They moved here and decided to raise me in this culture. I'm gonna fall for whoever I share the most mutual love with, and race won't be much of a factor at all in my decisions.
Is there anything wrong in my thinking?
2007-01-01 20:43:30 · 9 answers · asked by "Asian Warren Buffett" 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Trust me it's not only Asian parents. Jews are the most strict when it comes to marriage between themselves.
I have white friends that their parents hated the fact that they were'nt dating caucasians. Persian boys usually date girls from every race but majority of them want a good Persian girl to marry at the end. Indians have arranged marriages and don't have much options either... the list can go on, so as you can see it's not only you, most 2nd generation kids are open to dating different races but the parents like to maintain the traditions.
Your thinking is 100% correct.
2007-01-01 21:49:17 · answer #1 · answered by Shelley S 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sure your parents want what is best for you, and since they were raised in another culture they would be most comfortable for you to marry into that race. However - you were raised here so you should be fine marrying for love, not race. I would imagine that most of your friends just think of you as a friend, not as an Asian. I would imagine that your parents will accept and love whoever you marry, esp after the lil grandbabies come along!
2007-01-01 20:49:03 · answer #2 · answered by Cris O 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe they are afraid of "western" woman. As long ur in love (mean the love u feel the first weeks, years) its no difference whom u marry. But later on western woman insists in more rights, put man more down. Think about the differance in the personality of asians and European. But u must decide how to make ur luck. If you really want a advice: never get married! (i made this wrong step the other way round. i´m european and married a filipina. Was thinking she understand what life means for me. But not. After 4y she just turned around and let me alone with our kid.) Good luck, 2007!
2007-01-01 21:08:10 · answer #3 · answered by rush rush 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think so. I think your decision is the right one. It is your choice. In my opinion, i think Asian parents pressure their children to marry other Asians because they don't want you to forget wherr you came from and they are a little racists. I know that my Vietnamese Parents are VERY racists too.
2007-01-01 20:48:31 · answer #4 · answered by pretty shy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there is definatly nothing wrong with your thinking..all parents of every race pressure there children to marry within the same race or religion..that way they can keep there beliefs being passed on through the generations. but you have to understand there point of view..they were not raised in this kind of society and there parents were very strict on whom they should marry and family honor was very important..also they have been through wars and cultural battles throughout there life and prejudice and so on..but we as the new generations need to break down the barriers that are our culture and skin color and allow ourselves to be human! and plus mixed babies are the cutest!! :D hope it helped
2007-01-01 20:54:54 · answer #5 · answered by Sarah M 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I also dont understand the thought of marrying the same race..I am half fil-chinese and yet my parents wants me to date or marry chinese themselves. presently im dating a filipino guy.. but they have nothing to do with it.. so, they must deal upon my decision cus they're not the one whos going to spend life to whoever that will be. you know what, just follow your heart not your mind.. dont let them distract you cus in the end you'll maybe lose the someone you really love. what I think of this situation that were getting to.. keep on moving with your life, follow your dreams. they'll accept you in the long run. all sins are forgivable but, takes time. hehe :)
2007-01-01 21:11:50 · answer #6 · answered by leoNpari 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2017-03-01 08:55:05 · answer #7 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no but your parents have different upbringings. In my opinion there way of thought is not wrong either.
2007-01-01 20:47:49 · answer #8 · answered by Wat Da Hell 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tradition
2007-01-01 20:48:12 · answer #9 · answered by LL B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋