my best friend had a birthday dinner and didn't invite me. i dont see any signs that she doesnt like me and we aren't fighting, things were going great. i found out through her weblog about the dinner, and i tturns out she invited a lot of people that she just met (we just got to different schools). i tried confronting her about why but she just said i dont know and stop pressuring me and i thought you would be busy (which she could of still asked me instead of just deciding). whats wrong? should i get over it or be mad? i feel betrayed and confused but idont want to lose her, so i try to ignore it.
2007-01-01 13:03:24 · 10 answers · asked by Traci L 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
I would talk to her and let her know that your feelings were hurt because you consider yourself her friend and you weren't invited to her birthday dinner, if she cares she will explain herself and maybe even apologize. If not then to h*ll with her and for you to look for a real friend.
2007-01-01 13:17:23 · answer #1 · answered by juicie813 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It never hurts to tell a friend that your feelings have been hurt in a non-confrontational way but you should look at this from her prospective before you read to much into it.
Since you two are going to different schools, she needs to make friends at her school and sometimes meeting/getting to know new people is difficult when you have someone that knows you well around. She is forming new relationships and I am sure that as her best friend, you would not want her to go into a social coma just because you are going to different schools.
If I were you I would assume that she wanted to spend some time getting to know new people and her birthday was a good excuse to have a gathering and that she was afraid that you would not understand or have hurt feelings if she told you about it but did not invite you.
2007-01-01 13:22:04 · answer #2 · answered by flappymcp 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ouch, yeah that hurts when a best friend does that. it sounds like she is trying to fit in with her new friends. sometimes people do and say stupid things to impress others and it hurts relationships. she wants to be with these girls and doesn't know how to tell you. she doesn't want to hurt your feelings but she may be the one hurt if these other girls decide not to be friends with her anymore and she pushed you away. so if you can try to talk to again and ask where your friendship stands and if she is still planning on being friends with you. at least you will know one way or another. GOOD LUCK. hope things work out!!!
2007-01-01 13:10:46 · answer #3 · answered by onyx maiden 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if she's really your best friend then she will eventually tell you. yeah it hurts but is it going to do u any good to be mad? try to start hanging out with some of your other friends more, you never know when a friendship will click and you will have another even better friend.
2007-01-01 13:18:36 · answer #4 · answered by angel1 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would feel betrayed also. And I truthfully think I would look for another best friend. Especially since she won't even answer you when you ask questions about it. Good luck.
2007-01-01 13:07:05 · answer #5 · answered by donnabellekc 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
no matter what, don't ignore it. if you do she will keep it up, taking advantage of your ignorance. i had a friend who always said if you don't do this or give me that i won't be your friend any more. i finally caught on and we were no longer friends. she moved away and came back. we are friends now if not the best friends. i won't dare let her do that again. don't be ignorant. it can kill.
2007-01-01 13:19:41 · answer #6 · answered by buddy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would feel betrayed to but maybe there was a reason she didn't invite you. If she is one of your closer friends then talk to herbut if she isn't maybe you should move on, in a nice way.
2007-01-01 13:10:59 · answer #7 · answered by :) 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
find a new circle of influenece and move on
life is simple, you make choices and dont look back
2007-01-01 13:23:56 · answer #8 · answered by Aaron J 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you don't want to loose her, then ignore it; but if it really matters to you, then move on!
2007-01-01 13:06:44 · answer #9 · answered by grandm 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
she is not a good friend. You should forget her
2007-01-01 13:08:57 · answer #10 · answered by BÃch Ngá» 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋