I've known my fiance for four years, now engaged for 1 year.
I tried everything to keep the relationship going from giving her space to giving her all the attiention she needs, it's as if anything I do isn't good enough. I do understand she has hit her head pretty hard in her car wreck and I asked the her doctor will she ever get better, he replied with "who knows it could take weeks, months or even years" well it's been a two years now and I havn't given up yet, but I feel like i'm falling apart, she can be quite cold and angry for no reason and I bear with it still, I know in my heart shes a good person and I love her and I wont let this stand in the way, but dealing with this is resulting into depression. is there some way to coop?
2007-01-01 13:24:11 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
im not sure how extensive the car wreck was but i do know that when someone has a head trauma it sometimes changes who they are. I have been in an accident myself years ago and as a result I have some trying times. Perhaps seek professional help....
2007-01-01 13:29:20 · answer #1 · answered by Kathleen 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh, it is really a tough choice. No one can tell you exactly what to do. If I were you, the following list is what I am going to do. 1) Deceid stay with her or split. Morally, your will feel guilty leave her at this time, but if you do not think you can coop this maybe for the rest of your life, it is better quit now. one person suffering always better than two. 2) If your have a strong mind and great hope in your heart, your need seek for support, such as help from her family, consulting from psychologist. You need to know how to retreat yourself, taking yoga class, spa, soft music. 3) See her doctor. He/she may prescribe some medication to control her mood / behavior, or introduce her to some kind of program. I can see you have a golden heart. I wish you all the best!
2007-01-01 13:36:38 · answer #2 · answered by Cindy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry about your problem. Definitely no easy answer there. So, her personality changed after the car accident? She became more demanding/moody? If it has already been two years, I wouldn't think it is going to get much better than it is now. Have you spoken to her family? What does your family think? What does your fiance think? Can you talk with her about all this? I would think her doctor could help you find a support group or counselor who deals with this type of situation.
Sorry I can't help you more. I do admire your determination to make things work. Most guys would have bailed a long time ago.
You must be a really good person.
good luck
2007-01-01 13:31:31 · answer #3 · answered by kyletexas_123 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well you are not going to like this answer but I say cut bait.
The accident did not change her physically (in which case i would stay stick it out) but it changed her mentally to the point that she is NOT even the person that you fell in love with.
I understand that marriage is for better or for worse but you are NOT married.
If things are this bad now, your marriage does not stand a chance. NO ONE goes into a marriage hoping that things will get better.
Unfortunately, the person that you feel in love with is GONE. The person that you are with makes you depressed and you are not even married yet. To make matter worse, the doctor says that he has no idea if THAT will change.
Continue to be her friend but dont wait around for her to change as there is a good chance that she will not, why should YOUR mental health suffer as a result of her accident. YOur obligation to her ends when YOUR health suffers.
love is NOT a prison sentence and this is what this relationship sounds like it has become! DONT YOU DESERVE TO BE HAPPY! COPE (or coop) by being the best YOU that you can be, and in this case it is NOt being in a relationship with her.
If people give you shyt about it, tell them to date her.
P.s. YOU deserve to be happy.
2007-01-01 14:29:54 · answer #4 · answered by kissmymiddlefinger 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You really need to talk with someone close to you or seek some kind of counseling where they may be able to tell you how to deal with this situation. I realize neither one of you can help the things you are going thru right now but I also know how depressing and hopeless this makes you feel. good luck to you. ;o)
2007-01-01 13:34:20 · answer #5 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first off, its cope.if after 2 years she is still suffering side effects ,she should see a different doc.there is a problem there but im not a profesional. i too was in a fatal car accident with severe head trauma and am fine. did anyone die?if so, a therapist is in order asap.if not ,some wires are still getting crossed and she needs help.
2007-01-01 13:30:23 · answer #6 · answered by tajura001 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-19 08:20:15 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like she may need Professional help to get her back to the girl you fell in love with . I'm sure she doesn't want to hurt you .
2007-01-01 13:30:01 · answer #8 · answered by Geedebb 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2017-02-17 18:27:56 · answer #9 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Either accept the reality of your situation, or move on!
2007-01-01 13:27:17 · answer #10 · answered by grandm 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋