He's on the way out, and I really like him. He said i am suffocating him by: offering to get him things, do the majority of undesirable tasks: wash out a dirty pan, I gaze at him and touch him to much, and offer sex (good sex) to much. When I am around him I am me.... just way to giving. He has alot valuable assets financially, that I get to enjoy (ex. cottage, hot tub, boat, convertable, ...and the list goes on)- I just feel I need to contribute to everything that he is offering...sufficating him. I like him for him, and I want to show him that....but I am trying to hard. I am very independant women, with brains and financially independant, but I feel like I owe him when we are together.
Tell me guys what feels sufficating for you.
Girls how do I stop, with out looking selfish when presenting my interests and when we go to his cottage how do i keep myself busy so I don't drive him away. P.s. If were at the cottage together why doesnt he want to be with me 24 hr? Dating 2 mths
2007-01-01 13:53:13 · 12 answers · asked by whatdoido 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
If he didn't want you then he wouldn't be with you and still with you. Like the others said-you definetly have got to give yourself more space away from him. Don't ignore him and don't make it look like you are trying. When the afternoon comes just get up and go wherever you wanna go. If he says he's gonna take a nap then that don't always mean he wants company. If he does then he'll ask for it. You definetly aren't that far into the relationship for you to be calling the smothering shots.
If he gets up in the morning and you really want to stay in bed then stay in bed. He'll appreciate the independent woman he fell for in the first place.
Cuz trust me-if you stay long term with him-then the smotherness will ease off in due course. But you have got to work on it in the meantime.
2007-01-01 15:31:12 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Dont Listen to the rude comments girl! The truth is, he has money...expensive things and the list goes on and on....Stop trying so hard to win his heart.He knows you'll always be there so he can treat you as he wishes, and thats WRONG.You dont owe him a damn thing! A man could have the world in his palm and still be lonely. Money can buy things everyone wants, but money CANT buy love.So back up alittle, give him some space to breath and find out what he is missing. Give him time to miss you and wish you were there to do all the things you do for him.He probally thinks you're after him for his money too! Its only right, you say he has lots of luxury.Dont do all the things you do for him, let him do it.If you become his wife, then you can be that angel that you're acting like.You're giving away the whole kitchen, serve a snack instead.Give him a taste, not a meal. THEN if thats still not good enough for him, let him go.You've had a taste of luxury and so did he.HIS LOSS. :) You're an independent woman and thats a plus! Do your thing girl, Happy New Years.
2007-01-01 14:12:18 · answer #2 · answered by ♥ Loving My Babyboy ;) ♥ 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Back off, and hurry before he runs! Get a hobby, do some gardening outside the cottage or pick up photography and take pictures of landscapes. Start a book club or have a girls night out. The list can go on and on.
Stop worrying about him so much and focus more on you and he will come to you when he sees you have other interest.
2007-01-01 13:58:35 · answer #3 · answered by betty_htch 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dang, you sound like my brother. Always gotta be with whoever you're dating. People need space. I've broken up with more than one girl because she was clingy. There is a such thing as "cuddle time". Other than that....keep your distance. Sit in a different chair, or a cushion apart on the couch. As far as sex, just because you got it, doesn't mean we want it. Let him ask you to get him a glass of water instead of asking him. More than likely, if he's thirsty, he'll get it himself. He made it this far without you didn't he? If he wants you to contribute, as you put it, he'll ask you. Right now he probably thinks you're just after him for the things he has just by the way you're acting...no matter what your intentions. That's just the way some guys think.
2007-01-01 14:14:41 · answer #4 · answered by unclewill67 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Darlin' I needed oxygen just to get through your rambling. Find something to do with yourself. If he has everything he wants.....he probably tires easily of the same ol same ol.
You've made yourself predictable. By the way, your first mention were his financial assets.........???? The man is not stupid. However, I have to wonder how many ton of gravel resides in between your ears.
Times up.....he's done with his toy. Can't say I blame him actually. Who wants a neurotic, obsessive companion? What's scarey is that you are with him.......and your outlined behavior that you've provided defines you as stalker material.
Walk away. Just...........walk away.
2007-01-01 13:58:48 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
You have to talk to an expert to find out what causes your behavior.
That last sentence is the key and you will drive him away if you do not stop asking that question.Every man wants to be on his own sometimes.You also have to give yourself some time out
STOP TRYING SO HARD.
2007-01-01 14:03:32 · answer #6 · answered by melbournewooferblue 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you've been together for two months,he most likely feels that you are to attached to him,and that you are catering to him because of what he has. My advice to you is,go out with friends,try doing less,suggest he go out with friends,and don't spazz about it. Granted you want him to be with you,but don't act like a married couple when you aren't. Give him the space needed it,or he will most likely take permanent space from you.
2007-01-01 14:01:31 · answer #7 · answered by Ellie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get some friends together and do things that don't include him. If you want him to value your company, do fun things with him, don't become his housekeeper, he can pay someone to do that. That don't throw yourself at him or your time is not something he will treasure, it will just become something that always there- in other words ordinary.
2007-01-01 13:59:57 · answer #8 · answered by nursesr4evr 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you need to be a little more hard to get,The thrill of the chase is most guys driving ambition.
2007-01-01 13:59:37 · answer #9 · answered by Eat My Shorts 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you're trying very hard to win his heart. Some guys like to be baby-sat but not all. Its best to respect him and find out what he likes and dislikes then work on that!
2007-01-01 13:57:59 · answer #10 · answered by SingGirl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋