So she says on her blog that one of her New Years Resolutions was to 1. Not be my Friend.... and her bf says that she hates be and has hated me for like...3 weeks. i find that that totally improbable, becuz during that 3 weeks, we have had....((eh hem eh hem)) 1. 4 sleepovers; 2. went to the movies 2wice;. 3. went to a fair;. 4. went carrolling together...
and i don't even know why she hates me at ALL! like, she had a party last night and she ignored me ((like i thought she would)), and i told her the party was fun except for some parts. and she said tell me what they were, and i said no becuz they'd ruin our friendship. and i did and now she hates me to death. she even wrote it on her blog.
i am seeing a counselor tomorrow, and she is coming too; she just doesn't know yet. :)
so what should i do about this?? i am 13, and 50% of me wants to be her friend again and 50% of me doesn't wanna be her friend anymore. HELP!
2007-01-01 13:22:08 · 12 answers · asked by H A N N A H(: 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
ok i like totally know what ur going through...and trust me it feels like u've been split down the middel. be careful taking ur friends the to counselor..i didn that once and it only made our friendship worst. but with us girls we go throught some weird things. she may be going through a mood swing and if it is the WHOA NELLY..stand back girl and let her cool down. she may be confused and don't know what to do. i've done that just latly. if anything i've learned is that u go through mood swings were u don't know what to think or anything. i just take it easy at those times and pray to God. read my bible and sing and stay away from my friends for a bit so i don't blow my top off at them. she may be trying to send u a message or she may be confused by something u did that made her upset. my friends tell me i'm a confusing person all the time when sometimes i think they are the ones who are confusing. try talking to her first b4 u take her to the counselor. u may want to go to the cunselor on ur own first. i've gone through simialr things a few times..mainly this yr too! and everything turns out some what ok..it may be time for u and ur friend to split up too. ur friend's bfmight be making her do this also. just ask ur friend what u did and try and talk to her b4 u go to the counselor.
2007-01-01 13:37:49 · answer #1 · answered by wonderbunny22 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Seems like you both have a lot in common that can open a whole new series of 'Desperate Teens'!! It is good to talk over what went wrong in that friendship. You hinted to her about what was not fun at her party and then make no amends to explain what it is that you didn't like about it. That can be very frustrating indeed. Go for a cup of coffee and talk about your teething problems and sort it out...if you think that your friendship is worth salvaging. 'Hate' should not be a word in the vocab. for 2007! Good friendships should lasts.....Good Luck!
2007-01-01 21:56:50 · answer #2 · answered by singirl 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well its harrd ot understand the first paragraph what is the ehm eh hem??
anyways it takes to to make a relationshhip work. wheterh a friendship or a romantic one. if she is not willing to try out the friendship again than tke it as a sign of you being better off without her. try out the counseling and see if you can resolve your difference withe the counselor.
good luck I hope you get the result you want in the long run
but you will always be meeting new people all the time!
2007-01-01 21:34:56 · answer #3 · answered by laa dee da 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
well i know exactly what you are feeling. I am 14 and my bff(best friend forever) told me i was copying everything she did. But heres the thing: i guess that I was being myself which is too similar to herself for her to tolerate. All of this is caused by the most evil girl that I have to tolerate. She brought in BOTH my bffs(best friend forever NOT boyfriend and YES i had 2 friend that i liked equally and they were both "best friends"). And then she (the evil girl) made them hate me by pointing the similarities of me and my friend and she claimed i was copying her because i was a lesbo or something and was in love with her or something stupid like that. and my friend KNOWS a cant be lesbo cause i am practicall in love with a guy we alll know from gymnastics . yet she still believes that this evil girl is right and know both my best friends have turned away from me and its horrible. But this evil girl might quit gym so . problem will definitly get a lot better without her(the evil girl)being around my friend 24/7. But in any case just hang in there. Things will hopefully get better
2007-01-01 23:26:15 · answer #4 · answered by Gravenimage 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
her boyfriend (she's far too young for a boyfriend) tells you she doesn't like you, but you figure she does, because you've had all these activities together. you think she's angry at you because you told her things you didn't like about her party after you had already realized she wouldn't like hearing these things about her party.
are they things she needed to hear because of threats to her morality or development or life if she didn't know them or were they catty things that didn't need saying.
typically, friends don't ciritique your parties. if someone is being bad, their friends should try to set them right, but if the party complaints were just taste differences, you shoulda kept your mouth shut.
so, you can apologize and talk about why you felt the need to say something you knew would hurt her.
p.s. how do you get her to a counselor by surprise?
2007-01-01 22:08:51 · answer #5 · answered by cassandra 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Did you mention that you slept with her boyfriend?! The first paragraph was hard to understand. If you did...that is why she is mad. If you didn't...you obvious did something to make her upset (something small? Something big?). I would sit down and talk to her and get to the bottom of it. She might get mad if you start talking to a counselor and bringing her along.
2007-01-01 21:28:01 · answer #6 · answered by sunnysideup 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask her what her problem was. If the problem is not worth fixing don't be her friend.
2007-01-02 13:23:39 · answer #7 · answered by Candy Girl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
kick her in the teeth gurl !!! lol just kiddin~
2007-01-01 21:24:20 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Kick her ***
*Vam*
2007-01-01 22:03:00 · answer #9 · answered by Heartless Vampire 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
yeah your question is hard to understand.
2007-01-01 21:53:48 · answer #10 · answered by nobodysfool 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋