How does someone who gives and gives and gives but never takes...?

Question

have a strong relationship with someone else? Do they have to both be givers and by both being the same way learn to accept eachother's giving, or do you need a giver and a taker. I have my opinion, whats yours?

Answer 1

i dont think you can have a mature strong relationship with someone if you are only a giver,,,, nor could two givers develop it,,,,, learning to accept, and take,,, is part of being "an adult"

Answer 2

There is no give with out take.
In a relationship where they are both givers they would both accept what is given them making them takers at times.

Answer 3

Both have to be give and take. One person, no matter how whole-hearted and loving, cannot give eternally without getting anything in return. That person eventually has nothing left to give and then the "takers" are no longer interested (I'm sure you've known people who have been used this way).

Conversely, one person, no matter how needy, cannot simply take eternally. Eventually the "giver" has nothing left to give and both are left with nothing.

Answer 4

I think someone who "gives and gives" and never takes might use that as a good way not to get close to someone. The word "relationship" has the word "relate" in it for a reason. In order to relate, you need to have both people giving and "taking"--though I like to think of it more as giving and receiving. Taking implies it's done like thievery--receiving is like accepting a gift, which you need to do in order to open yourself up to someone. I think people are in different places on that spectrum--and some people have a harder time giving than receiving than vice-versa--but you can work that out. However, I think if one is all or nothing, you're going to have problems.

Answer 5

Never to receive? as though we were the complete source to meet all the needs we see. and feel surely the day will come when I will be depleted and no longer the giver, yet the day of depletion comes and I find myself in need to either receive or not, the choice is given me to be on the other end . there is more to say , yet, I will stop there.

Answer 6

in a relationship it is more important to give than get...you concetrate on giving and getting comes of its own accord be it gratitude or something tangible.
giving gives you a feeling like none other like this persons life is different because of YOU
and getting makes you feel deserving of it only if you have given...but in a relationship two people are involved whatever it may be we mustnt forget that
if one person is giving and the other person only takes without appreciation w/o ever giving...this has an adverse effect and its called taking advantage of generosity
my grandfather used to tell me this:
"dont be so bitter that someone has to spit you out but dont be so sweet that someone will chew you up"

Answer 7

Everybody gives and everybody takes whether they are aware of it or not. What happens sometimes is someone takes from another but what they give is not needed by the other. So it appears one strictly gives and one strictly takes. Does that make sense?