My husband is in grad school. We have been married almost a year and its been extremely difficult. I never see him as he's always busy with his thesis or papers or reading. I have friends and get out and whatnot, so its not like I sit around the house pining away for him, but once in a while I would like to see my husband for more than five minutes at a time. I ask him almost daily to go do something, but I always get shot down and its getting old. Any suggestions on how to deal with this would be fabulous!
2007-01-01 13:37:14 · 5 answers · asked by Sarah 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You knew your husband was busy with his education prior to getting married. Why are you hasselling him? You are doing good to keep busy. Hang in there, soon he'll be done.
2007-01-01 13:40:37 · answer #1 · answered by Daiquiri Dream 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Just be patient...no one said married life was going to be easy, and this is just one challenge that must be overcome....and then there will be other challenges to follow! First of all, just realize that this is temporary...it will end. Think of that wonderful day when he graduates and starts earning the big bucks! If you were in his situation you would want your spouse to be patient and supportive right? So just do that for him, constantly remind him of how proud you are of him, he will appreciate that! And once he is done with school he will remember how patient and loving you were during those difficult times! It will be OK, just stay by his side, go out with your girlfriends and hang out with your husband at night! Maybe this is a good thing, it will teach you to cherish every single second you get with him!
Good luck!
2007-01-01 21:59:03 · answer #2 · answered by Yul'ka 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel for you. I just finished Grad school and my husband was a trooper through the whole thing.
The best thing you can do is to be supportive of his efforts. Make sure he knows how much you appreciate his hard work and how much it will mean for your future together. Make the time you have together as pleasant as possible. Make him a snack while he is studying. Try to be the source of comfort in his stressful life. You will get a return on this investment. Keep going!
2007-01-01 22:14:42 · answer #3 · answered by Jennifer D 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm in grad school as well. Your husband has to draw the line somewhere and make it a point to spend time with you. If not, men like me will fit you into our busy schedules. (All I need is a good 45 minutes)
2007-01-01 21:42:49 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
just dont get sucked into depression and stay at home all the time just because of what he is doing,,,u deserve some of his time,if he is not willing to do anything together with you,,,what is the point of being married,,,,,do what makes you happy! find someone that makes you happy, i personally know how it is to waste my time waiting for someone who never had time,,and believe me ,,it will get worse,,,so sit down and have a heart to heart talk and workout a deal 2 be fair to both of you and your lifestyle! god bless
2007-01-01 21:46:27 · answer #5 · answered by hopeless_romantic_chick 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋