its to try harder in school
&
try to have a relationship with my mom
how can i commit myself and relieve the stress?
2007-01-01 13:32:44 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Psychology
Don't be to hard on yourself, ease into it. If you throw yourself full force into a resolution you get overwhelmed and ultimately fail. Try just focusing on one subject at a time in school. Week one give extra attention to English and watch TV with your mom after dinner. Week two English & Math, suggest a board game with mom. Week 3 English, Math & Science ask mom to do something together that weekend and so on until you've achieved your goal without stressing yourself out.
2007-01-01 13:42:10 · answer #1 · answered by breezy_otay 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Try harder in school - that's too vague. You'll never have anything to measure against. Set yourself a realistic and measurable goal. For instance - I will spend so many hours each night in study. (Note that I didn't say doing homework - even if you have a night with no homework or work that is done and finished, you still spend the time in study - reviewing old stuff, reading ahead - whatever.) That you can measure and keep track of and you know that you are succeeding.
Try and have a relationship with my mom. That's trickier. Is this something she wants as well? If you can, talk with her about it, and set some practical goals. We're going to go out for a meal once a month, just the two of us. I'm going to do some specific chore around the house to make her life easier. I want her to tell me the story of her life so I can write a biography for the family archive. I don't know what the problem is - but usually the more you know about one another, the better. Have her tell stories about YOUR baby years - you don't remember them, and whatever problems there may be present now weren't present then, so it should be happy memory time.
Be practical - set concrete goals and schedules that you can measure - yes I did this, no I didn't. And keep track. Write down in a calendar or a diary what you did each day, each week, whenever, toward achieving your goal.
Good luck!
2007-01-01 21:46:08 · answer #2 · answered by Uncle John 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, you have to actually want your resolution bad enough. I have a strict policy with myself to not make NY resolutions. If I really want to accomplish something I will start right then and get going on it. Trying harder in school IS always good, but maybe you're not the academic type if it comes so hard. Maybe you're more athletic or artistic. And not every mother is deserving of a relationship. Some aren't good enough to be close to. If these really are goals in your life then they will come to you day to day. If not, then maybe you need to revise your goals. Best wishes!
2007-01-01 21:57:08 · answer #3 · answered by Honesty given here! 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
. . .
Try this . . .
Replace the word ' resolution ' with ' transition '.
You are moving (transitioning) into the personal growth choice to . . .
Apply yourself to your school studies for the benefit the rewards it will bring beyond school.
The peaceful relating with your mother for the end result of knowing to value and respect your differences. You are not simply mother and daughter. . . you are also two separate individuals, two different individual ' women '. Respect and value that you are wonderfully related yet still individuals. With that knowledge you will mesh and blend together more harmoniously till you are off on your own as a young adult.
Don't ' commit ' yourself to anything. You are making a conscious choice to better your environment in school and with your mother.
Words have weight and power. Words such as ' resolution ' and ' commit ' can at times be hard. Replace those with more forward thinking words and the stress will be lessened.
Find what words work best for you and replace them with the others in your mind and heart.
And, if it doesn't happen this time "once and for all" as you phrased it...simply be patient that you are trying different paths to a healthy conclusion. If one does not work, acknowledge that, and try another and so on...patience.
2007-01-01 21:47:49 · answer #4 · answered by onelight 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
(Try chanting the maha mantra. The great mantra for deliverance from misery and illusion.) Helps one focus and control the mind in all circumstances. go to krishnaculture. for details. Read Bhagavad Gita as it is By Bhaktivedanta Prabhupada. This is the top most knowledge and helps one understand their purpose in life.
2007-01-01 22:13:36 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Focus on it. Every night before you go to bed, say it over to yourself and when you wake up do the same, and all throughout the day.
try not to get wrapped up in the social aspects of school. it'll get you in trouble.
2007-01-01 21:35:48 · answer #6 · answered by killersaint 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just do it.. dont look back.. make yourself ,make a vow to yourself not to break it..everybody has to do this at one time in their life .. you are the only one that can
2007-01-01 21:37:13 · answer #7 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋