My best friend's dad just died today. I just found out a couple hours ago. I don't know what to do. I feel so badly for her and her family. I want to call her, but I'm not sure if I should yet. Should I give her space for a while and let her calm down a little on her own, or should I call and talk with her now? If so, what do I say? I'm scared for her...and sad, too. I'm so confused. What do I do?
2007-01-01 12:30:20 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Whatever you say, it won't change the fact that he's gone. Don't tell her everything will be okay, because it will just get her irritated and angry. The best thing you can do is sit with her, and let her know you're there for her. If she wants to ***** about life, you'll listen, if she needs to cry, you'll sit and even cry with her. Knowing that you're not alone in this sort of experience is the best help you could ever get. She won't forget you for this. Just remember, it's not a bad thing if she wants space. Sometimes it takes a while to digest obviously.
Death happens. It's okay for you to be sad, and confused. You knew her dad, and she's your friend. Obviously this has had an effect on you, and talking to someone about it might help you get through this too.
I'm extremely sorry for your loss. Hope for the best.
2007-01-01 12:35:13 · answer #1 · answered by ItalianBella 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Some people like to be left alone with their family when these things happen, but some like to hav someone special beside them when it does. Since u two r best friends i think u should call her to make sure she is okay. My best friend's mom died 3 days before Thanksgiving so i know what u are going through. She stayed home half of the week after, but me and my friends made sure she was okay either by calling or going to see her after school. She is doing really well and she is like herself again for the most part. It will be a while before things settle down and become normal for her again, but if she knows she has people who care about her and will help her through all of this she will be fine. Just remember not to rush into things with her. I cant really tell u what to say and i dont think anyone else can. What u say to her should come from u and no one else. U will knw what to say when u talk to her. Since u two r best friends it will come naturally because u knw each other well.
2007-01-01 13:25:49 · answer #2 · answered by BabyGirl142 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just avoid the early busy time when she may be involved in making funeral arrangements. There is no harm in calling her after the funeral arrangement have been completed (per your guess) if you think of her as a best friend. Say that you are sorry for her loss and my the Almighty give her patience to bear the loss with dignity and that you will pray for her.
2007-01-01 12:39:13 · answer #3 · answered by Ottawan-Canada 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should call her and let her know you are there for her and her family. Tell her you are sorry for her loss and that if she needs to talk she can come to you. She's going to be in a bad state but you need to be strong for her as well. Comfort her, this is a time where she needs you the most.
2007-01-01 12:35:39 · answer #4 · answered by Blood&Wine 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
call her in about 2 dayz so she know that u care.when u talk 2 her b comforting.just tell her everything is going 2 be ok,maybe start talkin 2 her about good times shes had with her dad.but the main thing is just be there 4 her.well im sorry 4 ur loss & good luck with ur friend.
2007-01-01 12:53:29 · answer #5 · answered by ♥!jamie!♥ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if she is your best friend, you should call her or go see her. my dad died dec. 29 of 2004. at 4 in the morning when i found out he had died, i called my best friend and she got up out of bed right then and came to my house. she stood by me the whole time. i am thankful to have had her.
2007-01-01 12:41:28 · answer #6 · answered by goodgirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Call her.
Hold her hand.
Go to the funeral with her.
Cry with her.
Check on her.
Ask her if there is anything you can do.
She will be sad for a very long time. Be her friend for a very long time.
2007-01-01 13:00:28 · answer #7 · answered by adamsjrcn 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first give her some space and try to not talk about it so much unless she says somethng about it first. she will probably be sad for a while just try to comfort her more and be there for her...because she is going through a tuff time right now.
2007-01-01 12:40:38 · answer #8 · answered by BrOkEn_LuLLabY...♥ 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You should let her heal on her own. It just takes time for her to heal from her dad passing away. What did he die of?
2007-01-01 12:35:30 · answer #9 · answered by girlygirl 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋