Is she telling the truth?

Question

Someone I know has been in a relationship with a girl from the Philippines for over a year now, he is from Canada. They talk through the internet, by phone, and through letters. I'm not going to get into too much detail, but their relationship seems to be alot better and more believable than that of the ones commonly heard of were the Filipina girl is taking advantage of a foreigner over the internet for money. He has always been careful and not had to be suspicious till now. She has never asked for money even when he offered, but he has been extra cautious ever since she told him yesterday that her father had a stroke. She said that here father had a stroke and that her family needs 7000 pesos for him to be admitted into the hospital. Apparantly his left arm and legs cannot move and he is having trouble speaking, but the family is too poor to send him to the hospital. He knows this, but he wants to be extra careful that he is not being taken advantage of. Is she telling the truth??

Answer 1

Hey,7000 pesos is not alot in Canadian dollars and since she had never asked for money before, I think this is a small price to find out the truth.

If I am in his case, I find out the truth with a little investment, can always earn back the money but thats one good way to find out about trust.

Going over there is gonna cost you more than the 7000 php.

Just seeing some other posts here, if this is a con job, don't you think she'll ask for alot more?

Answer 2

7000 pesos is about $ 150.00. If he is not willing to give a girl that much after a year, then he is cheap, and she should dump him. He could spend that much on date with a girl here in America. The hospitals in the Philippines do require money before treatment. No free emergency room treatment in the Philippines. I have that information from very reliable sources. You better have an insurance card or cash on you if you want medical care. It will cost him maybe $ 1500.00 to $2000.00 to visit her before he gets married. So send her the money. If he marries her let him know that there will always be relatives that have real financial / medical emergencies. He will always be the rich relative that, they will go to for help. Some of them will appreciate his help, some will not. He can do a lot of good and help them or he can ignore them.

Answer 3

Like your friend, I am also in a relationship with a Filipina. Your friend is going to have follow his heart. If they have been talking for an extensive period, as your question implies, he probably has a good idea what is happening. He probably feels he knows every member of her personally also.
Since a stroke leaves tell tale signs, I am sure if she was going to take advantage of your friend that she could come up with some other reason for the money.
I wish your friend and his girlfriend a very happy relationship and hope they will be able to meet soon. WIRE THE MONEY.

Answer 4

I am a Filipino, although I was raised and educated here in New York, I am very aware of Filipino values and traditions. I am not trying to degrade the Philippines but be reminded that the Philippines is in fact a poor country. I tried studying in the Philippines 3 years ago and although the Phils. is trying very hard to show to the world that it is competitive, it cannot be denied that economic crisis is still up on the rise and crime rates almost don't decline. Almost every Filipino dreams to go abroad and search for 'greener pasture'. Technically, Filipinos have colonial mentality that makes them want to take every possible opportunity to move away from the country and be "americanized". With that being said, there's a big possibility that the girl is lying and that she's not really up for a serious relationship. She probably just need someone to finance her and eventually move her to another place. Besides, traditional Filipinos have very high respect for relationships so I wouldn't think a serious and decent girl would actually engage in a relationship and ask for such a thing without even meeting the guy.

Answer 5

The luring of western men by Filipino women in the Philippines is almost a cottage industry and it is thriving. There is no shortage of western men who are hooked into such situations due to their misperceptions of asian women as submissive and easily manipulated gals who will place the man's interest above theirs. The reality is that Filipinas can be more cunning than the man and subsequently the tables are turned soon after marriage. Im sure there are a few women whose intentions are no different than in any typical male-female relationship elsewhere--but that is the exception. Some if not most women in such relationships are in it as a means to emigrate to a wealthier nation as a primary purpose. Love is a scant second, if at all.

In short, your guy firend better be cautious and rational.

Answer 6

She probably is truthful!!! As an American I know poor countrys suffer & die from things a well developed nation has cured for 20 yrs. I do not like the mal treatment of the Mexicans for this very reason. I think your friend can get a church to help this family & they may even contact missionarys who are in the philip. But whoever the stroke vic is needs to b medicated asap life & death here.Suggest;; He take up collection at work& friends & family

Answer 7

Ask the girl which hospital the father will be admitted to and get details. Then donate the money direct to the hospital and ask that they use it directly for the father's benefit. This is a guaranteed way of knowing he will get the use. She will not mind this process if she is telling the truth.

Answer 8

7000 in Canadian dollars is not that much so just give it. Might as well help someone, then from there you'll know if she is telling the truth. After sending her the money, ask for info like how was the operation, which hospital etc...

Answer 9

she's probably telling the truth. your friend should pretty much be able to judge her character by now, but if she's like the typical filipino, she would not make up something so tragic involving a loved one, *especially* a parent. that's just simply not in our nature. unless of course she's a really good scam artist, in which case wouldn't your extra-cautious friend have known or at least sensed that by now?

i can't speak for your friend, but personally ~US$140 is not a lot of money to part with, but it might go a long way towards giving her the benefit of the doubt, at least for this one time only.

Answer 10

I strongli believe that shes telling the truth. Just figure it,she doesn't ask him money,end refuse the offer of your friend. 7000php is not a lot of money in canadian dolars. She's asking this to your friend because she dont have choice. She don't want to lost his father. We are not talking about money now,we're talking here between life and death. If your friend really love her she will do the right thing not just by himself that might someone taking advantage him. Tell him his selfish!!!!!!!