I really am wondering if young women about to be married, have any of the same fears and anxietys that my age group had in the 70's. Is there any right age to get married today? Even if you are madly in love, seriously, but you are under 20, should a Gal wait until she is older? Do you think that because the divorce rate is so much higher today than it was in the 70's that this can effect a girls decision to get married? I mean how nice it would be if one could just say, oh I am madly in Love and that is all that matters, but we all know it isnt, and there are many factors to consider before one does go down the wedding isle. What about the age of the spouse for the 19 yr old, is his age a factor? Should it be? Do you think a woman should be concerned with her Husband to be's past , and if so, should she ask him about it first? Before saying I do? Oh so many questions, and sometimes there are no answers, not when it comes to matters of the Heart.
2007-01-01 13:34:34 · 9 answers · asked by meohmy 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
now ur asking!!
the questions are
1) is he the right fella.
2) do i want to spend the rest of my life with him.
3) will i ever be tempted to stray
4) will he ever be tempted
5) what will life be like in 10 years time
6) are we doing this because we think it is right
or because we feel it is right.
7) do i want to live a lot first.
8) do i want a family, or a career.
9) will i be able to become the person i want to be.
on the flip side.
if u r happy with the fella and u don't, u might lose him.
if u are in a loving marriage u can become all the things u want
and perhaps a lot more.
it will ensure that u are not caught up in sexual immorality
which might lead to disease and/or death.
we know that people who have numerous partners are thousands of times more likely to fall foul of this scenario.
i suppose the punch line is that in any eventuality, ur own heart should tell u whether it is the right thing to do.
as for the past, i believe it is in the past and should stay there. unless there is a serious current issue, it is irrelevant.
2007-01-01 13:52:40 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think the biggest fear today must be 'Will it last?'. Many young women will have seen their parents getting divorced and don't want to suffer the same fate.
Having been married the first time at 19 years old, then i do think it is better to wait into your 20s to get married. The age of the man is always a factor..... a 19 year old girl may well be old enough, but i doubt that a 19 year old boy nowadays is!
A main consideration is can they support themselves as a couple? Can they rent or buy a property to live in? If a young couple have to live with parents then i don't think they should get married.
DEFINITELY a woman should be concerned about her husband to be's past. I would have thought that it goes without saying that past lives should be discussed before marriage. You need to know how and where your partner was brought up, about his parents, his siblings, his family, school, college, holidays etc etc. If you mean his past sexual life that is also extremely important as it colours how he thinks about things of that nature now.
A girl shouldnt get married until she finds a man who she loves and respects and who loves and respects her back. They should have similar wants for their future in common and be able to support themselves financially.
2007-01-01 20:19:40 · answer #2 · answered by Caroline 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, you should be concerned with your husband to be's past it will give you
some hint to his future actions.
If the relationship is great in most aspects, age should not be question. Maturity levels of each person and I mean emotional maturity as well as physical, should be taken into account.
If you feel in your heart this is the person you can spend the rest of your life with, age shouldnt matter.
2007-01-01 13:40:38 · answer #3 · answered by lizzybit64 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For both: is this going to be a faithful, lasting, mutually supporting and stable relationship in which a family could be provided for? The past is the best predictor of future behavior. As for age, our brains aren't even fully developed before age 23 or 24.
2007-01-01 13:40:05 · answer #4 · answered by DrB 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
My mum always says the question shouldn't be 'could I live with him?' but rather 'could I live without him?' . If he's the right man, age doesn't matter. Too many people just settle for a man, thinking 'he'll do'!
2007-01-06 13:32:20 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
no right or wrong age, just right or wrong people.
you have to learn to grow with each other,respect the other persons ideas and ways
never do any thing on a whim
2007-01-06 03:04:12 · answer #6 · answered by angies_angel_eyes2 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm 19 and married have been for 3 months!! Honestly i am very happy but do regret it a little and wish i had waited a few years!! Wot can i do though, i dunno is there a rite or wrong age???
2007-01-01 13:38:06 · answer #7 · answered by Jenna♥♥♥ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
mostly they are all ga ga and oblivious
what they should be afraid of is a boring loveless life
2007-01-01 13:38:40 · answer #8 · answered by kurticus1024 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Will it fit?
2007-01-06 10:04:53 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋