I am in love with my childhood best friend and cousin, i dont even remember when it started.We are like with same personality and nature.In our teen years we got quite close and had feelings for each other,we even planned to do some stuff but were to shy to get involved in sexual way.However we got over the sex part but i still have feelings.Due to some misunderstanding we had some year gap in our friendship but we did worked on it.Now we are not kids anymore and he is engaged but whenever we get together all these feelings rush back into my mind , I know it was ok for kids to play around but not anymore so I wana get over but I dont know what to do ,I want to but i cant and I cant even stop seeing him he is like a family member.I cant talk 2 him about it ,i know it will freak him out and we will end up not evenin talking to each other while in same room.Sometime i think i cant get over this feeling because I dont know if he is over me, may be I catch signal deliberatly to cheer myself
2007-01-01 13:15:57 · 11 answers · asked by decent_guy 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
It sounds like what the two of you had was kind of a childhood crush, but he's grown out of it and you haven't. I never had sons so I'm not sure, but I think that maybe he was intrigued by sex at the time, but maybe that was because he felt safe with you, not because he was/is gay. The fact that he is now engaged proves that he has gone on with his life. This should be a signal for you to do the same. I bet he loves you as best friends, especially those from childhood, do. You should talk this out with someone outside of your family, maybe someone who has been through something similar. Respect who he is today, and cherish what you had in your youth.
2007-01-01 13:37:15 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This sounds really tough, I can't imagine going through something like that. You obviously seem to know that you /need/ to get over him, but your question is /how/. I'm sure you may have tried, but setting aside some time to think rationally about the situation is probably the best way to start... you need to clear your head and set your mind on moving on from your childhood experiences together and begin focusing on another beginning, because picking up where you left off with him unfortunately will never work.
And a couple answers in some form or another have commented on the fact that he's your cousin... I don't hold that against you. That fact that he is your cousin probably only makes the situation tougher to deal with. Anyway, I believe the best way to overcome your emotional battle is to find someone you can trust, a close friend but not relative, to talk to about it. Set aside time to do it. Talking and verbally expelling those feelings is probably going to be most effective.
Whatever you decide to do, I hope it all works out for you. Situations like this are really tough to get through sometimes. Just be happy for your cousin and the significant other that he's stumbled upon and remember there's a lot of fish in the sea. There's going to be someone else out there that could offer you so so very much it'll just knock you right on your butt.
2007-01-01 14:21:53 · answer #2 · answered by ♫ Silence 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best way to get over someone is to find someone else. He is now engaged, so give up on whatever you were thinking might happen and only get together with him in family settings. It is now time to pursue activities where you will be able to find a nice guy to date.
2007-01-01 13:29:37 · answer #3 · answered by χριστοφορος ▽ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sorry to say but I think he is over you since he's getting married. But think of it this way to get over him.....YOU'RE RELATED!!!! i know cousins don't seem to be that close but that is your aunt/uncle's child. I don't mean to be harsh but he probably doesn't really talk that much to you because he is ashamed of what happened or his feelings. I don't know since I don't know the guy but really, you need to get out there and find some other guys.... and no, not at your next family reunion either (sorry, but you had to have known that was coming).
2007-01-01 13:41:16 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not going to happen. You can't stop seeing him, fine, but find someone else with who you can have the relationship you crave. That way your unrequited feelings (I bet they are - he's gone and got himself engaged, after all) will disperse in favour of the person with who you are involved.
2007-01-01 13:25:02 · answer #5 · answered by unclefrunk 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hi.. i'm no longer in contact approximately wether others experience what i've got faith..if i've got faith something, no longer inevitably the different has the comparable feeling.. And apart from for me its hide the sensation..I dun like troubling others..for I surely have already bothered others plenty..and definitely one of my pals reported it to me as quickly as that i'm extremely stable at controlling my thoughts and thoughts..If i've got faith that it is going to likely be shared..i bypass with it.. stable day.. :)
2016-10-06 07:40:02 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Date different people. Get out with friends and just do things to take your mind off him
2007-01-01 15:13:17 · answer #7 · answered by W.E.S. 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you need to move on and start a new life like he has. Right now he is the only one you have to occupy your mind.
2007-01-01 13:18:45 · answer #8 · answered by Angela F 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Follow the advice of lilred and Silence.
2007-01-01 14:58:06 · answer #9 · answered by fall2005buseng 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Try to like other guys
2007-01-01 14:19:17 · answer #10 · answered by Just Ask :-) 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋