would you let your child who is 3 years old around a stepmother?

Question

is it healthy for the child in this age to bb exposed to atep-mother surrounding??

Answer 1

As long as she is not evil or wicked.

Answer 2

Yes, as long as I don't fear for the child. If you are asking the question, I'm not sure if you fear some actual "danger" while she is with another caregiver, or if you are afraid that your child might take a liking to the other "mother figure". It could happen, but rather than cat-fight, or talk badly about the other "step-mother", you should probably just accept the fact that she is in the child's life, and hope that she has her best interests at heart. Also, as long as you both don't "poison" the child against the other... no problem.. The child will adapt and be supported by you both. It shouldn't be a competition if you both want to care for your child. Let it happen.

Answer 3

Speaking from the point of view of the step mother at three it is a lot easier for your child to adjust to the step parent. I am a custodial step mom to two girls ages 7 and 11. My husband and I have been together for the past 5 years. I have to admit that it was much easier on my youngest step daughter than my oldest. The hardest thing for both girls is being put in the middle of the issues that their Mom has either with me or with their Dad. I would say if you can to contact this step mom if possible. Don't pretend that you want to be her best friend--that will scare the hell out of her. Just tell her that you would to discuss your child. Don't overstep your bounds--you can not make rules for the other household, you can not dictate how their life is lead but you can be concerned for your child.

Answer 4

unfortunately, if a non-custodial parent has visitation and has remarried then yes you have to concede that the stepmother will be there. she might be a good person and not have any ill affects on the child or it may be the other way around. just keep a diary of how the child acts after coming home from a visit. document any signs of abuse with both pictures and a trip to the child's doctor. I've been through this situation (except i was the step-mama) the child came to our house every other weekend she wore clothes 2 sizes too small, she had head lice, she was so hungry that she made herself sick by eating too much. this was every other weekend and holidays. take it from me, be very observant of how she comes home.
i know that we never want to let our kids go in these situations, but maybe it will be OK. good luck to you and your daughter

Answer 5

Why wouldn't it be? She is married to the child's father,so she is in fact the step mother true,but why wouldn't it be healthy for the child to be around a step mother,you are making it sound like being a step parent is a disease and it certainly is NOT. However,if the conditions are NOT at all good or safe for the child,that is an entirely different matter. Sounds like you need to come down to earth and talk to the child's Father as well as the step Mother and set some ground rules,and give the woman a chance. I have been a step child as well as my own children having a step parent,in my own case,the step parent was NOT a desirable person,but for my own children it was a different matter. She was good to them and even asked what our household rules and routine were,so it was equal in both households. Lots of children in the world today have step parents and it is a very healthy good relationship. We are NOT in the dark ages,this is 2007,hello........Happy Prosperous New Year to your child and the rest of the child's family as well.

Answer 6

A biological mother brings a child into the world.
The real mother of a child is the one who is there for the kid through life's growing up and experiences. The one who has the shoulder to cry on and put a bandage on a wound and kiss the child. It is possible to love one that you did not biologically create. Which is this person?

Answer 7

The child will have less problems adjusting to the new step mother while young. Just make sure this is a healthy environment, that the father is going to be there and monitor everything until assured the new one knows how to care for the child.

Answer 8

Healthy? I have raised 3 kids that have "real moms". I have 2 girls of my own too. I see it that none of these kids ASKED to be put into these situations. They're kids. All of them! They have always BEEN and will always BE- my kids. They never called me "mom" by name, but usually refer to me as "my mom" when talking to friends, teachers, etc. Makes me very proud to be MOM in their minds & hearts! t doesn't matter what name they call me. Same rules for all of them, any punishnents are discussed prior with the kids. And good communication between you and the "other mother" is essential! NEVER EVER bad-mouth a child's parent! There's no reason they need your disapproval or opinions to divide a child's love and devotion. All the parents need to find a workable routine to keep each other informed & included in the raising of the children. Be CONSISTENT!!!!

Answer 9

well,if shes kind and the child likes her ok,of course i would personally get to know her try to be friends for your childs sake.i don't mean you have to hang out but definately watch and see the way your child and step mom react to each other in situations.a 3 yr.old will tell you if something is wrong and they will act out but under no circumstances would i allow my child to call some one else mom or anything related to it.i would stay close w/dad as well.how much time is the child going to spend w/this person.dad should make the parenting skills you 2 have agreed upon stay as they are[ discipline ] this should be discussed amongst the 3 of you along w/other things.good luck w/your extended family,because that is what it is now.

Answer 10

Depends on the situation. If the adults get along for the child's sake, and the step-mother treats the child fine then there shouldn't be a problem.

Answer 11

If the child's father has joint custody or visitation rights you really don't have a choice in this.

Unless the woman is dangerous to the welfare of your child the step-mother will be a part of your child's life as long as she's married to the father.