Does bisexual always mean/lead to gay?

Question

I'm dating a guy who's bisexual. He seems more curious than anything. He says he likes girls, but he just wants to see what its like. Does anyone have any experience here? Any guys been bi-curious and then gone straight? What are the chances

Does it mean I'm wasting my time? He seems into me.

Be serious please!!!

Thanks so much for not making jokes, I appreciate the serious and honest answers. Thanks!

Answer 1

Definitely not. You should go down to the forums at bisexual.com and see witness to all the many men and women who have been bisexual for all their lives.

In my opinion, a 'bisexual' who 'turns gay' was never really bisexual in the first place, but probably still figuring out his/her sexuality, or in denial or using it as a way to ease into homosexuality or heterosexuality gently. Now, there are many bisexuals who choose to date only one sex, and if that's the same sex, someone might say they 'turned gay', but if their desires are still there for both sexes, they're still bisexual, regardless of who they sleep with and date.

Don't think of this as wasting your time. If he seems into you, then he's into you, and the only fears you have to battle regarding his bisexuality are the same that any person, any gender or sexuality, has to battle- the fear of a lover leaving/cheating. It just happens to be that it could be with a woman or a man.

Please read up on male bisexuality (there are several good books out there) and check out the website I mentioned. Be supportive of your guy and listen to him and what he's feeling about the subject before jumping to any conclusions.

Good luck!

Answer 2

The Bible and Morality One of the biggest changes in our modern times has been in regard to views on morality. Practices formerly considered abhorrent have become acceptable. Women bearing children out of wedlock are no longer shunned by society. Homosexuals openly campaign for their “rights.” A widely held view is that no one has the right to complain about or interfere with any practices that take place between consenting adults. And the Bible’s standards are rejected as Victorian. But the Bible’s standards were set by God long before the 19th century, the age of Queen Victoria of England. And they continue to prove good for mankind. Certainly this can be seen when one considers that, hand in hand with the “new morality,” there have come skyrocketing divorce rates, multitudinous abortions, an epidemic of teenage pregnancies, and a vast array of sexually transmitted diseases. These are costly, debilitating, and even death-dealing problems. Would it not be more practical to follow the Bible’s counsel regarding sex, chastity, and marital faithfulness?—Proverbs 5:3-11, 15-20; Malachi 2:13-16; Hebrews 13:4; 1 Corinthians 6:9, 10. Note particularly how this is true in the matter of just one disease, as shown in this report from The New York Times: “‘AIDS continues to spread rampantly among those in the risk groups, but not outside them,’ said Dr. David J. Sencer, the New York City Health Commissioner. . . . Those at risk include homosexual and bisexual males; intravenous drug users; . . . those receiving transfusions from infected donors, and the sex partners or children of those who have AIDS.” Really, which makes more sense—a few minutes of illicit pleasure, often accompanied by fear and anxiety, or a clear conscience and self-respect? Which brings lasting happiness and satisfaction—a brief affair with the possibility of tragic consequences, or the solidly based commitment of a clean marriage that the Bible advocates?

Answer 3

I am a bisexual male and I've been happily married for 20 years. Sweetie your not wasting your time. If he has feelings for you and is just curious don't worry about it. You could even help him out with his feelings by using a strap-on on him when your making love.
That is if your not prudish. Who knows, you might even be able to get a threesome going, (two guys and a girl) Ever have a threesome?
I 've done it with my wife and she loved it, one guy in her vagina, the other in her anus. Or you can just do it with him and use dildos, its ok, after all your both adults. Me and my wife are the
best of friends and lovers for 20 yrs and have five wonderful children and three grand kids. So, it depends on how much you love each other. If I get those feelings, my wife will strapon a dildo and boink me good and we kiss deeply and she even smacks my butt while doing it. Its all up to you, on how you feel about it and deal with it.
Good luck,
God bless.

Answer 4

I don't get this question - what's his starting point? he's been with girls only and likes the idea of being with a guy but he's with you? Or is it that he's only been with guys and wants to try you on for size?

Can bi mean gay? Yes, if he's in denial. But you say he seems to be into you.

Bi means bi - if he's with you he'll be in a straight relationship but he'll still be bi. We don't flip a coin one day and change our sexual orientation.

You have to trust him, like you have to trust any boyfriend, not to cheat on you. The fact that he could conceivably cheat on you with another man is not what's relevant. It's the fact that he could cheat on you (like a straight boyfriend). If you trust that he won't cheat then go for it, otherwise you're not the right person for him.

Answer 5

Bisexuality is being attracted to both genders. My experience is that I usually find qualities in both genders that I wish that I had in one person. But I am more partial to men. Bisexuality does not lead to being gay, even if you decide to spend your life with a woman or man in a committed relationship, because no matter what you will be attracted to both.

Answer 6

If one is truly bisexual, than one is attracted to both genders and cannot be 'persuaded' to not like one. If one is merely 'experimentally' bisexual, it could mean that one is having a difficulty 'coming out'. In this sense, one who is experimentally bisexual could "lead" to being gay. But the individual was gay to begin with and as such, bisexuality was never a factor.

Answer 7

You have a chance. Bi curious doesn't always mean bi. It "might" be a phase and it "might" pass. No way of telling except by giving it time. The question is to you then, is he worth waiting for?

Answer 8

A person is either bisexual or not. Bi does not lead to gay. Your Bi boyfriend could be faithful to you even though he will always remain Bi.

Answer 9

I'm bi and will always be bi. I'm never going to be straight or gay and if your boyfriend is really bi neither will he. If he loves you and is content with you then that's all that matters.

Answer 10

I'm bi and I love my hubby. Were swingers and I have been with other girls since we have been married. Hes been with those girls as well. He has tried men and is not insterested. I would never leave him for a woman. Women are too much drama sometimes LOL