my 14 year old son refuses to wear boxers or briefs. while i know everyone has their own preference he really needs to wear something. i have a 4 year daughter who walks up to me asking what that is in his pants. i've tried explaining to him why it's important to wear them, but he just doesn't get it. my husband even talked to him about it. anyone have any suggestion on how to get him to wear something under his pants? he doesn't wear jeans much, it's usually those slick, thin pants. makes it obvious theres something there that she doesn't have.
2007-01-01 15:46:39 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
Well it is normal for her to be curious and that she should know that she is a girl and that he is a boy and that boys are built different...this is the time that it is good to start a healthy relationship with your daughter.
With you 14 yr old you need to take him to a dr have them explain what the extra protection is good for, like making sure that when the hot girl walks by in class or bums him a little too close he doesn't get a little too excited too easily, or that the germs that are airborn doen't "land" where he may not be the most hygenic and pass along things that no one wants. I think the whole errection part of puberty may be a thing that may need to be addressed. You or you husband my need to have a frank conversation about sex and masterbation....this is the age where things get tricky so if you don't want to lose control over the situation but to maintain control remember what it was like when you were young and how embarassing things were for you and remember to keep it light and level headed.
2007-01-01 15:57:14 · answer #1 · answered by lissame3 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should re-read your question and realize what a fool you sound like. Maybe take some parenting classes. If your child is 14 and you have absolutely no control over his behavior and actions, you are headed down a very long road of heartache and trouble. As the mother of a boy only 14, dating women over 21, you should be calling the cops. Where is your dignity? Confront the older women and tell them to crawl back under the rock they came from. Really, what would a 21 year old woman have in common with a 14 year old, what would they talk about, where would he possibly take her for a date, to the park? Do you laugh when him and his friends say "he has been banging women since he was 10" because how would he know what to do at age 10, unless his environment is that corrupt. You are teaching him to be disrespectful, to have no self worth and he has a lifetime ahead of him. I hope you all go for some help.
2016-03-29 04:01:36 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
based on the above, you people are really are going to fight him on this. This is a PHASE, he will change (either the zipper will do it or it will be pointed out to him by someone else). He may even want to show off.
You told him how you as a parent feel. Provide him with options that he he wear, by either buying different types other then just boxers and briefs for him or giving him some $$ to buy them himself (he may want to try something different).
Fight the war not the small battles. You can win on this but he may fight harder on more dangerous confrontations.
2007-01-02 06:49:11 · answer #3 · answered by dillon Y 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know if this will work, nor do I really know if this would be good to reccomend, but it might be worth a try, and at the very least, it might give him a very good reason to change his ways.
Tell your daughter that you don't know what is under his pants, and that maybe she should go over to him and touch his pants and report back to you what she discovers. Make sure that you are watching when she goes to do this because you don't want your son to react too harshly to her. I'll bet your son will not be too fond of the idea, and that might just convince him that wearing underwear is a good idea. ;-) Of course, if your son likes it, maybe he can do the explaining for you.
I am a guy, and I had no sisters growing up, but I understand that it is not uncommon for brothers and sisters to occasionally "fool around" a little. Just make sure they don't go too far in the process.
I wish you the best of luck.
2007-01-01 22:07:25 · answer #4 · answered by G A 5 · 0⤊ 3⤋
Ewh. Use negative reinfocment. Perhaps some sort of punsihment (not harsh of course) if the talk didn't work. He really needs to wear underwear, and by the sounds of it he sounds a little stuborn to the idea. It may be the only way.
2007-01-02 21:26:55 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i really dunno wht 2 say!!! try asking a conseller 2 help r ask him 2 say whts his problem openly after all ur his parent coz iam not sure if he is so against it maybe something happened in his childhood tht got him scared or something bad maybe embarrased due to underwear just guessing try 2 solve it soon its important i can understand how u must be feeling tht too as a parent u should have forced as a kid now at this age boys especially dont listen.
2007-01-01 20:27:50 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
ROTFLMAO!!!!! I'm 16 and I have no problem wearing boxers or briefs. Tell him you'll raise his allowance if he does. The part about your daughter was pretty funny.
2007-01-01 18:09:20 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh Lord, sounds like my life. Let me know what you find out! Good luck! I have a 15 yr old boy & 3 (almost 4) yr old girl.
2007-01-01 15:49:37 · answer #8 · answered by wondering... 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
tell him to wear regular gym shorts under his pants
2007-01-01 15:50:26 · answer #9 · answered by froggymommy 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are the parent so you should demand that he wear one. That should be a rule in the household.
2007-01-01 21:08:54 · answer #10 · answered by greenstar 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋