my wife nags at me until she gets her way. for example she will wake me up to go deliver her newspapers. i can tell her know ten times, but she wont stop asking. this will go on for an hour or so before i give in. there are other situations like this
2007-01-01 15:25:52 · 36 answers · asked by carri s 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
*** i don't think anyone should stay anywhere that they're not happy...be it w/ a job, a spouse, a relationship... doesn't matter. we're here to be happy...go out there and get it...HAPPINESS that is.
2007-01-01 15:28:10 · answer #1 · answered by meme 5 · 1⤊ 4⤋
In a situation like this it is best to evaluate the benefits and costs of the situation. For example, do you have children? If so, one of you will have to pay child support, and it is seldom the woman. Of course if the situation is bad, then it might actually benefit the children to leave.
A benefit to ending the relatioship might be your well-being, which is just as important as hers. A cost might be your age, and willingness to find another mate.
I know that none of this answers your question. I can't tell you whether or not to stay with your wife, but I can tell you that sometimes the most painful part about doing the right thing is realizing it must be done. Counselling may or may not be an option, but you should really think before you make a decision and talk to friends (your friends) about the idea to get their opinion and support.
2007-01-01 15:33:56 · answer #2 · answered by subhuman 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Do not listen to your brother. Now, who says you have to stay home for the rest of your life? Just go ahead and do your artwork and see what happens. If it turns out that you love it, then you made the right choice. If it does not make you happy, then you can pursue something else. You will never know until you try. You do not have to dive in head first into anything. If you want to do some part time work in the areas of your interest, then do so. You may also have the opportunity to do part time art work at home and then some college courses that interest you for future gain. You actually have many opportunities at your disposal, you just have to reach and hold on to one or two or even three of them. Go ahead. You have nothing to lose!! I have been running a home based business for decades and I love it. I work hard and am disciplined with my work schedule but it never prevented me from a social life or taking off for a week if I wanted to. I am happy doing what I do at home. No one has ever asked me when I was getting a real job or what I am going to do with my life and do you know why? It is because I am obviously happy, that's why.
2016-05-23 04:59:56 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is your fault. Tell her that it is her job to deliver the newspapers and you will not be doing it anymore. She sounds like you have spoiled her to the point that she has you just where she wants you. She has responsibilities just as you do. Let her do her part. You two need to talk this thing out and what is she going to do if you leave. Do things for herself, right. Give her the choice to do it with or without you. Everyone should be so lucky to have a guy that would even get up and deliver newspaper once in awhile. You are too good to this lady. She should appreciate you. Good luck.
2007-01-01 15:31:53 · answer #4 · answered by Dyan 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Get counseling. Marriage is hard work. Try to save it before you leave it. It can help. Also, if you don't like delivering papers instead of leaving her STAND UP and don't deliver. This is so easy. You don't have to give in and don't stay around to LET her ask you for a whole hour. Just leave the house and come back when she is done. If she is mad she will leave you for no good reason and you don't have to leave her right?
2007-01-01 15:29:22 · answer #5 · answered by tina*21 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What made you married to your wife in the first place? What are the reasons you fell in love with her? Weight all the good and bad things together. Marriage is hard. I've been married for 10 years and it's not a walk in the park. Most of marriage problems can be solved by communicating and be honest to each other. Communicate what you like and what you don't like. Listen to your wife in return. Find a common ground that you both can accept together.
Ask yourself if you trust and love her. If not, then your marriage will not survive. If yes, put 110% effort in making it work.
2007-01-01 15:32:20 · answer #6 · answered by rsusanto 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This doesn't seem like a question that can be answered with a simple "yes" or "no."
My initial sense is that you owe it to your wife to try and work out your difficulties. This would mean telling her how you feel, but also being open to the possibility that she might have things she would like to tell you.
Pretty often, marriages start to struggle precisely because people stop talking -- or, at least, talking about what is really important. So I'd urge you to approach this topic gently and with all due humility. Show you'd like to understand what she is feeling. I believe you'd be much more likely then to get her to consider your point of view.
If this doesn't work, I'd try talking to her about your concerns, and suggest that you try marital counseling. Don't throw something as important as a marriage away without really making an effort.
2007-01-01 15:32:01 · answer #7 · answered by Steve 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Marriage takes work and love is also a choice. It's a choice to stick it out even when you don't want to because you made a commitment. People who have been married for 30, 40, 50 years know what that's about. People tend to bail when it gets hard, that's why there's so much divorce. Do I think you should get a divorce. No. I think you should work it out. Get some councelling. You can make an intimate connection with your wife again. It just takes a little work.
2007-01-01 15:29:53 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you are rewarding her behaviour, she's not going to stop. As Dr. Phil says (not that I'm a huge Dr. Phil buff but the guy has a few good points) 'you teach people how to treat you'.
You guys need to sit down and talk about the behaviour and how it is impacting on you. Consider counselling as well. If you get to the point where you can honestly say you have done everything you can to make the relationship work and it hasn't been successful then it needs to end. Relationships take work and have ups and downs but if you/she is not willing to work through it then don't waste time in a dead-end relationship.
2007-01-01 15:31:45 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
As others have said, it's always best to at least try counseling. If there are deeper issues and this is just the tip of the iceberg, then perhaps you are wanting out at any cost. Im a firm believer in overall happiness, but don't take your marriage vows too lightly, be sure its really what you want.
2007-01-01 15:29:25 · answer #10 · answered by suz_e_q_zee 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your wife has a paper route? Is she 12?
Dude, If you're not happy in your relationship, then you need to find out why. Sit down and discuss how you feel and be calm and rational.
She wants you to go with her to deliver papers - do YOU have a job? maybe she's just trying to get you out of the house instead of sitting on your butt all day. maybe she feels that you'll find a job if you help her so that you'll be working too.
if she's just being lazy, say No. This is your job, not mine. You need to do your own work. You signed up for this job, not me.
You both need to sit down and discuss boundries. i would never ask my husband to do my work for me, nor would he ask me to do his. heck he won't even let me mow the lawn!
2007-01-01 15:32:41 · answer #11 · answered by the_grot_shoppe 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋