I have a sister who lacks discipline with her children. She makes comments on my behavior when her own children dont behave correctly. When i stay with my mom (my sister and her family lives in my moms house) usually i m left either alone with them to babysit or i m alone with them downstairs while their parents are upstairs either watching TV or sleeping which is usually about 8:30 9pm at night. Their youngest son *Drew is very mouthy. He cocks an attitude with you just because he thinks he is bada*s which he is only 10. He doesnt clean up after him self, he thinks that is every one elses job. There was a time when i was talking on the phone with my boyfriend *Alex and he kept yelling and saying mean things to Alex. He then started hitting me with a boggy board and I got sick and tired of it so i grabbed it out of his hands and smacked him with it. 2 days later my mom asked me if i hit him and i said Yea but did he tell you that he kept hitting me with it.. Additional Details Coming
2007-01-01 15:01:42 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
she asked my sister who asked him and he first replied no but then he started laughing and then they found out that he was lying. Now that I m once agian stuck downstairs with them, i feel like i will lose my temper with Drew. He jus came down stairs and grabbed their puppy and put him in a headlock, he said he was just playing and i replied that he wasnt playing cuz he was going to hurt her. He mumbled shut up and i stood up and walked over to him and told him "You cant say that to my face because you know i will kick your a*s, now let the dog down" SO i need advice on how to handle him without using physical solutions... please help me before i go off on him!
2007-01-01 15:06:31 · update #1
First of all for the people who thinks it really easy to just ignore it well its not... i have tried on many occasions to bring their behavior to the parents but they think they can do no wrong... and another thing i cant aviod it cuz THEY ARE LIVING WITH MY MOM..... DUH!! Maybe if some of you would read the DETAILS you would realize some of this!! And for others who are using actual good natured advive thank you alot.
2007-01-01 15:09:59 · update #2
I am 15 yrs old
2007-01-01 15:11:22 · update #3
How old are you?
It might be better to get a job and start saving up money to get out on your own. If there are 3 adults in your house who aren't controlling those kids, anything good you do will be negated by the other 3 anyway.
Try to save yourself
Live and Learn
Good Luck...
2007-01-01 15:08:01 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Poor Rae! You're stuck between a rock and a hard place. Can you talk to your dad about what's going on at your mom's house? Do you have to go to your mom's? Is it because your mom and dad have joint custody of you? Maybe you and your parents need to talk to the judge again. The judge should hear about how things are at your mom's house when you have to stay with her. It doesn't sound like a very healthy environment. I hope you can work things out.
2007-01-02 00:00:23 · answer #2 · answered by Eat At The Y 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You cannot control someone else's kids because they are not yours. If you don't live there, but stay there occasionally, then your mom needs to have a talk with your sister on how her kids are behaving. If they continue to behave like that, then don't watch the kids anymore. You have a right not to watch kids who don't behave right and don't respect you. It seems to me that they are not getting disciplined by their parents.
Usually kids learn things from their parents. If they have a bad mouth, they learned it from someone right? Kids look up to adults with also good behavior, otherwise, they will start acting like them and pick up some habits around them. So, since you are the only one who sees this and wants to do something about it....then you need to set that example by not using swear words yourself. Also, the kids could be wanting attention too. (smile)
Again, they are not your kids, you can only give advice to your sister and husband, but do it politiely....remember, the young kids are listening.
2007-01-01 15:17:39 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Wow, no additional details needed. First , tell your sister that if you are babysitting, you must be able to discipline them as you see fit. If they don't agree with that, no more babysitting. Treat them as they act in front of their parents, in other words, ask them to clean up after themselves, and if they don't leave it for the parents to do. Eventually they will become embarrassed and get on the kids to act right themselves.
2007-01-01 15:06:12 · answer #4 · answered by mekeygabriel 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Talk to your mom about the kids behavior maybe she can help set up some boundaries.
2007-01-01 15:04:08 · answer #5 · answered by betty_htch 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
look i been seeing this gal for about 3 years and her kids hit me then she hits me and for the holidays she beat me and chased me arround her house stole my phone out of my pocket hit me with it kicked me slapped me poked me in the eye and punched me in the head with her fist or an object she never controls her kids the one punched me in the head while i was a front seat passenger or hit me with an object and i was in the middle of playing pool and the one hit me with a pool stick then i got babby daddy drama then they told me they were going to hit me next cause they were trying to say i was the one hitting everyone then i found out my so called girlfriend is on the internet avaible to the world and dates and lists themselfs as single and there verbally abusive nothing celebrates the holidays like me finally stop being a woos and filing a police report but you know what they will probably will arrest me cause im the man ps remember dont hit women or children love the girl for who she is i would have stayed with this gal for a very long time but you can only take so much then she trys to say she is an angel and shes a nice person especially when she ok'd it with her self to go on dates when im in a fantasy about her why am i being a dumb *** wanting to go back and staying depressed when i been nothing but honest and i have not hid anything from her when she asks me i tell her everything almost every night we fall asleep together on the phone un less shes makes up some hogwash and says well your not here and i dont see a ring on my finger and were not married sniff it tee sniff sniffs arround the bar when i cant be there sometimes when i have talked to her she trys to sell her and her kids as a nice package but when she was so rude as to pull up a bunch of guys faces on the computer when i was fixing things arround her house i got mad told her i did not like it but 3 or more times when i visited her she looked up more guys who were avaible for swinging i just dont like people lieing to me that they deleted stuff off when i finally found the site they were on and tada the same christmas tree that was dusty and heavy that i hauled up from the basement that i set up for her and everything about it once i was finished was not good enough but there she was on the computer with that same tree i set up for her and had a pic and was listed as availble with a big smile not only was she verbally abusive but she hurt me to with physical abuse and stole some of my stuff and tried to accuse me of seeing other women which was a lie and i gave her all the loving in the world more than i should have even though im not that good with it or am uncomfortable but i let my self go and feel it and what did i git her booty dancing at the bar and a nice beating from her and even when i said to her kids stop we dont hit here it was like talking to this keyboard really pointless
2007-01-01 15:29:02 · answer #6 · answered by peter w 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
omg i would beat that kid up... i gotta nephew like that i jus be mean back 2 him... i notice after awhile he try 2 be nice but i jus brush him off... i dont even pay him no mind at all cause he's a waste of my time...
also he might act like that cause his parent dont pay him enough attention... maybe u should ask him if anythings botherin him and ask him why he be actin like that?¿
2007-01-01 15:06:34 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't hit children or other people for that matter psycho. If you don't like the kids avoid them, but don't harm them. I'm sure your sister now loves you as much as you love her kids.
2007-01-01 15:04:53 · answer #8 · answered by lil bill 7 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
At 15, you should not have to deal with all of this. hell, I am 24 and I could not deal with it eiether.Talk to your Mom, tell her whats going on.
2007-01-04 08:11:56 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Duct tape, super glue, and lots of laxatives. Not necessarily in that order.
2007-01-01 15:05:41 · answer #10 · answered by johN p. aka-Hey you. 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋