I am a 29 year old male. My wife and I have been married for 5 years and we have a 2 year old son together. I want to file for divorce. Just looking for information and advice from anyone who has been through it.
2007-01-01 16:51:13 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
There are different laws regarding divorce in the states.
It depends on the circumstances and legalities on whether it is going to be complicated and expensive.
http://www.divorcenet.com/
Good luck.
2007-01-01 16:54:51 · answer #1 · answered by bandd 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, it can be simple or become very complicated. Have you talked to your wife about this at all? If she is agreeable to the divorce and agrees with custody solution of your son, - you can write down your settlement terms. Take it to one lawyer, the lawyer puts it through the courts and 60 days latter your divorced.
But if she is angry and hurt, she may get her own lawyer. Custody battles are costly.
Two lawyers not so bad if both are agreeable to the divorce.
If it turns into a knock out drag out fight - your talking a lot of money.
You have to pay a court fee to have the divorce filed- that is an up front cost. Shop around for a divorce lawyer - how much do they charge an hour. You have to file in the county where you live.
Find out how the courts usually rule in your county (more for the woman or man)
This will help you to plan the steps you take in getting your divorce.
If your not wanting custody of your son. Make sure you get visitations, joint custody down the way you want in writing. medical coverage, child support, how are decisions to be made about child's schooling etc.
And don't become a drop out Dad. You are very important in your son's life. He will need you more than ever once the divorce is final. Good luck.
2007-01-01 17:14:12 · answer #2 · answered by Lynn B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As with many things it depends on the state that you file for a divorce in. It also depends on whether or not it would be uncontested (would she fight you for anything such as personal property, custody of your son, etc). It is always cheaper when there are not as many legal complications such as personal property to be fought over and divided. And child custody...that can make the cost rise tremendously. It would probably be alot easier if you sit down and talk to her about everything before you consult an attorney and see what kind of agreement you can come to and then when you hire a lawyer then you have some terms that you and her have come to to lay in front of him. Helps and might make the fees not quite as bad. Most attorneys here charge a MINIMUM of $500.00 to handle a divorce and then you have filing fees and court costs which vary by states and even counties.
Good luck to you both!
2007-01-01 16:59:05 · answer #3 · answered by sarteaga1970 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Unless you have very good reason, do not divorce. Try all avenues first with a child involved. If you are worried about money and complications, you ain't see nothing yet when it costs you for your child perhaps getting messed up due to a bad home life- being shuttled around, no mom at home; fights etc. And that is also extremely complicated. Most of my children's (one is 18 and other 21) friends are from divorce families and I have yet to see any happy endings. The kids are unhappy, (many have been here crying over their home life w/o dad and step mom and step children etc.), the leaver is unhappy. He/she just traded their problems for another set of problems- and perhaps more so b/c of the extra baggage from both sides. The one who is left has to raise the child(ren) and has to deal many more problems than if not left- in most instances. You signed out for the 18 years while the children were home and again unless it is unbearable. try to work it out. It gets easier if you try to work together. Good luck.
2007-01-01 17:16:31 · answer #4 · answered by angelina123 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
These are the ground for divorce, if u have one of these, shudnt be very complicate dto get one...
GROUNDS FOR DIVORCE
A petition for divorce may be presented by either the husband or wife for dissolving the marriage on the following grounds:
That the other party
1.
has after the marriage had voluntary sexual intercourse with any other person; or
2.
has after the marriage treated the petitioner with cruelty
3.
has deserted the petitioner for a continuous period of not less than two years immediately preceding the presentation of the petition,
4.
has ceased to be a Hindu by conversion to another religion,
5.
has been incurably of unsound mind or has been continuously or intermittently from a mental disorder that the petitioner cannot reasonably be expected to live with such a person,
6.
has been suffering from a virulent and incurable form of leprosy,
7.
has been suffering from venereal disease in a communicable form
8.
has renounced the world by entering any religious order.
9.
Has not been heard of as being alive for a period of seven years or more by persons who would have naturally heard of it, had that party been alive.
2007-01-01 17:10:11 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
yes and yes.
its complicated because the two of you wont always agree, and the emotions will be flying. Its very costly. Lawyers run $200 an hour or more and its good to have one if the two of you dont get along. Your best bet is when filing you put irreconilable differences.
My situation may scare you-
filed in oct. 2006 had to pay $2500 retainer fee and he is $200p/hr. The filing costs are included in the retainer.
he hired a lawyer $3500 retainer fee that is $350p/hr and has spent $8000 and has "lost" so far on his demands and has fired his attorney already and is going to attempt to represent himself on our next court date.
The first meeting is an emergency order for child custody and support. Go for whats called a 5-2-2-5 plan, its about as 50/50 visitation as you can get. Support is based on both incomes. If you make more, you will pay her even with 50/50 custody. Vice versa. that goes with spousal maintenance too. Also, deciding where to live is in the first meeting. One may have to pay the other $$ to help get into a place.
During this first meeting there with be character destroying, try to avoid it because you will just be paying more money (remember, your paying by the hour) save character issues for the 2nd court date, not the temporary hearing.
My ex has paid $8000, owes my lawyer $2500. Had to pay me $1500 to relocate, and is in charge of family debt for now. It started in Oct. and its now the start of Jan.
It wont be as bad if you two can seriously agree on everything: custody, support, spousal support, property dividing...
good luck, we all need it.
2007-01-01 17:29:44 · answer #6 · answered by dianek 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You want advice? Well here it is... "It's cheaper to keep her". Because you left no info on why you want to divorce this woman (Which is none of our business any way) This is the best advice I can give you. You said that the two of you have a two year old son, Well he needs his parents together. I don't know your situation, But if you have not tried to fix the "problem", That should be your first move. Good luck...
2007-01-01 17:33:11 · answer #7 · answered by egreen3rd 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I haven't gone through it and don't ever plan to, but I think it is complicated, especially if you've married in the church. I think the consequences are far more damaging than if you stayed. I've learned that many people who consider divorce and have actually done it, are now more miserable than they would be if they had stayed married - ESPECIALLY if there are children involved. Personally, I think many problems in marriage can almost always be resolved, with the help of your faith.
2007-01-01 17:03:24 · answer #8 · answered by kakolikapiha 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't know about difficult but it is really costly my sister is going through a divorce and it's going to cost her $600 to get it done but that's in Missouri it may be more or less where ever you live.
2007-01-01 16:55:40 · answer #9 · answered by neckbone2008 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It can be costly and complicated or relatively easy and not so costly...it all depends on how easy it is for the two of you to agree on everything like division of assets, custody, visitation, child support etc.....the more you can decide on your own and upfront...the less you will have to pay lawyers to fight it out for you...good luck...
2007-01-01 16:55:03 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋