Maybe you can offer some insight on this matter?

Question

I am gay but I have long thought that homosexuality is wrong because it is sex just for the physical and emotional feeling... that the physical nature of it is base and that emotional companionship is available via safer, more virtuous (I'm Catholic, too, by the way) means.

However, I have a hard time seeing why God would even care if I love a woman and want to marry her. I mean, He made me this way, so I don't see why it should really be a problem so long as I am chaste and exhibit virtue and love for Him and all His creation.

The thing that hurts and really bothers me is that although I'm celibate, if I were to enter into a relationship, it would cut me off from the Most Holy Sacraments, which I love dearly and I find tremendously important. I do not see why, if I have a girlfriend and am indeed much more chaste than my straight friends, I am a mortal sinner and cannot recieve the Blessed Sacraments. What has companionship with a lovely lady to do with the Eucharist?

I am most certainly not willing to change churches because I believe that, though it is flawed, the Roman Catholic Church is right in many more important respects. I understand that nothing but God is perfect so I suppose I am willing to forgive the Church this painful flaw, and remain a faithful matter of the congregation.

P.S.: If you're Catholic, I'd especially appreciate your thoughts on the matter.

Answer 1

One's own faith is a very personal thing. If you want to figure out your religious beliefs, then it's up to you to figure them out however you choose, whether that be through prayer, or researching the biblical references, or asking a member of your clergy for their insight on the subject.

Answer 2

every catholic is called to be chaste
a priest is celibate but he will not think about dating some girls
marriage is a union between a man and a woman
love is a matter but marriage is another matter
i don't know how to answer your question
i will answer you by asking you a question:" why there are suffering on the world if there is a loving God?"
i don't know the way of God.it is too high for human to understand
maybe he wants you to carry the heaviest cross
the book of Job may give some food for thought
no one has everything and no one has nothing
you only exchange what you have to get what you want
so what do you really want?
what is the meaning of life? it is to die,but the matter is how will we face the death,will we regret for something,or will we calmly face it
you only have one life,you must live it well
i'll pray for you
i hope you will make a right decision

Answer 3

I appreciate your feelings, but I would say that the church is a human institution, and cannot speak for God.
If you have a personal relationship with God, you should make your peace with Him, and not worry about what His flawed human representatives say.
I know this sounds like a simplistic answer, but it's the way I found to reconcile my religious beliefs with my sexuality. I had to think and pray very hard to find out that I believe my faith is in God, not in any man-made institution that 'interprets' His word. It may not work for you, as you have said that you find the Sacraments important.
I hope you can find a way to be happy and at peace with yourself.

Answer 4

Pope John Paul II said that he felt homosexuality was another burden (or cross) placed on an individual for them to carry while following the path of righteousness (I'm paraphrasing). Pope Benedict XVI is equally adamant (or intransigent).

With such an attitude presented by the Pontiff, I very much doubt you'll be able to reconcile your desire for a relationship with the ability to receive the Blessed Sacraments.

Answer 5

I was raised Lutheran and my sister converted to Roman Catholicism when she married, so I have learned that the only difference between the two is acknowledgment of the Pope.

My feelings are that it is not your Creator who has a problem with any of His creations, but some of His followers who, although having good intentions, are misguided.

I would suggest that you visit the website of a group named Dignity which specifically addresses the needs and concerns of GLBT Catholics.

Answer 6

The Church, like most reactionary heterosexuals would have a nervous breakdown if it had to admit that living according to the Nature that God gave you is an expression of Gods gift and will.

It would mean that the Authority for how you live your life is God, and that aurhority is communicated a dialogue between God and you. Your sexual and gender identity is God telling you who you are. The Church's role would then be to blend all the faithful together into a community of people defined in all their variety, united in service to God.

That, then, would cut the pope, and millenia of ecclesiastical culture out of its authoritarian, middleman role. They would then be reference guides, pastors, social workers, and historians.....no longer would they be infallible demi-gods and authorities.

Like anyone who has power (whether they physically enforce it, or maintain it by manipulation of propaganda or doctrine) they have identified themselves with it, and cannot let go the power without losing their identity.

Redefining the Church and its role in your life is just too much for them to do. They would have to surrender their identity, and plunge into the waters of the Jordan and rely on God to pluck them out and show them a way to lead a flock that creates boundaries to protect them, without stifling their varied and divine Natures.

Answer 7

Well I'm a Lutheran which is still Christian & you're a smart girl. You know God made you that way & will love you no matter who you share your bed with. Don't listen to people tell you it's a sin. You have a heart & God loves you & I really hope you find the love of your life, everyone deserves happiness

Answer 8

John 17:a million-6--- Jesus advised each and every man or woman that-- the daddy is the basically genuine God. a million cor 8:6-- Paul taught an same. a million cor 15:24-28--Jesus will develop right into a subject matter to his God and Father after he palms decrease back the dominion( kingship) after his one thousand year reign. Rev 3:12-- Jesus less than pressure to all who believe him that he has a God--- The trinitys would might want to coach that God has a God in that truth--with yet another God over there. Jesus continuously pointed his followers and gave all honor to his God-(Jehovah-psalm 80 3:18 each and every israelite for one thousand,s of years inclusive of Moses,David,Abraham,pastime,Isaiah, etc all served the genuine God--all of them served a unmarried being God named YHWH(Jehovah)

Answer 9

Gay women are usually overweight by some or too much. Instead of dieting & working out they go for another woman usually unattractive. Then they don't have to stress watching the figure.God invented sex, only human beings indulge in sex for re-production & pleasure because it was intended that way.All straight people having sex (pure sex no brthcntrl no condms etc.know they are repopulating the human race.) When they use other things bpills condoms etc they are engaging in pleasure sex for reasons like..they have enough kids, dont want any or anymore.What are gays doing??????Maybe companionship has nothing to do with the Eucharist in some peoples eye.but gay sex is direct disrespect to the body of CHRIST which Catholics believe to be all christians.

Answer 10

Because the pontiff says so. And I think he's wrong.

I'm not Catholic, but my mother's side of the family are and burdens of guilt the Church has placed upon my relatives is astonishing.