my brother moved in his girlfriend who doesnt want to pay rent and is a total control freak and he doesnt even pay rent. yet she collects state aid and he works but neither wants to contribute to the household ( with my mom). they are both way over 26 years. when she gets mad at him she with holds the baby from him and us.
anyways, we visit my mom ( me and my kids) it is my moms home. we always have visited my mom. it has been a routine. sometimes we spend the night with my mom. the girlfriend of my brother gets mad cause we visit.
should we stop visiting or should she and my brother get responsible and move out to a pad of their own?
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she will not allow my brothers family (me the aunt) to speak to the baby or even play with the baby.
2007-01-01 15:33:36 · 19 answers · asked by beachgirl90 7 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Need to have a serious talk with your bro. She sounds like a nut. But do not stop seing your mom or the kids their Grandmother because of these two. If you have to, start having mom come over your house.
2007-01-01 15:38:25 · answer #1 · answered by The Penguin 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Whoa...she really is a control freak. Just who rules this household anyway?
1. Your mother is letting him get away with this.
2. He isn't putting his foot down with this ignorant thankless little She Bitchh of the Western World who disrespects everyone in this family.
3. If she is collecting Welfare...she is expected to use some of that money for her rent.
4. You can report this freeloader...if she is going to not pay her way here...she shouldn't be allowed to collect rent money from the State.
5. Are you the only sane person in this family? Is there no man in the house?
6. Sounds like a good case for Dr. Phil to settle the problem on that sociopath.
Edit:
If you really want to get on her nerves...visit more often, stay overnight and ignor her presence or treat her like an unwanted guest. That ought to drive her up the wall.
2007-01-01 23:41:06 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is a sociopath. She is hurting everyone including the baby. As long as mom is allowing them to stay there, they won't grow up and will continue this selfish lifestyle and how they relate to you. Don't stop visiting your mom, and try to be with the baby, but don't let her emotionally manipulate you. She will set you up on an emotional rug, then pull it out. See it coming and don't play her games. You could be real nasty and report her - anonymously. Oh, yes, and when Mom starts complaining, just listen and don't get into a b...h session. Just be a broken record and say "how are you going to handle it, mom?" Because I see that coming too - Mom will involve you to help solve the problem when she doesn't like it anymore.
2007-01-01 23:39:33 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your brother need to wise up leave her and pay child support and get a legal document so it would allow any family member to be able to see the baby your mom shouldn't have open the door to them they need to grow up I no someone whose way younger then 26 got her own place with her husband and know the true meaning of responsibility
2007-01-01 23:37:51 · answer #4 · answered by ♥yessy♥ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think she is being very immature and selfish. I think that your mother needs to take control of the situation and let them know where she stands in relation to their actions and attitude. Your brother also needs to show some respect for your mother in her own house and he needs to have a tlk with that girlfriend of his otherwise things will escalate and get out of hand.I think as long as he can afford it he should pay rent. Also if it's a relationship that he wants to work he should have his girlfriend see a shrink if there is no improvement in the behaviour. If none of them are willing to cooperte or compromise then THEY should move out.
2007-01-01 23:57:30 · answer #5 · answered by L.Sincere 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They should get a home of their own! You and your children need to see your mom and the baby. The girlfriend has no right to get mad when you come over. She should also not withhold the baby if it is yours or your moms or HIS baby. It sounds like she might need to see counseling
2007-01-01 23:40:29 · answer #6 · answered by jdzoschke2@sbcglobal.net 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is really your mom's problem since it's her house. Let your mom know how difficult it is for you to visit, and that you may not be coming as often. But it's up to your mom to lay down the law with those freeloaders.
2007-01-01 23:36:01 · answer #7 · answered by Mrs. Strain 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it is a very bad situation for you and your family. Your brother is just using your mom but i think she should stop letting him abuse her . it will be helpful to him if he has to pay his own way . as for his wife why does she get assistance what a bunch of system using low life's it wont be long before she will be getting a divorce and child support from your brother best of luck
2007-01-02 04:27:53 · answer #8 · answered by michael s 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sadly, yes, you are going to have to make a choice. It will painful and it will be unpleasant, but yes, I think the advice of staying away and letting your mom know why, is the best action to take here. I hope your brother will see clearly before its too late.
2007-01-01 23:38:51 · answer #9 · answered by ♀♥☼ alycat☼♥♀ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a bad situation. But unfortunately it is your mother's house and she has to set the rules. Talk to your mom and let her know you feel uncomfortable when you visit, but I wouldn't stop visiting my mother.
2007-01-01 23:38:09 · answer #10 · answered by Lolitta 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋