2007-01-01 14:07:02 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I highly recommend you try and divide your time between each parent. When my parents divorced, I decided to live with my dad b/c I could go to the same school, and I miss my mom every day I dont see her. If you are forced to pick one parent over the other, I do not want to give you advice one that. It is an awful decision. Your heart will lead you to the right choice.
2007-01-01 18:17:59 · answer #1 · answered by morena0160@sbcglobal.net 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is really a hard question.
Ideally, you can split time equally between both parents.
I am sorry that you have to make this decision.
Ihope that you tell your parents that whatever you decide, it does not mean that you love either of them less.
Before I would make a guess, I would be curious to know which decision would disrupt your life the least. For example, is one of your parents going to remain in the home that you are currently living in? If so, it might be easiest to stay there and that way you would not have to chance schools and move away from your friends too.
Do remember that your parents both love you and they will not stop loving you if you pick the other parent.
GOOD LUCK!
2007-01-01 14:16:52 · answer #2 · answered by kissmymiddlefinger 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you have to pick one or can you spend equal time with both? You are going to miss the one you are not with. And they will miss you.
When I was with a man who had kids and was divorced, he and the kids' mom lived within walking distance almost. It made it easy to get them to school and for us stepparents to help the dad and mom take care of them.
You should think about where you will be the most comfortable. I don't know how old you are, but if you are old enough to be asking things on here, the judge will probably listen to you. He or she may even be able to help you get equal time with each if they stay in the same city.
If that is not possible, you need to look and see which one you think you are closer to and that will give you the support you need to be happy. Which home makes you feel the most welcome.
God bless you. I know this is not easy.
2007-01-01 14:17:53 · answer #3 · answered by justbeingher 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Trust me its a hard decision. My parents got divorced when I was 3. I am 15 now and my dad wanted custody when I turned 14. He asked me if I wanted to come and my first reaction was yes. But after a while I looked over my options and decided to stay with my mom. Pick which will be best for you.
2007-01-01 14:11:34 · answer #4 · answered by In Heaven There is No Beer 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, If your parents get a divorce and you need to pick someone to live with, you should go back and forth between your parents and after spending time with them one on one and see what it would be like to live with that person...you need to make that decsion on who you want to live with and who you might fell comfortable with the most. I know it will be hard to chose between your parents because you love them equally and if you chose one, and not the other parent the other parent isnt going to stop loving you.
2007-01-01 14:15:55 · answer #5 · answered by Nicole Ann 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you are old enough, like 17-19 years old, then you have the say where you want to live and who you want to live with. if you are below 17 years old, then the courts decide where you stay. i was 5 when my parents divorced and my mom got custody of me and i would go see my dad when i wanted too. when i got older, i decided to move in with my dad. so, if you are old enough, then you choose, but if you are young, then the court decides and you can go see the other parents when you want to go see them.
2007-01-01 14:16:23 · answer #6 · answered by ? 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I was to decide which parent to chose between i would chose the one that loves you the most. If you can't tell by that they the one on one relationship you have with each other and tell yourself which one cares about your feelings, life, success and goals. That's how you chose. Or if you can, you can chose both and set a date for which day or month you want to spend with either parent.
2007-01-01 14:11:54 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you really love both of your parents, then you should try switching where you go...like every week.....if that's too hard to do, then you should go with the parent that's the same sex as you, and spend vacations at the other's.
2007-01-01 14:11:24 · answer #8 · answered by PinkPanther 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my prayers are with you on this very difficult decision. picking either parent would be hard on the other parent. search your heart make your decision on many factors that exist, a.e. school, friends.
try speaking to grandparent, counselor @ school, a pastor you are familiar with or the judge when it comes time to choose which.
2007-01-01 14:12:31 · answer #9 · answered by audrey_halley2004 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think the way to decide is which one do you like the most.
2007-01-01 14:14:03 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋