Ever since I cut off one friend because we had trust issues I find my circle of friends that I trust growing smaller and smaller. It there a way to trust people again when so many have let you down in the past.
2007-01-01 13:49:51 · 23 answers · asked by rabidchipmunk 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
The world is changing and you have to be so very careful this day and age on who to trust. Alot of people are in it for what they can take from you. There are more takers out there than givers. Be selective in whom you let in close to you. You deserve the best life has to offer. Good luck.
2007-01-01 13:53:17 · answer #1 · answered by elanabutcher 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We can learn to trust again. We just don't trust so blindly. Each time we are betrayed we hopefully learn to read betrayal. We are better at sensing what is happening behind what we are being told. That way we won't find ourselves so vulnerable and hurt again. The more a person is betrayed the more on guard they are when entering new relationships, and for good reason. It hurts really bad to be betrayed by the people you care about and love.
We have a choice to learn to trust again by trusting a bit at a time. First in the little things and then on to larger more emotionally costly things. Hopefully those that we are practicing trust with will be faithful to us. That way our trust can grow. If people aren't faithful to us we learn to put walls up to protect ourselves from everyone. Then we can become bitter and lonely people.
2007-01-01 14:26:21 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes. You just have to be careful with what you share with people. Develop a friendly, fun way of interacting that isn't exposing you in any way. European cultures have a formal and familiar screening process built into their languages which is a polite way of keeping your distance until you're able to get to know a person's character. Also, it's important to be forgiving. You let it go and learn from the experience. Maybe you're too open, too soon. Being trustworthy yourself important, too. When someone reveals sensitive information to you, are you kind, sympathetic and respectful enough to keep it between yourselves? Speaking from experience, there are very few people with whom I can be anything more than congenial. Focus on BEING a friend first and you'll start attracting trustworthy people but always be reticent about sharing stuff that could hurt you with anyone you haven't known for a long time.
2007-01-01 14:13:11 · answer #3 · answered by Babs 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Trust is earned not given or even taken. Trust takes time to foster and sometimes trust is the hardest part of a relationship or in your case even a friendship. Also to be trusted you must be trustworthy. It is a circle that never ends so hang on for the ride!
2007-01-01 14:16:09 · answer #4 · answered by gueroslaptop 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well its hard to trust anyone doesnt matter if your friends or if its someone you work with trust is earned not given remember that and you have your whole life to find a circle of friends and personally the smaller the circle the better, its who your friends are not how many you have
2007-01-01 13:55:55 · answer #5 · answered by jane_queen_of_jungle 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't believe that you can ever trust another person like that. If someone had let you down before you shouldn't believe that they won't do it again. Trust is a big and important word, you can never be to sure to trust about anyone. Not even yourself.
2007-01-01 13:52:59 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do what I did. I just said "I don't even care about that sh!t any more" now I have very few friends, very few problems, and nothing to worry about. Social problems are silly and meaningless. Just chill out, cut back on the alc tho thats bad for you. Get some bud if you really need something to take the edge off, and just avoid social issues by not being social
2016-05-23 04:43:25 · answer #7 · answered by Victoria 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can give them a second chance depending on what they did, but if you really feel you cannot trust them you should end it.
But you can't take it overboard and just start cutting of people because of things you may later find stupid or materialistic.
2007-01-01 13:53:50 · answer #8 · answered by isa m 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No we cant trust those who let us down. Thats why the Republicans lost the election.
2007-01-01 13:54:06 · answer #9 · answered by Haven17 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You just trust them with your eyes open. Rely on your few truly trustworthy friends for the big stuff.
2007-01-01 13:53:14 · answer #10 · answered by LO! 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋