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Question

my partner and I lost a baby a year ago to a late miscarriage... we have been trying to get pregnant ever since... we have tried all sorts of ovulation things like calendars and have tried out the tests... we have sex the days i am fertile and nothing is working! is there any positions or foods or something you can do to get pregnant??? it is kind of a silly question but we are looking forward to having a baby soon! thank you!

the doctor told me though that i should be ok to try again... do u think something could be wrong with me?

Answer 1

If something were wrong i am sure the doctor would tell you. Your mind could be playing tricks on your body by you possibly still grieving for the loss of your pregnancy.


How to get Pregnant Faster – Top Ten Tips

1. Have sex three times a week.

Having regular sex is the best way to get pregnant. Couples often try to time everything perfectly for ovulation but do not have sex when they think they are not ovulating. It is true that sex that is not within the time of ovulation will not result in pregnancy. However, because women do not always ovulate when they think they will, having sex three times a week will help to a woman cover her bases, so to speak, and not miss an opportunity to get pregnant.
2. Use an ovulation prediction kit or fertility monitor.

Using an ovulation kit to predict when you are ovulating will improve your chances of getting pregnant. For many women charting or other methods of ovulation prediction are too confusing. Ovulation prediction kits work by reading LH surges prior to ovulation. They are relatively easy to use and are generally accurate for predicting ovulation. Fertility monitors, such as the Clear Blue Easy monitor, are also a worthwhile investment if you would like to get pregnant faster. Fertility monitors are similar to ovulation prediction kits in that they read changes in LH but they also read changes in other hormones and don’t require any guesswork for couples. They are easy to use and will tell you when the best time to get pregnant is.

3. Have sex before ovulation (not after).

Sometimes couples get confused about the best time to have sex in relationship to ovulation. You have a small window of time each month to get pregnant. After a woman ovulates the egg will survive approximately 24 hours. Sperm, on the other hand, will live for up to three to five days. This is why having sex two to three days before ovulation will increase your chances of getting pregnant. Don’t wait until the day you ovulate to have sex. Your partner’s sperm will last longer than your egg and you don’t want to miss an opportunity by waiting.

4. Don’t rely on the Calendar method for predicting ovulation.

A lot of couples have heard to have sex around day fourteen of your cycle. This is based on the calendar method and assumes that you have a regular 28-day cycle and ovulate mid-cycle. Although this is better than just picking an arbitrary day to have sex, it is not a very accurate way to predict when you ovulate. Many women do not ovulate on day fourteen and knowing precisely when you ovulate will help you time intercourse better. Ovulation prediction kits, looking at previous months bbt charts, or watching for body cues will help you to determine when you ovulate.

5. Charting may not be the best way to predict ovulation.

Charting is great for tracking your cycle but it does have disadvantages. By the time you can see ovulation on a bbt chart, you have already ovulated. It is good to chart so you can track your cycles, see if you ovulate the same time each month, and also so you can look back on your cycle and see if you timed things right. But if this is your first cycle trying to get pregnant or if you are not ovulating at the same time each month, an ovulation prediction kit would be more helpful.

6. See a doctor before you start trying to get pregnant.
Make sure you are in good health and have had a regular check up from your OBGYN or medical provider. Untreated infections, sexually transmitted diseases, or poor health can affect your chances of getting pregnant. Its good to see a doctor as well as start taking prenatal vitamins prior to trying to conceive.

7. Don’t smoke, drink alcohol, or abuse drugs when trying to get pregnant.
This may seem like common sense but many women do try to get pregnant while smoking, drinking or using drugs. Smoking, drugs, and alcohol can affect your fertility. It will also affect your unborn child. It is important to stop smoking or using drugs and alcohol before getting pregnant and not wait until you find out you are pregnant.

8. Have enjoyable sex.

Sometimes when couples are trying to conceive, sex becomes a job or function of reproduction and is not as enjoyable. Plan a romantic evening or try something different to spice things up. How you are feeling sexually may factor into your chances of getting pregnant. Some researchers believe that having an orgasm during sex increases your chances of getting pregnant. For women, the spasmic movements of orgasm will help pull the sperm into the uterus and for men a better orgasm may increase the man’s sperm count.

9. Have sex in positions that keep sperm inside the vagina longer.

The missionary position is a good position to use when trying to get pregnant. Avoid positions where the woman is on top. Gravity will allow sperm to leak out with these positions. Also try placing a pillow under your hips to help tilt your pelvis and keep the sperm in longer. Don’t get up right after sex. Try to relax and allow the sperm to stay in the vagina as long as possible.

10. There is no such thing as trying too hard to get pregnant.
Most couples get pregnant within a year of trying. If you have not gotten pregnant within a year consult your doctor for advice.
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Good luck and so sorry for your loss

Answer 2

It will happen when the time is right. A friend of mine lost her baby at 8 months pregnant. She did not conceive until two years after the loss. Now she looks back and knows that she was not healed enough from the loss to have a healthy pregnancy. It will happen when the time is right and when you and your partner are healthy and at peace with the loss.

Answer 3

well beyond talking to a doctor which is your best option always my cousin contributes the fact that she got pregnant at all to standing on her head after every time she had sex. for like 10 mins or as long as she could stand. it may just be sillyness. but she was having probs too and has a baby boy now. and a guy once told me that eating large green olives would help you concieve. something in the olives. good luck!

Answer 4

well, probaby you are too stressed.
If you or your partner don't have any fertility problems then you just have to take it easy.
I found a herbal supplement called fertilaid (www.fertilaid.co) I haven't tried it myself yet but looking forward to.
Good luck!

Answer 5

Go on vacation. If you're thinking about conceiving then you won't be doing it because of your jangled nerves. Get out, relax, and make a little magic. We have four children....and all were made on vacation or at business conventions. lol. good luck.

Answer 6

Um...there isnt really any magic to it...it can just be there is something wrong with your ovaries or something that wont let you produce babies..OR it can be his sperm or something..but since you had a miscarriage it might be you :/ <3

Answer 7

Try doing it doggy style. Wait one day after your period stops. Then have sex.

Answer 8

have sex every night?

Answer 9

talk to a doctor maybe?