My dad doesn't like it when I go out with anyone who has long hair or their ears peirced. My boyfriend has a tattoo across his chest and on his arms and his ears are peirced and he has long hair and he wears it in braids. He is ghetto. My mom is a jesus freak and wont stop praying to "Get that demon out the house" makes me read the bible and **** in hopes ill break up with him. I always hang out on the streets (i live in the ghetto/hood) i hang out on the streets till like midnight with my friends and stuff even before i met him. My dad blames that on him. My dad is a pastor and I barely even believe in god anyway. Soo they don't want me going out with anyone like him. He always smells my breath because he is worried i will drink and ****. they also sneak around my room because they are afraid we will have sex i have to sneak out just to see him. what should i do about this? im 13 he is 16 he wears chains but not grillz though...Also I don't always just roam the streets with my friends and stuff parties and sometimes I stay at a friends house and spend the night or my boyfriends yes without permission..
2007-01-01 13:14:23 · 20 answers · asked by 13 year old girl 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
They are like EXTREME Christians it drives me and my sisters nuts. We don't really pay any attention to god if there even is one anyway.
2007-01-01 13:19:09 · update #1
they call me mom GET THIS THROUGH YOUR THICK HEAD.
MY SISTER WHOM IS 14 HAS THE BABY NOT ME I JUST PRETENDED.
2007-01-01 13:20:02 · update #2
I'm not that old (25) and I remember being 13, so maybe you'll listen a little more to my advice...I hope, anyway.
Whether you believe in God or not doesn't matter as far as this is concerned. A 16 year old really shouldn't have an interest in a 13 year old. I know you don't think you are, and I didn't either, but at 13 you should still be a kid. At 13, you should be in bed at midnight, not out on the streets or at your boyfriend's house. Your parents are NOT being idiots, they want what is best for you, and they don't think this guy is it. He is too old for you-when he's 20 and you're 17 he won't be, but right now there is a HUGE difference in your ages. What you should do is realize that they are doing these things in order to take care of you and make sure you don't end up on drugs or pregnant at 14. Where you live doesn't matter-the choices you make now will make a difference when you're 25 or 45. Your biggest concerns now should be school and homework and staying at your friend's house (with permission). Your parents tell you "no" for good reasons, not just because they want to make your life difficult-if you keep hanging out on the streets you're going to make your life even more difficult in the future than they are right now. Realize they love you and want you to have a good life, and that's all they're trying to do.
When I was 16, a bunch of guys who were 20 and 21 were hanging out with me and my friends...all of us now realize that there was no reason in the world for them to hang out with us other than the fact that they wanted to get some. Watch out for those guys.
2007-01-01 13:32:00 · answer #1 · answered by babygirlnc 3 · 4⤊ 0⤋
You have some issues! A.) you have a bad mouth! I wouldn't tolerate that if you were my daughter B.) You shouldn't be allowed to stay out that late, you should know better... you are only asking to get raped or hurt! C.) If your parents were so strict, they would have you home at a decent time and in bed at a decent time, not allowing you to go ANYWHERE. Sounds like you roam free a lot, so it's no wonder they worry for you. They are worried for your safety. You can't afford to pay for a child being 13. So your sister has one and she's 14? Wow.
As far as your boyfriend, he's older than you... at his age, all he's probably really interested is sex, not you as a person. Is this something you really want?
well, I do think part of the problem is you and part your parents.... they don't sound like they have complete control over you and they should. But you need to grow up and respect them. Know they have your best intrests in need, and care about you. So if you don't stop roaming the streets- I don't care if it's with friends or not... you are gonna end up on tv- a show like Nancy Grace that I watch all the time... and it won't be because you are famous, but because you are dead or missing.
P.S.- I know I may have sounded harsh to you, but I do care... when I see people who are missing or end up dead that Nancy Grace talks about, I cry sometimes. It's too sad seeing these things happen, so honestly, I don't want anything to happen to you. Try from here on out not to do anything you regret ok? Try your hardest to be a good person, because some day you will have children of your own, and the love you have for your own child is a love you can't even describe. I'm sure your parents feel this way about you hun. I have a 15 month old son, so I know this feeling.
2007-01-01 21:34:54 · answer #2 · answered by m930 5 · 6⤊ 0⤋
Ok well for 1 thing-you either believe in God or you don't-their is no "barely believe" about it-and you shouldn't "not believe" b/c your rebelling against your parents-which I strongly suspect your doing. Your parents are trying to give you guidance-they are not idiots just because you don't like the way they are doin it. You sound like you are trying very hard to rebel against them and well-any rule set forth in from of you-which is probably why they are being strict. You have to learn that part of life is obeying rules. sometimes its not fun-but its essential for staying out of jail and becoming a decent productive person. They are also trying to keep you away from the bad influence Im sure are running around the "ghetto" they are protecting you from doing irreversable damage to your life at 13. Jesus Freaks or not-they are doing the right thing in trying to get you to live in a strait manner. I know you don't want to hear all this, but they are right-I'm 21 and am telling you this because I'm approacing a point in my life where I realize my parents aren't idiots-they are actually pretty smart for doing a lot of the things they do and I'm glad they held my feet to the fire. I didn't like it at the time but it really came out better in the end. Good luck.
2007-01-02 10:34:58 · answer #3 · answered by ASH 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your parents being christian and wanting you to be one too may be very annoying to you if you don't believe in gods. However, that does not mean everything they tell you is wrong.
You are 13. You should not be sneaking out to see anyone.
You should not be on the streets till midnight.
Like their reasoning and actions or not (and I don't. I called them gestapo in another post) they are your parents and what they are telling you is for your own good. Your sister has a baby and your parents are trying to keep you from that mistake.
Grow up and do what is right; what their religion is does not change things.
2007-01-02 01:03:28 · answer #4 · answered by RjKardo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Im a christian and there is no such thing as a "jesus freak" and dont say that if your a chrisitan. They dont want you to go out with him cause of everthing that you just discribed aobut him. They pray for you so that you dont get into anything like doin drugs or non of that stuff. I feel bad for you parents cause you only 13 and you already doing ******** like this. Try to listen to your parents and follow their rules then they wont be on you so much. Damn im only 14 and Ive got into some trouble but girl you betta get straight or your life isnt goin nowhere.
2007-01-02 10:57:40 · answer #5 · answered by Kenny 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first off you should not be spending the night with him at all that can give people the wrong ideas. your parents just want to make sure u do the right thing. stop hanging out on the streets till midnight u could get hurt.
2007-01-01 21:20:22 · answer #6 · answered by texas nanna 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
All of your question are complains about your parents, about authority, about the advices that other people give you. Have you ever thought that who has the problem here IS YOU and not everybody else?? You're a spoiled little girl, wanting to do whatever she wants.
Why dont you get a job and leave your house and do whatever you want? nooo...too hard, right? Well. GROW UP.
2007-01-02 15:15:45 · answer #7 · answered by Mila S 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should listen to your parents...your way to young to be going out with a 16 year old..i know it may be only 3 years difference but that is a big difference at your age....a 16 year old boy is only wanting one thing no matter what he tells you...go to church and be a kid for a bit longer you will have plenty of time for dating! Good luck!
2007-01-01 21:19:40 · answer #8 · answered by dekota1997 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
hell, its not really their fault that thier being strict because they dont want u to make the same mistakes ur sister did.u should think of it as more or a "help" so that u dont go to a very tough life.
you shouldn't take it lightly, so that what ur experiencing now wont go even worst, like not posting that u wanted to have sex with him, cuz parents that r strict like that might take it to "the next level", u get what i'm saying?
2007-01-01 23:19:13 · answer #9 · answered by burning ice 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well as a parent if you have given your parents a reason not to trust you they wont. Team up with your friends and your boyfriend to prove to them that ALL of you can be trusted. Ask them to give him a chance and tell them that they are not the ones to judge, God is and they should know that already.
2007-01-01 21:19:11 · answer #10 · answered by Kujo 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋