if u were low on funds for christmas would u do this:
a. buy your boyfriend a card
b. make a home made card or note
c. give yourself as a present
d. do nothing at all, cuz he love u and will understand
my girllfriend of a year told me that she was going to be low on funds for christmas this year and said that she would not be able to give me anything, which i was ok with until on christmas morning she presented her grown daughter a necklace for her bday (dec 25) and a card with a christmas I.O.U in it and i got nothing. i felt she could have done something but to do this was coldhearted and insensitive. what do u think
2007-01-01
12:57:34
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keithy
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for flagger i was not saying she should have stiffed her daughter but a simple hand writen note would have been nice. and to give her daughter the iou in my presence was not very nice
2007-01-01
13:04:37 ·
update #1
so it appears that it is ok for a woman to treat a man like a piece of dirt but if a man does it he is a dog. i am fully aware that her daughter is more important than me as she has told me more than once, but like i said the gift is not the issue rather the card with the IOU
2007-01-01
13:09:24 ·
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AGAIN its not the present but the card with the iou note. she could have done the same for me.
2007-01-01
13:35:50 ·
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You sound like a narcissist, **** i feel bad for your girlfriend...hey at 46 you seem a bit immature to be jealous of her child.
GROW UP you retard, if I was her I would have given you SQUAT, cause your a truck driver and you already make enough money...why didnt you borrow her some???
RETARD!
2007-01-01 17:17:06
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answered by Anonymous
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I agree she could of just wrote a poem or did something from the heart. 9 out 10 gifts from the heart are better then a gift bought. She could of thought that since she said she could not get you anything that you knew this and it should be okay. I do not think it right but sometimes people do things and don't mean anything by it but still hurt people in the end. I suggest you talk to her about and emphasize of the fact that you would liked just something from her heart you did not need a gift or an IOU. Also if she told you that and still bought the gift and got the card and IOU she could of presented this when you were not present. I understand that her daughter is important and what not but its not an excuse. Good luck the woman you are dating.
2007-01-01 18:13:26
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answered by Danielle 4
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Ok, I may be a woman, however, let me ask you this, do you think my fiance is being coldhearted by giving everyone else in the family (his side) gifts and our daughter a few things, yet, I have received absolutely nothing but...he had me open a gift this year to which was a gift card my mother had given him for christmas and he told me that it was so that I had something to open up.
His exuse was he didn't have time to shop for me, yet, he had been laid off from work for a week and had time to shop for his family.
So my answer to you, because I had to struggle for a few years to get my daughter's father to realize she needed to come first before his family, I can understand why your woman did what she did.
However, I do know the pain of not being acknowledged for the holidays and watching everyone receive something. But the one thing you have to take into consideration is the fact that does your woman do other things for you that she does not do for others and I am not talking about sex either.
But what you can do is let her know that what she did hurt your feelings and that it's not like you wanted something materialistic, you just wished you had been acknowledged such as receiving a poem from her or something...maybe she didn't realize what she did.
2007-01-01 13:19:10
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answered by !?! 2
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It would have been nice if she had done something for you. How ever, you can't put yourself in the same catagory as her daughter. That's her child. Comparing how she treats her child compared to you is ridiculous. I don't know if I would call what she did do coldhearted but, it was certainly insensative. She could have done any one of the things you mentioned. One Christmas my husband and I were broke after we bought for the kids. He still says that was the best Christmas he ever had. Ahh. to be that young again!!!
2007-01-01 13:06:34
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answered by mjm52 4
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don't let it bother you. she may have been saving a fund for her daughter's birthday because she couldn't get her anything last year. You are a boy friend but her daughter is her relative. If you do become more than friends in time, I am sure the tables would be turned and you would get the present and her daughter a card.
2007-01-01 13:02:52
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answered by Al B 7
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Not cold-hearted but not very kind either. The gift for the daughter was a priority and for that she should not be considered cold-hearted. As far as giving the gift to her daughter in front you, would you have been upset to have been excluded from the festivities? D - is my answer especially after telling my boyfriend I was low on cash I would expect him to understand. However, I would definately make it up to him...
2007-01-01 13:24:30
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answered by starfire 4
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I have to agree with you. I feel that if times are hard, they are for me; then you have to put some effort into it and think of something.She could have even came on here for someone Else's ideas and at least she would have tried. I seen a cute idea this Xmas. This young woman I know did what she could for her boyfriend and also threw in a coupon book that was hand made, and a nice job she did. It had several different coupons that he could cash in for things that she described that she knew he would love. I seen the biggest smile on his face when he opened it and wished that I would have thought of something like that. She sounds insensitive and thoughtless. (sorry)
2007-01-01 13:16:42
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answered by *queenfairy1*Antioch California 7
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she should only get her child a gift if she can only get one person a gift. The fact that she talked to you about it before hand shows that she carded enough to do so. And really would you have kept the home made card,or store bought card, or would it have it gone in the trash. Did she kiss you did she tell you that she loved you, wasn't that enough of a gift.
2007-01-01 13:09:06
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answered by lee b 2
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yes I can understand where your coming from . okay so she didn't have the money but she could have made you a poem or maybe a nice romantic evening of pleasuures you enjoy or a massage things like that . also could have made you a card her self. she's not to creative perhaps in that area. but yes she shouldn't have forgotten you just cause she had no money there are other ways of saying your special to me .
Sorry for your heartache..
2007-01-01 13:08:51
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answered by For ever in my Heart 7
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I probably would have done something of the sort. i didn't do anything for my husband BUT that is different we instead had the pleasure of watching our 2 year old open his couple gift we got for him. but being that you two are b/f g/f i would think she would have done something! did you talk to her about it? she could act a couple different ways. she could be sympathetic and apologize, and tell you she didn't think you would mind. or she could get defensive so it is up to you on if you are going to say anything to her. Good luck I hope it goes well!
2007-01-01 13:20:59
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answered by Anonymous
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