2007-01-01 16:06:20 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You don't end a long relationship on the first try. It doesn't happen. Everyone puts on their old comfortable shoes when they get scared.
2007-01-01 16:21:35 · answer #1 · answered by Xxar 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Never in a million frickin years. I'm friends with my first ex, but would never consider getting back together.
My second ex that I was married to for 21 years, can't stand, don't even like to see him. Been divorced for 7 years.
I figure, if you didn't make it the first time, what makes you think the second time is gonna be any better? I always said that it would be a divorce, not a seperation where you go screw around til you get it out of your system and then come back to the best thing that you ever had.
I would never take an ex husband back. I know many people do and I personally think that they are crazy. When it's over, it's over in my book!!!
2007-01-02 08:09:00 · answer #2 · answered by Karen H 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know that you may think my advise is ridiculous, but I think that you should both go see a counsel er..This will help you guys get all your feelings sorted out that way old feelings will not come in to play in a heated argument.. What is the worst that can happen? Both of you could find out that you want to be with each other and you can understand how the other feels..You may both figure out how to become better people together..You both could figure out its for the best if you do not stay together and understand how to get over each other in a healthy manner..Either way their was a reason you guys split up in the first place, so examine that before you make another mistake..Life is too short to waist the little time you have here!
2007-01-02 00:28:14 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
So many people get back together with someone and they only think about the "good things" that they remember, not the reasons they left. There is a reason you broke up and that reason is still there.
I have never seen it work out. You may have better luck at it than in my experiences, but like I said, don't ever forget why it didn't work out. Don't forget all the bad stuff. I bet right now you are just thinking about the good stuff, but that isn't all of it.
Be careful and be warned.
2007-01-02 00:21:56 · answer #4 · answered by ♥ Sarah Bear ♥ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I met Kenny and after 2 years I thought he was "the one". He got into crack so that ended it right there for me the first time. He supposedly quit smoking and got himself right and it seemed like he got back to the same person I met and fell in love with. So we got back together and the same thing happened again. I moved almost 200 miles away (for job reasons) and we tried to have a long distance relationship until he could move down here with me. Promises promises about "I'm over that shitt" etc. Didn't work out. I could tell when I talked to him on the phone he was smoking that shitt so that's the end of my tale. Now I have a great man in my life and I will just have to wait and see what comes of it. Good Luck to you in all your endeavors whatever they may be and Happy New Year and God bless you always!
2007-01-02 00:21:32 · answer #5 · answered by Maggie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It never worked for me. I always in time forget all the reasons I left a girl. I look back and think we were great together why would I leave her? After your back together for awhile it's like oh yeah I remember why were not together. Once you break up stick to it. It's best for both people
2007-01-02 00:23:02 · answer #6 · answered by Eric C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've never been re-attracted to anyone to want to try to make a go of it the second time around. I think if it doesn't work the first time, it probably isn't going to work the 2nd time either.
2007-01-02 00:14:15 · answer #7 · answered by CyndiDrum 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There's usually a reason it didn't work the first time, and it's easy to forget or think it won't happen again. Do what you want, but I would have a serious talk about everything that went wrong the first round before I got in too deep again.
2007-01-02 00:14:30 · answer #8 · answered by spitonapit 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you get help from a marriage counselor or pastor AND do not sleep together for 30 days
AND
talk seriously about # children/when
job-who and what
in-laws and boundaries
spending debts brought into new relationship/c.crds/retirement
sex
Then you have a good chance.
2007-01-02 00:24:40 · answer #9 · answered by Joe Cool 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hubby and I broke up for 10 months, that was 12 years ago. We are still together now.
2007-01-02 01:06:00 · answer #10 · answered by Lochie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋