why is it so hard to go on with life when someone you love leaves you???

Answer 1

Because everywhere you look, you see reminders of the other person and reminders of what the two of you used to do together. You're used to living life and practicing behavior patterns in a particular way that is unique to the two of you. When you are left alone, suddenly you are trying to carry on life without your other half. If you lost a leg or an arm, it would be hard to carry on as normal as if you had both appendages.

Frankly, you must remember that these feelings are only just that. Feelings. Emotions. And, remember that they will pass with time. Why time? Because you will learn to adapt to your new situation and will be seeking out other situations that require developing new behavioral patterns.

Simply put, it will get better. If you let it. You must choose to let it. And, one day, without realizing it, you'll surprise yourself. Why? Because, you'll find yourself having moved on in life, and you'll be in a better place.

So, don't give up. Have a happy new year. Infact, have a happy new life! It will come.

Answer 2

We all have an idea, a dream, of what our life is going to be, with the person we love. When it is over, our dream is shattered and what could have been is dead. Something inside us dies with it. We feel rejected, we feel as though we have failed in love, we question what we did wrong, or what's wrong with us. All this is normal to feel, and we all handle it differently and some take longer than others to move on.
But, in time, you will realize, it was meant to be and it was not your fault. You should never try to be someone you are not just to please another person and to hold on to someone. Everything in life is a learning experience and you should never give up when things don't turn out the way you expected.
Spend time with friends and family and by yourself. Don't rush into another relationship right away. Get to know yourself and love the person you are before you get involved with anyone else. Know exactly what you want and never settle until you find that special one.

Believe me, I went through this and I really know how you are feeling right now. It takes a long time, but in the end, all things do work out. God Bless You!

Answer 3

It feels like a failure and it is a rejection. Who likes rejection? But life does go on and the one who did the leaving? Well, maybe there was a good reason or maybe it was a stupid reason or they gave no reason at all. Their love could have been very shallow. Sometimes you feel like you can't breathe, but you do. Find your best friend (esp. a parent who won't judge you) and they will let you cry. Crying is actually good and takes the stress out. But don't think its the end of the world, b/c millions of people have felt this before and you WILL live and survive and go on in your life.

Answer 4

Mel,
Buddy, the same thing happen to me when I was 28 years old. My wife of 7 years decided she didn't want to be married anymore and she left, taking my beautiful 4 year old daughter. I was devastated! All I did was mourn, mope and feel sorry for myself. I didn't consider suicide, but my mind was in a mess for a year! It was the worse year of my life.

Looking back, I now see it was for the best. My ex wife, was married three more times and broke the hearts of three other guys. I met a beautiful lady through a friend and have now been married 25 years!

My daughter and I are on the best of terms and I have 2 great grand kids to spoil. Now, I'm not going to get biblical on you, but I want you to realize that the most important person in the world is YOURSELF! You've got to take care of yourself. Move on, start a new life leaving your past behind. Its not easy today, but I promise it will get easier everyday. You need to prepare yourself for when you meet your new love. You'll never find her while you're feeling sorry for yourself. I just hope that in time, you'll be as fortunate as I have been.

Answer 5

life was ment 4 us 2 be with someone and love is a very part of life that is a painfull one at times wether its a human or an animalbut at the same time when we love or like some one we feel thayand or it will be there and last forever but we always have the memories of that person or thing

Answer 6

As they say, time heals all wounds. As unbelievable as this sounds, in time you will see things more clearly and this person will probably not be the person you thought she was. It's so easy to be blinded to a persons bad faults when you're close to them. I've also found that it was for the better because eventually you'll find someone who adores you and makes you happy too instead of a one sided relationship.

Answer 7

Because you feel like your life is completely empty like you lost a part of you. In a way it almost like a death. You will survive it and come out stronger. You may not believe this now but just give it time, that is the only healer, time. Pray for peace of mind. Things will get better.

Answer 8

Believe me I know how hard it is. But time and improving yourself in any way that you can helps alot. It is like a grieving process. Stay busy and focus and try not to think about the bad stuff. I wish you luck and a good new year to you.

Answer 9

You feel rejected, you wonder what is wrong with you, and you want the answer to those questions when answers are not forthcoming. You wonder what you did wrong, what did you do to drive your loved one away, why you have to still love them when they don't love you. You might hate the universe for a while, but you can do nothing else but move on.

Answer 10

It is because you put your validation & you were defined by that person you loved. In other words your only reason for living isn't really love. So, when that person is gone.....you have lost what you thought was your all in all. Suddenly you are just you and feel very lost and wondering if you are worth anything.
You feel you lost your self.