If I were you, I would try to be friends with the girl first. Don't just go up to here and say, "Hello. My name is____, I really like you would you be my girlfriend?" Some girls find that weird, but some don't. I wouldn't take any chances with it. First become friends, then try to be best friends. Then lay it on her. Try this method out for a month or 2 months. But if you don't want to do this, puck up the courage and just ask her. It's always worth a try.
2007-01-01 16:52:48
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answered by simmyside 1
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Being a bit bashful isn't harmful, but if you're so desperately shy it affects your social life, you may need to take a few brave steps to put some dates on your social calendar.
Instructions
* STEP 1: Understand that being surprised with a Valentine's invitation may trigger your shyness. Think positively about a prospective invitation.
* STEP 2: Relax. If someone is asking you about a Valentine's Day date or party, you can be sure he or she is interested in you.
* STEP 3: Take a deep breath and make eye contact, at least briefly.
* STEP 4: Concentrate on speaking slowly and clearly.
* STEP 5: Keep your answers short, simple, direct and polite.
* STEP 6: Be encouraging and positive.
* STEP 7: Remember, there's no need to extend the conversation. Simply smile and say, "Yes, I'd like that," if you're invited on a Valentine date.
* STEP 8: Smile. Often other people confuse being shy with being aloof.
* STEP 9: Use your shyness. Be a good listener. Listeners are always popular.
* STEP 10: Remember that part of what makes you feel shy is not knowing what to say. Ask questions about the other person instead.
* STEP 11: Practice a few conversation starters, perhaps something from the world of sports or entertainment.
* STEP 12: Take some small steps first. Meet for coffee. Have lunch together in the company cafeteria.
* STEP 13: Ask your prospective valentine to call before the date. Chatting on the telephone can break the ice, and you won't be so shy on the date itself.
* STEP 14: Suggest an alternative activity if the date seems overwhelming.
Tips & Warnings
* Act as you want to be seen. Stand up straight. Try to maintain eye contact. Speak up without speaking too loudly. Smile, smile, smile.
* Shy people often fit in better than they perceive. Shy people listen more than they talk, and that's a plus in nearly any social situation.
* When shyness consistently interferes with normal social activities or employment opportunities, it may be time to consider counseling.
* Alcohol may make you feel less shy, but it can also make you look terribly foolish.
2007-01-02 01:37:24
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answered by Anonymous
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howold are you sweetie? SOunds like middle school, sorry if i'm wrong. Just keep doing what you're doing. If you feel like youre gonna say something stupid, try to come up with a "script" to start out with. something to talk about that might interest her. If you still feel like she's too much for you, hang back for a while until you can check out what she likes, find out who she really is from people who know her, etc. It may very be that she's really not someone you want to be with...just be careful, i know when i was in school, kids were totally mean and if you don't get this right, it's one more thing to worry about (and for the boys to make fun of you) i know that isn't the best answer, but i think taking your time and just trying to be her friend first would work the best. I have found that my best relationships come from good friendships
2007-01-02 00:52:22
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answered by kim 2
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write a love letter secretly place it from her things. dont forget to put secret admirer
2007-01-02 00:51:23
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answered by bryan_closa 3
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