i feel really bad?

Question

like theres stuff ive done that i know my dad would go mad if he ever found out about he would go mental but its eating me inside i feel like crap

if i tell him ill feel better
but
hes gonna be mad and hate me then ill feel worse

Answer 1

I must say that we all have things we've hidden from our parents.
What exactly have you done?

Answer 2

i totally understand i was the same and i did some raw stuff and i was a total ***** but as u grow up and u change like i have well then thats what important i dint know if this makes sense if u have done things and your dad feels like a failure as a parent then him seeing u grow and mature to a better person makes him feel good and is reward another if its really gonna hurt ur dad then dont make him suffer any more start a new chapter oh and by the way sometimes if things come up i found out my dad already either knew or had an idea. To many familys let the past hold them back and life is to short enjoy each other don't dwell time is a great healer give it time

Answer 3

First let me say, that you know it was wrong, whatever you did, for it to anger your Father, and that is good? Because it means you have a conscience, and that was in part by your Up bringing.I have a now 19 year old Daughter, and several Sons all grown up, and I hear now the things they didn't tell me? Things at the time I would have been quite upset about. They went to people they knew they could talk to about the situation, and after talking to them they realised I didn't need to be told. There must be someone you can reach out to you trust, to discuss this with. I wish my kids could have talked to me, but sometimes there are things you just feel you cant say to a parent? That is OK too, so long as you do realise what you did was wrong, and learn from your mistakes, and dint hurt any one else. Ask your self this, will tomorrow still come and I will still be here, and life is going to go on, after this? Of course it will. Some day you will be able to talk to your Father about all of it, just talk to others for now, and you will get past this. Oh there were a lot of things my kids did talk to me about too, as I am sure you can talk to your Father about things as well. Life is Life, we live and we learn.

Answer 4

Most of us are only guessing.

since i am almost certainly old enough to be ur dad
i am going to assume it is either
sex
drugs
alcohol or
rock and roll

i don't mind the latter, it depends who u did it with !!LOL!!??

if u were my daughter i would tell u that as u go through life u are answerable to one person. that is urself.

i think what u r really saying is that when I wake up and I realise what i have done, I will go mental.
if u have got caught up in the peer group scenario, it may be possible that u are a charming young lady almost dying to break free and be ur own person.
u have to find a level that suits both ur physical needs and satisfies ur heart.
what we have here is a classic conflict between the desire to party, if u like and the heart disagreeing. u feel u have betrayed ur father but it also proves that he must have had a profound influence on u. this is good.
the feelings are bcos deep down u suspect that he would disagree and more importantly that he would be quite right.
having said that, u have to live and learn. it is all part and parcel of growing up.
there are many things which i did when i was younger which i regret. i have kids, i hope they don't make the same mistakes and i will try to help them as best i can.
instead of feeling bad about things, just resolve to be more sensible. simple.

lots of love.
(dad??)
x

Answer 5

You have to forgive yourself and move on learning from your mistakes. Sometimes as a parent, ignorance truly is bliss. If you are messing with drugs, just don't do it! They are bad, they will hurt you, so just don't. If you are messing with boys, just don't do it. You have all the time in the world to be a grown up, be a kid for as long s you can, trust me. Meditate, pray, seek out an adult that you trust to counsel you. Good luck, just get up every single day and do the best that you ca do each and every day. Walk in the light.

Answer 6

I really feel for you, God made and us and He loved us so He made rules to protect us for getting hurt and hurting others. When we brake His laws and sin, we feel bad. I don't know what you did, I know all the stuff out there, what ever it is God can and will forgive you of WHATEVER you did if you pray and repent of all you did and ask him to forgive you. You may still regret doing whatever you did, but you will feel clean inside. After that , pray that God would give you the courage to talk to you dad, your dad is the person God intended to take care of their little girls and protect them.

Answer 7

Perhaps sit down with your Dad and calmly begin to tell him what's on your heart. Tell him, you love and respect him and want to clear your heart from this stuff. Ask him to try to understand, again tell him you love him.

Good luck, this must be real tough, you can get past it!

Answer 8

id suggest since its the new year and im sure hed want you to be a grown up about things then maybe you could tell him.or just ask him if you can tell him something and tell him ur being grown up about this lol.but if its really bad then i wouldnt tell him cause then he might not trust you anymore.it all depends tho.good luck

Answer 9

put your feelings aside, your rep with your dad is at stake, and you don't want a parent mad at you, trust me.
stop doing the stuff and try to forget about it, what HE doesn't know can't hurt YOU.

Answer 10

What is all this confession rubbish? Cant you just leave the poor guy alone? Hes got enough of his s**t to worry about without your extra bits. Keep it to yourself or tell your mum.

Answer 11

Sounds like he raised you right, that is every parents wish to make their children feel guilty enough to tell. Talk to him he was young once and you may be surprised he might understand.