and even the thought of it haunts me ..should i tell this to my bf??
2007-01-01 16:48:33 · 15 answers · asked by unknown 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Hi little a, I like totally understand where you are coming from. I was around nine years old when I was being sexually molested by a friend/coworker of my mother's who actually lived with us. After the first couple of times I finally worked up enough courage to tell my mom, my best friend and she threw him out that afternoon. However she never told my father and so he was able to come back and when he did soon after he started abusing me all over again, only this time he took my virginity away when I was 11 years old. Things went on like that for a while until I came foward at 14. I blamed myself for years to but you were a minor, a child that didn't know any better and this guy knew that because you were so young that you were gullible enough to believe pretty much any and everything he said and probably rewarded you. Honey, it is too late to press charges on this guy now...that is something you should've done long ago. I'm a mandated reporter and by law I know I'm required to report such things, but only when there is proof and if it is in good faith. There is nothing I can do on my end cause it was so long ago. As for telling your boyfriend, I wouldn't unless you really want to and if you do tell him then I strongly urge you to bare in mind that he might leave you. Some boys are like that once they find stuff like that out, dunno. Please learn to forgive yourself and the perpetrater as well and put it all behind you.
2007-01-01 21:51:55 · answer #1 · answered by chris a 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He only tried so forget about it and get on with your life. No, don't tell your boyfriend. Stop thinking about it because nothing happened other than the "try". Do you not realize how many things are yet to happen to you in your life and it is only you that can control that? Sorry, but I've been thru a whole lot in my life and if things were only tried on me I wouldn't have even worried about it. Street smarts rule so get smart and stop crying over something that didn't happen.
2007-01-01 17:06:30 · answer #2 · answered by Maggie 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, you need to tell, talk to someone that is experinced in handling this kind of trama...If you do not work through your feelings it will be harder to go on with a normal life..You should have told before, and I know that is a hard thing to do, especially for a child..And the way people make you feel when you are trying to go through that...Just try to work through it and tell everyone you want to. It happened and that will help you deal with it and make it known that you did not like that at all.....
2007-01-01 16:57:51 · answer #3 · answered by Brenda Soooooooooooooooooooooooo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What for? Honestly theres no reason to unless it affects you sexually or in a way that makes it hard for you to be intamite in any way. I was raped a few years ago by and ex bf. I still have times were this really bothers me and i confessed it to a ex bf. (granted not every man will do this but this one did) he always threw it up in my face and used it to make himself look better. My point though its really hard to confess stuff like to someone you care about it makes it akward they could take it wrong possibly use it to make u feel bad and many other things. I would just not bring it up. I can say here i was raped cause i know no one on her but i never talk bout it in my everyday life. for one its to hard and two people always look at u diffrent. my advice save that stuff for your shrink not ur bf!
2007-01-01 17:08:21 · answer #4 · answered by fine_ass_fatty21 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As long as your not doing anything wrong and you are being like an not creepy older brother than there might not be nothing wrong with them. It's just the parents misunderstand you and not a lot of people your age hang out with kids.
2016-05-23 05:10:02 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, you should tell your parents. Your bf isn't going to be able to help you with this. You need to seek help that only adults can offer.
2007-01-01 16:54:05 · answer #6 · answered by CyndiDrum 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My dear the image of a girl is made up of glass and if you expose it publicly, it may harm your status. That encounter was a nightmare so forget that.
2007-01-01 17:01:23 · answer #7 · answered by raj303 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. What are you expecting him to do? Beat the guy up? Feel sorry for you? Think you are so irresistible that men can't keep their hands off of you even if is illegal?
2007-01-01 16:52:51 · answer #8 · answered by lily 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Why tell your bf when you can tell someone who can put him to jail so he doesnt harm another person!
2007-01-01 16:53:02 · answer #9 · answered by rainwater153 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why not tell? Maybe talking about it will help you get some closure.
2007-01-01 17:01:27 · answer #10 · answered by freeme529 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋