my bf is warm by nature. he embraces people and likes and get to know them at a personal level. ever since he met one of my girlfriends, i've had the feeling he's attracted to her and vice versa. I've sensed that she seeks his attention (her body language). what bothers me is that my man gives her the attention. he can't help but stare at her and her every move with such intensity that I feel uncomfortable. He also tends to swallow all she says like it is the absolute truth. It is like he is mesmerized by her when she is around and that makes me doubt that he loves me. Over many conversations he told me she was very feminine, very attractive, very smart, very sensitive, very everything. I confronted him about him being attracted to the gf because of the way he looks at her and likes to quote her, but he denied it and said it was a crazy idea; that he saw her as family. I am wondering if my insecurities are making me jealous or he is at some level attracted to her and what to do?
2007-01-01 16:48:16 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
stop them from seeing each other talk to your gf...worst comes to worst do the same thing with one of his friends to make him jealous and feel the way you do...
2007-01-01 16:51:26 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You say he's very warm and personal with everyone......you aren't complaining that he's like that with other girls. If that were the case, then I would say you were just being insecure or jealous. But it is only THIS girl that is bothering you, and since you know him best, then I'd say you probably have reason to feel the way you do. People who consider each other "family" don't sit around gushing about how attractive they think the other is.
Now just because we get in relationships doesn't mean we will NEVER be attracted to another person. There's nothing wrong with that. He hasn't necessarily done anything, and if he did, then that would be a betrayal on your friend's part as well. His attraction to another person is not something that would, by itself, have to ruin your relationship. Now that you've told him what you are worried about, and he knows it bothers you, you're going to have to see what comes of it. If he continues to act so smitten with her, then he either has stronger feelings for her than he admits, or he isn't very sympathetic to your feelings. Either way, that's no good for you, and you would probably be better off without that drama. But if he is respectful of your feelings, and he genuinely makes it a point to avoid letting his acquaintance with one of YOUR friends come between you, then give him the benefit of the doubt, let it go, and be happy with him.
2007-01-01 17:19:54 · answer #2 · answered by dragonlady 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
While it is natural to be attracted to other people, it sounds like your bf is just in denial. I don't mean to sound like he wants to be with her and not you, but maybe it's just a little crush and he doesn't want to make a big deal about it by admitting anything. Just tell him that the flirtatious behavior really bothers you and if he's any kind of boyfriend he'll understand. If that doesn't help, you'll need to come to an agreement or the relationship will never work. No one should have to feel like their partner is flirting right in front of them. Good luck and I hope this helps.
2007-01-01 16:58:58 · answer #3 · answered by BogusSting 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like he has a crush on her a bit. I wouldn't worry about it too much. He hasn't done anything with her yet, so don't jump to any conclusions until something actually happens. That said though, he should see this upsets you, and he should respect you by not getting so emotionally close to this other girl. It is OK to feel insecure about this, anyone with a heart would. If they grow closer together than there will be a problem, but if they drift apart you know that he loves you. Good luck
2007-01-01 16:55:38 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He most likely is attracted to her - Old saying goes for a man in a relationship - You can look at the menu but you can't order. I'd be careful but be affectionate to him when she is around you two, when he starts to run off saying he has to work late or family iis out of town well then start to worry - Confront her about it and just watch for REAL signs he is cheating
2007-01-01 16:53:07 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-12-01 10:22:32 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he obviously has some attraction to her. I am a guy and there is no way a guy is that friendly to a girl, especially after you confronted him about it. Tell him you would like him to not be so friendly. If he doesn't like her and he likes you it won't be a big deal. If he flips out then this dude isnt worth your time. Also if he continues start being friendly towards another guy, see how he likes it. Tell him that is how you feel. Hopefully this works and I wish you luck.
2007-01-01 16:52:50 · answer #7 · answered by Todd 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl, it sounds to me like youre on the right track. Listen to your gut. Have you mentioned your feelings to your gf?? That might be a good idea. Do you trust you guy? I mean, REALLY trust him??? I wish I had some other advice for you but I dont. Each relationship is different, so you have to be the judge of whats going on. But dont let either of them take advantage of you. If you have told your guy that his gestures make you uncomfortable and he hasn't lightened up, then i think that pretty much speaks for itself. Good luck.
2007-01-01 16:55:02 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
try testing your relationship while not hurting it also... find ways to be dessisive and take note of every reaction when he meets your friend.
I think he might be seeing her secretly from you... treachery while blinded by love uno what i mean. If you feel that there is a gap between you two and you feel as if he is not happy, AND, when it seems as if your guy is showing off this unpredictable attraction with your friend, then this might be a sign of treachery... KEEP YOUR EYES OPEN.
2007-01-01 16:57:16 · answer #9 · answered by Caribou 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He may be telling the truth about the family thing, but I would also make sure things stay that way I would just extra notice sometimes how they intereact and stuff. Does he call her or she call him? .
2007-01-01 16:53:16 · answer #10 · answered by apple1212 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋