My man is being forced into meeting his father's wench of a gf that he started dating immediately after my man's mother died. It makes no sense, and his father has not ONCE listened to his cries and requests for his life to remain seperate from that instance. I dont understand why his father does a 180 and treats me like crap but then ten seconds later OBVIOUSLY pretends to do something nice with obvious motive and trying to guilt. he is heartless and is trying to ruin my man and me for no da** reason. What do we do? How can we try to keep our lives seperate from his and get him to realize that his son deserves a chance to mourn and grieve without being forced into something ridiculous. He also told me once before privately "I dont understand why a 22 year old boy cares whether or not he has a relationship with his father. His mother died, he needs to get over it and move on." but then doesnt even care about his relationship with his son, but forces his caniving gf on him. help
2007-01-01 15:41:16 · 3 answers · asked by overwhelmed85 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Your man is looking for a connection in his grief. It would be a good idea for him to stand his ground and not meet her. His father should be more understanding and not so self indulged. You need to support him. Don't let him give in after all shes a girlfriend it might not even last.The father is dealing with his grief in an awkward way by having a girlfriend and forcing her on his son. He probably thinks he can help his son to get over his mothers death by accepting this gf. With the fathers behavior being so strange you need to think if this is the best time for him to be in your lives.Good luck and be strong
2007-01-01 17:34:42 · answer #1 · answered by fabulosity 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your BF needs to be a MAN and tell his father that all people grieve differently and that he (your BF) needs time to heal before he can accept that his father has moved on. Also his father may not realize that your BF feels that that the father has disrepected the mom by getting a GF so soon.
maybe your BF needs to stay away from his Dad for awhile.
Good Luck
2007-01-01 23:47:46 · answer #2 · answered by Cindy B 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He needs to stand up for himself. Your man still loves and grieves for his mother.
2007-01-02 00:27:51 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋