I've totally fallen for this kid at work. I'm 19, and he's 17. I felt all along that he was being really flirty with me, so last week I bit the bullet and told him. He really didn't know what to say except that he wasn't interested in "that", which I took to mean men. That's all fine and good...I was upset, but I got over it. But, ever since I told him, I swear he's being even more flirty with me than he was before I told him. I'm not actively pursuing anything with him, but I really don't know what to do. In retrospect, I feel like in the conversation we had, he was trying to get out of it because it made him uncomfortable. But I don't know if it was uncomfortable because he didn't know how to deal with his feelings for me or because he was being honest. I mean, he's only 17 years old. Okay...I know it's tough not seeing this interaction first hand. Here's the question: If the above situation happened to you, would you consider the possibility still open, or move on to other things?
2007-01-01 13:09:21 · 17 answers · asked by Doug 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
I live in Massachusetts. Age of consent: 16.
2007-01-01 13:19:39 · update #1
Although he is sending mixed signals, I would take him at his word when he said he wasn't interested in "that". Since you say you have fallen for him you could also be reading things into his actions that are not there. You should definitely move on to other things.
2007-01-01 13:17:10 · answer #1 · answered by χριστοφορος ▽ 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe it's not head games. Maybe, at 17, he is just as inexperienced as you were at 17. Possibly he does not realize his manner is in any way flirtsy and enticing. Or I wonder whether he is only being consistent. It would help if you would explain some of his flirty behavior, but I suppose we don't have all day. Anyway, as long as he said he was not interested in "that," then you should do as JBoy Wonder says and/or keep your distance from him. Who knows what he is capable of blabbing to other people around you... And if I were you, I would look for someone exactly the same age or a little older than 19.
2007-01-01 15:07:00 · answer #2 · answered by fall2005buseng 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What I would do is pretend to be no longer interested, make absolutely no moves towards him, and leave the ball entirely in his court. If he keeps flirting, he's either interested (and was just too inexperienced and nervous to admit it), or he's an attention-seeker who just wants to be admired. Hopefully, if it's the latter and you ignore his efforts, he'll soon get bored and move on.
I wouldn't hold your breath waiting, though - if he's unsure of his own feelings, he could really mess you about, even unintentionally. Play it cool, but don't turn down other offers for his sake.
2007-01-01 13:27:16 · answer #3 · answered by JBoy Wonder 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think that you should move on, but don't shut him out. Look at other guys, but he knows how you feel and if he wants you, he'll come to you. You've done the brave thing and now it's up to him.
I was in a very similar situation, but the roles where switched. He told me he loved me and at the time I didn't think he was who I wanted. Now, he has almost cut me out of his life completely and now I realize what I've done. I'm still not in love with him, but I do wish we had what we used to have.
Good luck to you and I hope things work out.
2007-01-02 16:43:47 · answer #4 · answered by Liir 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok well it sounds like he is playing head games with you.
Now either he is interested and simply isn't ready to confront those feelings yet - in which case give it time.
or
He is just playing games with you because he thinks its funny and gives him an ego boost.
Personally I would move on to other things because either he is going to keep on playing games with you and it is going to become very uncomfortable there for you at work -or- if you are very unlucky, he may try to use your attraction to him in a very negative way - in otherwords use you for uhm sexual release - ie. a bj or otherwise meaningless booty call.
Either way be careful and best of luck
2007-01-01 13:20:13 · answer #5 · answered by Christian P 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-19 08:19:30 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Move on man, he's playing head games with you and he's not old or mature enough to understand what he's doing or the consequences of his flirting,ignore him,dont respond to his flirting and either of two things can happen, he will chase yo u harder or he will stop altogether
2007-01-01 15:48:19 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask him to hang out with you, buy a sixpack and have a few drinks in the park, and then go to the movies. In the dark, see what happens.
2007-01-01 22:00:42 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd consider his age and move on for at least a year. Have you ever heard the term Jailbait?
2007-01-01 13:13:43 · answer #9 · answered by CapeCodGram 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He's already playing head games with you. Why would you want to continue? Move on to other things.
2007-01-01 13:12:20 · answer #10 · answered by castle h 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋