She doesn't like opening gifts in front of people and doesn't want to be the center of attention.
2007-01-01 12:46:53 · 10 answers · asked by faberge 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Newborn & Baby
Your friend probably does want a baby shower....she just isn't comfortable with the attention. So....invite people she knows well and make it more of a get together than a big baby shower she isn't comfortable with. Instead of opening gifts....turn it into a scavenger hunt. Put on the invitations that the gifts will be turned into a scavenger hunt game for everyone.....this way she isn't unwrapping gifts----she is finding them!!
Make it fun....but not over the top. Keep it adult if she is uncomfortable with the idea. PLUS...she doesn't even really have to open the gifts at the shower if she is really uncomfortable with it (eventhough most people will want to see what she got!! Nothing is as adorable as those little pajamas!!).
If you do give the shower.....think about getting a diaper cake!! They make wonderful centerpieces and can double as the gift for mom!! Match one up to the theme of the shower...or the nursery decor!!
2007-01-03 12:20:04 · answer #1 · answered by diapercakesbybecca 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your friend does not want a shower for whatever reason, then why torture her? I find it strange that anyone would not want to recieve lots of attention and better yet, Gifts! LOL But regardless, some folks are that way. What I do, esp. if I have not attended a shower is to arrive at the hospital with a nice thotful gift or when I eventually visit in the home take the baby and/or the new mommie a gift. That way she can receive gifts one at a time and not in a crowd. Maybe friends and family could drop off gifts of food which would probably be recieved very thankfully when mommie comes home from the hospital and needs some good home cooked meals.
2007-01-01 23:52:38 · answer #2 · answered by DT 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have a "drop by" shower. Plan for her and you and any other hosts to be there for 4-6 hours. This will spread the guest out over a large time frame and she won't be so overwhelmed and the center of so many people's attention!
This is the type of shower my church gives, since the congragation is much larger than the guest list for most showers it is a very good option. Many people will just drop by long enough to drop off a gift and say congrats!
Have a large table set up to display gifts. Serve cake, punch, coffee, chips, nuts, pastel mints. Something sweet, something salty. Nothing that will spoil if left out the entire shower.
No games required!
But if you would like a 'game' you can start a pot where people guess the baby's due date or weight for $1and the closet guess wins the pot!
Or
Give each guest a blank note card-start with # 1-the 1st person to arrive writes a message for baby's 1st birthday. The 20th guest will recive a blank note card with the #20 on the envelope and will write a message for baby's 20th birthday.
A nice journal (from the dollar store) can be placed by the door with a pen and guest can write wishes and advice to the new parents.
In the invites give directions for each guest to get a 8.5x11 piece of paper and decorate it for the baby however they wish, then place all pages in a 3 ring binder and have the hosts decorate the front--give to baby on a certian date (like when their 1st baby is born!)
run everything by the guest of honor 1st to make sure she's okay with it
HTH
2007-01-01 21:26:33 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If she doesn't want one then it might not be a good idea to go against her wishes. If you do then make it a drop in shower set a time usually 2 or 3 hours where guests can drop in and give their gift. That way everyone won't show up at once and she might be more comfortable with just a couple friends at a time. Do something to take the attention off her, play games with the guests if there are enough there at once.
2007-01-01 21:59:02 · answer #4 · answered by honeybear 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't have goofy games!!! How about hosting a gift cards and casseroles shower.
People either bring a gift card to a baby related store, or they bring a frozen casserole, so that in the first days she's home with the baby, she doesn't have to worry about making dinner.
2007-01-01 21:40:08 · answer #5 · answered by naenae0011 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have the shower at a restaurant that she likes and have everyone give her gift cards to buy the baby stuff. It could just be like a "girls night out".
2007-01-01 20:52:35 · answer #6 · answered by jenw1403 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Explain to her that you want to do something special and respect her wishes and will plan something within reasoning of what she likes. I would host a BBQ and invite close family and friends, male and female. Let them know that she's not into opening gifts and shy, but point them out to the registry. Let them know that it's informal and it's going to be fun. Play music, some games, and low key on the decor.
2007-01-01 20:55:17 · answer #7 · answered by joy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Couple showers are very popular these days and it helps put a little of the attention on someone else...Good luck!!
2007-01-01 20:49:07 · answer #8 · answered by dekota1997 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i'm hard pressed to understand how one gives something to a friend that the friend has said she does not want.
r-e-s-p-e-c-t ....
2007-01-01 21:55:39 · answer #9 · answered by cassandra 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She said she doesn't want one, listen to her!
2007-01-01 21:05:18 · answer #10 · answered by Lili 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋