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As in sarcastic remarks after I ask him to something...example
me..."can you take the trash out"
him..."yeah I get right on that" in sarcastic tone.
I have told him this bothers me and its my number one peeve, but he doesnt care, I also do not want my son to talk back to me and since he is a boy he will take after his dad...what should I say or do?

2007-01-01 15:34:32 · 26 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships Marriage & Divorce

26 answers

i bet when u ask him, u are coming off like a controling b i t c h, cuz from what i read thats what i perceived. most women anytime they ask their man to do something it's more like an order than a request. do u ever say please and thanks or is do it now and thats it. he is probably tired of your controling ways and the sarcasim is easier than a full blown arguement. and as far as your son is concerned, how about your negative influence on him. i guess u want him to grow up to be spinelss and p u s s y wooped like u are trying to do to his dad. i say good for dad and keep up the good work, MAN UP

2007-01-01 16:40:40 · answer #1 · answered by keithy 3 · 0 1

Your husband got caught up in the moment with his infidelity, you set out to intentional hurt him, or so you say. I've been at this for almost 20 years and you did what you've always wanted to do and with a guy you already had your eye on. You didn't use your affair as "revenge". your play was cold and calculated, and half way started before you ever knew he cheated. As a result you husband has done the one thing men can do when they get hurt, shut down emotionally towards you. The chance that you will recover from this is slim, very slim. In fact only 1 in 80 marriages will make it past female infidelity. The fact that he thinks you set out to hurt him makes it even tougher. He will never see you as the same, no matter what he says. Now his mindset is to punish you everyday. What you did was horrible, but you already know that. Honestly the only thing you can do is hang in there and hope he comes around, not likely, or move on. Be prepared if you choose the second. He will have a replacement for you in a matter of weeks. It will be a point of no return. Now, if you want any chance of making it work you have to 1) take ownership of your affair. This mean not blaming it on his one night stand. Which you and I both know isn't true. 2) allow him time to heal, and do whatever he asks of you. Answer all his questions openly and honestly. 3) stop putting pressure on him to be with you sexually. Simple do thinks that you know he finds sex and wait for him to make the move. He will at some point. I can help you more in depth it you would like to email me though yahoo Good luck

2016-05-23 05:00:34 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

Quite frankly, he will not stop unless you make it clear it's unacceptable.

You need to get into some counseling and he needs a male role model that's decent. How was the relationship among his parents? He sounds a bit sexist. Is that the way you want to live...probably not! I'm glad you are thinking of the example that's being set for your son.

Insist on counseling and get some really good books from the library or Barnes & Nobles. The longer that disrespectful behavior goes on - the worse it will get. You don't want him diminishing you bc that will erode your relationship over time and will ultimately kill the relationship. You want an equal and respectful partnership, so you must work on it together - there is no other option.

2007-01-01 15:53:21 · answer #3 · answered by Lake Lover 6 · 0 0

Maybe you might want to consider taking the trash out yourself, the last time I looked there was no warning on the box about a woman taking out the trash. It seems to me that there is more energy being used up in attitude than would be expended if you just did it yourself. When you are married the chores should be shared, not dictated. Consider your tone when asking, consider timing, and most of all keep in mind that all problems in a relationship have two points of view. You should put yourself in the other persons shoes, and consider your reaction to being asked to do the same task in the same situation, if you would get short with him for asking you to do the same thing, then don't ask.

2007-01-01 15:46:41 · answer #4 · answered by Alan Winans 4 · 0 1

Men may be misplaced, forgotten or misdirected, but in the heart of every man is a desperate desire for...
a battle to fight,
an adventure to live,
and a beauty to rescue.

Taking the trash out is a weak adventure.

You can't change him. He needs a new dream. All you can do is respect him and love him regardless of how he reacts. You will soften his heart.

2007-01-01 16:02:49 · answer #5 · answered by John 2 · 0 0

wow! That's really serious if your young son is witnessing that. No man EVER should speak to his beloved that way. IF he does he damn well should make sure you know it's just a joke and follow up with your simple request. My ex would have a fit if I asked him to participate just a little around the house. Your son deserves to see his mother treated with respect. If he witnesses the kind a respect a woman should get he'll someday give it back. I wanted to have a boy so I could try and raise him to be the kind of man every man should be. We can break the cycle and mold our little men into something great! Good luck!!!

2007-01-01 15:39:48 · answer #6 · answered by anneboz 2 · 1 1

Well, I know this has been said, but take the trash out yourself. If its something you actually need help with, give the sarcasm back to you and hopefully he'll get the idea. One thing that bothers me is that you say you dont want him to "talk back to you." I remember my mom saying "Dont you talk back to me missy" whenever I was sassy. He's not your child. Perhaps hes reacting (with sarcasm) to you asking/telling him to do something you are capable of doing yourself...

2007-01-01 18:09:53 · answer #7 · answered by morena0160@sbcglobal.net 2 · 1 0

Ask him if this is the way he wants his son to be. Is this the way he wants others to see his son? You know you don't have to listen to his sarcasms. Tell him that when he learns to speak to you with respect, you will respect him. Stop some of the things expects from you and when he stops his sarcasms, start to be nice to him again.

2007-01-01 15:39:44 · answer #8 · answered by Dyan 4 · 1 0

Take out the trash yourself.

2007-01-01 16:13:46 · answer #9 · answered by Holden 5 · 0 0

I say no went he want to make love, then tell him why your humane not a f--king animal. Sweety cook him burn foods, or nothing he,ll get the hint. Buy flowers for your self, he,ll ask who gave them to you . sweety you say someone who doesn,t talks back to me. RECORDS went he nice. RECORDS went he not, play it on T.V. saying honey were watching a movie tonight. Play old tapes went he was nice then say why? can you be like this better not worse.

2007-01-01 16:04:46 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

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