Should i feel offended?

Question

Well, a few months ago my friends grandma died and he wanted me to go to the funeral with him. I asked my mom and she was like " If you want, but they are rasist" I did not end up going since i was white and his whole family is black. Well anyways, today my friend called me and asked me a question about myspace, and there was a girl { he said it was his cousion] in the background and she was like " is the girl on the phone that white girl?" and pointed to my picture and he was like " yeah man thats my friend" and she was like " Tell that ***** to stay off of your pee pee man" I feel offended since, for one im 25 percent black and for two i shouldn't have to be black to have black friends, for three we are just friends, and for four sometimes i feel like some, i repeat some, blacks act as if whites are the only pepole being rasist. Should i feel offended?? By the way Im 15.... thanks for awnsering!

btw she said the actual word for pee pee but i don't want to get reported

Answer 1

Please don't be offended. Uncouth people are all around us and it's not worth our time and energy to dwell on what comes out of their mouths.

Your friend sounds like a reasonable person, however I would wonder what his business is allowing that kind of talk anywhere around you let alone any other of his friends. Young people today (in my opinion) have a misconception about what exactly a friend is. If he truly is your friend, you will be able to talk to him about real issues like racism and how it affects everyone (not just you).

Now your mother - if you are very close to her - please sit down and talk to her about your feelings as well. She of all people (as both mixed race and mature) should know better than most how racism affects everyone.

Again, in my opinion, taking offence is a waste of time (and can be a selfish act). Why not turn it around and learn from your feelings and act positively on them?

Blessings to you dear - you sound like a wonderful bubbly all around lovely girl.

Answer 2

I wouldn't feel offended but just remember that many people of all races are prejudiced against someone.. I wouldn't expect the frinedship to develop into more since that would be a bad family to have to deal with., Just keep your friendship apart from his family and you can save the friendship and perhaps in time they may even come to appreciate you. At 15, I expect that perhaps you will both move on and have other friends of both races so don't let this get to you.

Answer 3

I would feel offended but just remember it wasn't your friend that said it. He's probably caught in the middle of it all and if he is friends with you he probably doesn't have the same opinion as this girl does. Don't judge the guy on his family.
It may be best to bring it up and say that you don't feel comfortable around his family because of those comments, he should be understanding about it all if he's a good friend.

Answer 4

You should feel offended, but don't carry the weight of it. Tell your friend exactly what you posted here (maybe leave out the black observations). Let him know how the family / cousin has made you feel, and you don't want a dying trend called "race" ruin a good friendship. And remember... there is NO such thing as "reverse racism" only "RACISM".

Answer 5

I would not be offended by her ignorant a**! Your friend evidently likes you enough to ask you to go to his grandmother's funeral with him, so I would say that it is evident that he is not racist. Now, I will say that I believe that their are racist people of every color and although there may be a few in his family, it doesn't mean that all of his family are. Besides if he felt that his family was racist why would he ask you to come to the funeral? Remember, he let it be known to her that you were his friend so don't pay her any attention and believe me not all black people think that only white people are racist. I have encountered racist people of different races and I think that they all are ignorant.

Answer 6

As a rule, the minority racial group, in this case blacks, are far more race conscious than the majority, whites, which is quite understandable if you think about it. Your friend's sister is a racist. Why are you surprised. If you are partly black, you must have experienced racism in many forms throughout your life. I wouldn't waste your energy feeling offended by it; some people are racist; it's a fact of life.

Answer 7

You absolutely should be offended. Any person who makes racial remarks, no matter what color, age or ethnic background is the reason there is still prejudice in this country. It's small brain thinking and shows her ignorance. I feel sorry for your guy friend to have that kind of pressure put on him by his own family. I think it's his place to set her straight. Good luck with your friendship.

Answer 8

yeah she is being racist. But dont let that get you down.As long as youre friend likes you t hen to he** with her. one opinion should not get you so upset.Ignore her and her rude comments for you are better than that.At least that is the way im reading youre question.It should not matter if youre black white red or orange.we are all people and some just didnt learn manners when they grew up and she sounds like one of them.

Answer 9

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Answer 10

Death is an emotional time for anyone - best to do is to not read to deep into what happened just be supportive, maybe the cousin is lashing out because of greef and sadness. Be strong and show your support. Be the bigger person in the situation. Color is just skin deep and narrow mindness. If you cut us - do we not all bleed the same color???