What is your idea about " swinging " ?do you have any experience ?how it is ?

Question

It is a kind of sexual behavior.

Answer 1

Not many stated their actual experience, did they? Just their uneducated opinion.

I have a few years of experience under my belt (pardon the pun), and my husband and I have had a great time with it. We are not bored, we do not take our vows to love and cherish one another lightly, nor is our relationship on the rocks. Quite the contrary. We love one another very much...enough to allow one another to be him or herself in the most complete sense. That includes his or her sexuality. It's part of what we fell in love with, that sexual vitality. And the world wonders why "love fades" when we willingly choose to kill a part of ourselves as a proof of love and devotion. The idea of it is as distasteful to me as I'm sure the idea of non-monogamy is to others.

If my husband chooses to not have any other partners, that's fine (I'm not shoving him into other women's beds), but I have made it crystal clear that he is free to do as he pleases. He offers me the same liberty. We accept this liberty as a gift, not a burden. We have remained monogamous for about the past 3 years due to life circumstances, so the theory that you "can't go back" was just shot down there. We swing because we are able to handle it, we enjoy the variety and richness it adds to our life and our relationship, and we enjoy getting to know new friends on a level that many, unfortunately, do not have the pleasure of finding.

To put it simply, while we respect sex the same way you would a weapon, we have chosen to make it into a useful tool to be used to our benefit. We do not use it to measure the health of our relationship (although a lack of "spark" is something we would see as a symptom of a bigger problem), and we do not allow sex to define us. The way we see it, sex is a lot like FedEx. It's the method of delivery, not the message itself. We feel many people have confused the method for the message.

See the website below for more information. If you are interested in trying this with your spouse, do NOT go into it uninformed!! It's a step not to be taken lightly. I'm not kidding.

Answer 2

Don't you hate it when you get older and have to begin explaining what something meant from your younger years?

When I was younger, I was involved in it. Got me in some trouble with the church. Did live with two women once, than one left. She left behind a note saying that she just couldn't share anymore. Never did figure out whether the note was for me or the other female?

These days, it has made a come back of sorts, in that women see nothing wrong with having multiple male and/or female partners each week, or each night. I see it a lot as a cab driver. Women are also a lot more open about talking about their conquests.

As the male population continues to shrink, it will become much more common for men to have multiple female partners, and possible even wives. The birth rate for male children began dripping rabidly about 30 years ago, to where now there are more female children being born. With the much higher death rate in males, especially now that adolescent males under 12 have begun committing suicide more often than females, the number of living/breathing males is going to get acute.

Answer 3

it truly is merely about particular that your previous is the reason of how you experience now. the way we are extra up has a most suitable impact on how we experience about issues, what we've self assurance, how we experience we'd want to consistently cope with a topic etc. inspite of the indisputable fact that, in case you'll bypass by existence consistently blaming somebody else for the undesirable state you're in now then you truthfully will in no way climb out of that pit you're in. it truly is as a lot as YOU what you do with something of YOUR existence. If others are nevertheless attempting to impact you in techniques you don't like then get rid of your self from their presence. have not something (or the minimum achievable) to do with those human beings Make new friends and friends and end allowing the previous to administration your present and shrink to rubble your destiny.

Answer 4

Dude, come on. Here's the deal. If you want to have sex with mulitple women on one day or more than one day, then why would you get married in the first place. Why would stand before an alter, or in a church/temple, in front of a bishop/priest, and above all God, make sacred promises of faith, honor, trust, loyalty, and, then, break them all. Seems rather contradictory. Even more confusing, would be the couples that go to these parties together. I am not sure why it is called swinging, why don't they call HPV spreading. If you don't know what that is, you will, it's an STD.

Don't call me old-fashioned or republican or fundamentalist christian or any of those things. that is not the issue. i am speaking for the woman you want to "swing" with. woman get HPV and that increases their risk for cervical cancer, but doesn't do much of anything to you. i am also speaking for core values of being a human, and that includes, treating others with respect and love.

simply, don't do it.

Answer 5

Swingers are a dying breed thanks to the proliferation of A.I.D.S.

Once it was a "male thing" to be on the prowl, bagging chicks and boasting about exploitations at bars among "friends".

Now it's become more advantageous to find one hen and roost with her as a team.

Times change, people adapt to those changes.

Answer 6

Its natural. going back in history people always had more than one partner.

papa bear I liked your answer...

Answer 7

me and my husband have wanted to try but are scared. i'd like to know more too.

Answer 8

It is nasty and something bored couples do when they have no respect for eachother and no spark in their relationship

Answer 9

Jealousy ruins it.

Answer 10

it's when you give your wife up for scroggin' and you scrog someone else's wife.

don't get married if you like to screw around