what do I do with this girl I like that I am with all the time, and I am also her boss at work.?

Question

Im with this girl all the time. I am her boss at work and have known her now for about a year and a half. We get along excellent and enjoy eachothers company. The other day I told her that I had feelings for her. I told her that I was 100 percent sure of the way I feel about her. She told me that she is 90percent sure she feels the same way. This all happened about 2 weeks ago. There is this other guy that she sais she does not like and doesnt want to talk to anymore. Well a few days before I told her how I felt, she had sex with that guy. She called me the other day while she was texting back and forth with him. She was telling him off and that she doesnt want to talk to him anymore. Since I told her how I felt about her we have hung out 2 weeks straight. Its like we are dating but there is nothing physical. Ive told her that. She said what if we date and it doesnt work out. I told her why not take a risk with someone you already know what ur gettin in to. do I try kissing her or no

she is my personal assistant. we are together at work all day. and we hang out outside of work. i was with her on christmas eve and day. and for new years. I have told her how i feel. I feel now like i should wait for her to do something since the ball is in her court. im confused. what do i do.

Answer 1

It is called fraternizing! She could be setting you up to get you fired and take your job!
Look at the other girl and start pursuing her.
There are Millions and Millions of other girls out there . Why focus on the one? Get out more often!

Answer 2

If I were you, I'd avoid her like the plague. I know you have feelings about her. I had so many feelings about former attractions as well, I can write a list for you, starting with grade school.

There are so many potential problems about to explode with you and her.

Job favoritism is only one.

What if she gets pregy by that other guy?

Then what?

And if I am wrong, and I could be wrong because I don't know you both, and she might very well be the right one...well, you've missed a golden opportunity.

It's just that the boss/worker relationship really stinks because others pick up on it, and that ruins careers, etc.

What's needed here is honesty and forthrightness by the lady especially, which I heavily doubt she could provide.

I think she needs to mature a little more, or maybe get a tough experience from some fly-by-nights before she realizes what she had. Sometimes people never realize what they've had until it's too late.

Good luck. Happy hunting.

Answer 3

CROSSING THE LINE -

You should have asked this question long before you got started with her, but it's not too late if you take the following advice:

1) Do not act upon your feelings for this girl
2) Do not hang out with her anymore
3) Do not talk to her about sex
4) Do not get physical with her

Dating in the workplace is so tempting but there is a great price to pay for not resiting. I am willing to change my advice to you if you are willing to do one of the following:

1) Transfer to another location within the company
2) Quit your job
3) Have her quit her job

Love has been found in the workplace by thousands, but the pain for a failed relationship in the workplace is much greater. You don't have to take this risk to prove me wrong, but dating your employee, will change all the rules for your boss/ employee relationship.

It doesn't matter who dumps who, but you don't want her to every know your personal business on such a level where it can come back and haunt your career.

This is your final Warning!!! Don't do it.

Answer 4

You could. If she says she likes you and everything go for it. She might have told that guy off for you so why not take a chance? I would try it. Whats the worse that happens? You try it and it doesnt work out? Then you just go back to being friends with her and if possible go on different shifts from each other. Keep it quiet at work for now though.

Answer 5

You could get fired if anyone within your company found out and reported you. She, on the other hand, could sue the company if she were to get fired. If you have a nowhere job and that doesn't matter, do whatever you want. But if you have a job that could be a real career, you better think twice. She sounds like a bit of a twit. Do you really want to flush your career away for a fling?

Answer 6

Not A Good Idea To Date People You Work With..Bad Things Can Happen.

Answer 7

I know a guy by the name of Alan whom is in the exact situation that you're in. He is also dating an associate he works with and from the stories he has told my husband and I, we feel that he is totally getting the run around. He loves the girl and all but yet she isn't showing him any in return. My point is simple and I'll shutup: Relationships between coworkers never work out, so please do your self a huge favor and leave her before you really get hurt. It sounds like she is playing "hardball."

Answer 8

OF COURSEEE U SHOULD!! she is probably waiting for your kisss!! if she alraedy said she is 90% sure she feeels the same way towards you, then she is already saying a "mini yes" .. but becareful, if uguys break up or something does nt work out then she will want to quit or either u dont want her to work there anymore =[ thats sad though..

Answer 9

yes try kissing her if she pulls back and is still texting the other guy she isnt interested ps sorry if she does

but if she dosent then take it slow and tell her how you feel and give her flowers and get to no each other more



good luck :) :}

Answer 10

So go manage a Burger King instead of a McDoanlds.