In a nut shell, I cheated on my husband, broke apart a happy home, and I pay and regret it every day of my life! I was stupid and I know it!!
I want my ex husband back dearly!
But he wont take me back! (I dont know if I blame him.)
My question is in regards to those anti cheating sites like woman savers, ddhg, and now cblockcentral.com.
Yep! I got posted, and I think its b.s, I pay every day of my life and Im sorry, why should I have to be further humiliated?
I think those sites do more bad than good, what do you think?
2007-01-01 11:42:36 · 28 answers · asked by amy w 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
well girl i think you answered you own question... i really dont think cheater's like you really do feel ashamed or undertand what you put other's thru, with your selfish actions .. just deal with it .. if your posted so be it.. maybe you will think twice about something of this nature in the future
dont want to be mean ,, but sadly its all the truth
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2007-01-01 11:47:10 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let's put it like this...not so pretty, but when you cheat and you strip the very dignity from the one that loved you and you made a total mockery of the word love and trust what is a little anti cheating site? I hear this same line from all those child molesters out there complaining that they got caught, did their time and now...oh now they have to register as a sex offender and the neighbors know what they did...poor things...I hope all you cheaters and liars go on a national web site and let the unsuspecting loving people know what kind of person you really are before getting emotionally envolved with you. Besides an ounce of prevention is worth more than a cure
2007-01-01 19:55:34 · answer #2 · answered by sassywv 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sites like the ones you mentioned are there for one reason and one reason only - revenge. They're not about healing, that's for sure. You say you understand the damage that your behavior has caused, yet I wonder if the one person who is supposed to know you best is convinced of that. Believe me, the feelings of rejection, worthlessness that the cheater inflicts on their spouse really need to be experienced to understand the scope of the transgression.
Maybe he's just still hurting. This does not go away overnight. If your intention is to show him that you truly regret what you did, then respect his feelings enough to allow him to heal. Keep the lines of communication open, but don't be surprised if he's prone to lashing out now and then. You've brought this on yourself and if you intend to get past it and earn back the love and trust you were willing to throw away, then you have to take your medicine.
I do hope it all works out for you. I'm a sucker for a happy ending.
2007-01-01 19:54:52 · answer #3 · answered by rtanys 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it sucks that your private mistake became public humiliation. There should be a way to get your profile off of the site. Your ex is probably really bitter right now, but really not an excuse to do that to someone.
2007-01-01 19:47:32 · answer #4 · answered by erica_m16 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not sure I understand why you would visit those sites anyway but if you hurt someone and made them feel like a fool then you deserve the same.
2007-01-01 23:53:30 · answer #5 · answered by Trisha 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
depends on the situation, some men and women are actually pretty proud of having two or several women/men, so it actually feels pretty good to ruin their reputation
in your case, I think your husband is hurting, but you really regret it and feel bad, so I dont think humiliating you does any good, and actually its pretty bad of him, sorry about the whole thing, hope it gets better
2007-01-01 19:47:30 · answer #6 · answered by Eduardo h 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Those that are truly remorseful for any pain and suffering they caused another should not have to be punished or humiliated further. Isn't that what we all want in the end when someone has hurt us?
I commend your honesty.
2007-01-01 19:46:12 · answer #7 · answered by Kiss My Shaz 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It depends on what side of the situation your on.If you're the cheater,of course you'll feel like that but if you're the on being cheated on,you feel like they deserved it and you dont look at matters from both sides..
2007-01-01 19:47:51 · answer #8 · answered by Wes 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree. I think guilt is the worst form of punishment by far. You obviously feel really horrible about it, there is no need to be humiliated. As for those sites, those are garbage. There is absolutely no purpose for them at all.
2007-01-01 19:45:46 · answer #9 · answered by kmp1182 1 · 0⤊ 2⤋
I dont agree with those sites, I am sorry for your pain. Everyone makes mistakes.
2007-01-01 20:02:05 · answer #10 · answered by Layla 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋