positively approching to the family values
2007-01-01 19:54:06 · 14 answers · asked by veg2bhim 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I would suggest to marry when you are ready, not by pressure.
2007-01-01 19:57:39 · answer #1 · answered by dianek 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How long does your MBA take? Marriage can certainly wait. An MBA is expected to take decisions under pressure. So decide on what is good for you. You will have to live with pressure all your life if you are an MBA. So learn to cope with pressure. What happened to your Management by Objectives?Decision making under uncertainty?etc. This is a practical test of your academic knowledge. You are well equipped to decide for yourself. WHY THE CONFUSION? What is your objective in life?
Family members have no other job but to put pressure on youngsters to get married. Why can't they positively understand you? Why the hurry?
2007-01-04 04:10:54 · answer #2 · answered by StraightDrive 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why not negotiate with your family to find a partner while you are working in a company (with some income) instead of studying [which is what I read from your question]
Justifying that once the income is available, you have more options available to have a house with your partner instead of renting a unit/flat. Unfortunately I hear stories that it lead to some financial insecurities unless kept well managed.
This is by one option available to you if you want to play with family values yourself.
I also have heard many cultures or expectation on the family wanted to continue their legacy regarding heir for their name YET they would do the planning for the wedding themselves. (some, not all asia's cultures say this)
Would this be the basis of putting you MBA (which you are studying for) aside just to change your martial status from single to married??!?!?!
Or worst, family gets the idea of wanting you to getting you out of the house if you are still living at home?
I am making a number of assumptions, I cannot be sure so apologies if I am off my tangent here.
Hope this is something to reflect if none at all.
2007-01-01 20:02:21 · answer #3 · answered by Psionic2006 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't confusion take right and strong decision this is u r life not joke understand marriage is v v important but when u r ready to marry. Now u r responsible to achieve u r life so better finish u r MBA then u proceed u r marriage don't listen any one.
After marriage everything sealing,more commitments OK
2007-01-02 07:25:03 · answer #4 · answered by sampath k 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your career is very important, because without a good career you won´t get any well payed job and do you know how expensive it could come to raise a family and children???
I think you should finish your studies first and marry afterwards, because marriage is a very responsible thing and you might not be able to dedicate enough time to finish your studies...
Make your family understand, that you wish to marry, but that you need to finish your career first because you want to be a responsable husband and give security and a good life to your future wife and your children.
2007-01-01 21:39:45 · answer #5 · answered by Anita P 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hi there you are doing a mba .......and working hard ....where is the pressure coming from .....get them allinto a room and tell them all straight that they all know that you are working hard and that till you get this course finished that you are not getting married til you and youre g/f are ready to do it so get lost with the pressure .....that will waken them all up a bit and make them take note or the other note is .l....stop it no as if you dont there wont be any marriage .....that one they will take note .....stand up for youre self this is youre life and you are not ready to do that yet so tell them ....do youre self a favour explain it really softly to youre g/f but the rest let them have it ..good luck and take care xx
2007-01-01 20:11:26 · answer #6 · answered by a parent hows been there !! 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, It is you who has to tell the reason, That you want to be you. If you dad says you have lots of wealth in which you can lead a life, tell them that you want to earn and then settle in life. It is then your wife , kids and the people and friends around you will give you respect.
Tell him you don;t want to use his money and just sit at home. Make him clear with your point of view. So he can understand. If he says for engagement now. better you be frank with your dad that you gonna marry her after you got a job and get settled and you should be sure with the girl that you gonna be with her all your life.
Then processed for your engagement and tell the girl and her parents (sometimes your dad would have avoide to tell them, since you said for engagement you would accept for marriage) what you have in mind. Tell her not to pressure you much. So that it will be sure a helpfull way to finish your studies and then get settled.
2007-01-03 11:01:34 · answer #7 · answered by Mayandi 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask yourself if after marriage will you be able to continue with your MBA? If yes than its a win-win; your family is happy and you are able to pursue your MBA.
2007-01-01 20:34:02 · answer #8 · answered by SingGirl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely dont do anything that you are not ready to do. If you want to get your life in order before settling it down you should. Discuss it with your family so they know that, no matter what, you still love them but its your choice to get your life in order first.
2007-01-01 19:56:38 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell them gently but firmly that you will get married only after the completition of your education. Tell them you need to concentrate on your studies
2007-01-01 19:56:38 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋