I've known this gentleman for many years, but have been personally and emotionally involved for a couple years.
Now I want out because we are not going to make it in a relationship. I need encouraging info because I need to get by this problem with as little pain as possible. I'll be giving up someone I thought, for many years, was a good friend.
2007-01-01 11:40:15 · 11 answers · asked by queen_of_aksum 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Is it possible to still be friends after a time. It is good you are getting out unrequited love hurts more when you stay in the situation than getting out. emotions and pain are not something we can get advice on to control. all i can say is it may take time but it will get better keeping yourself busy will help a lot I would not date right away as to much of a chance of a rebound love and then you will be back where you started from. i am sorry that things did not work out but though it is cliche it is true time will help heal your heart good luck and God bless you
2007-01-01 11:45:24 · answer #1 · answered by katlady927 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Emotion is a funny, funny thing. Sometimes if you immerse yourself in work ,play, other friends,family etc. you can find your self getting emotionally detached, but, I have learned by experience that the length of time it takes relies on many factors. The first and most important is how much do (did) you care about this person. There was a man in my life twenty years ago and I still care and think about him weekly. We live within twenty miles of each other and he works ten miles away but, we have constructed our lives so we only run into each other at weddings and funerals. How much of your time was spent with him./her? If most of your day (work/school) was spent with this person you might have a tougher time. See where I am trying to go? Whether or not you can separate yourself emotionally from him/her I do not believe you can just do. That very crazy thing called your "heart" is the boss, but, try to keep busy, make new friends that did not know this person so you won't get updates on him every day, enjoy your memories when they come. Do not feel sad just be happy for the time you had because obviously, you and he were not meant to be. Move on and just remember unless you can not remember any thing good or he abused you in some way , never regret any time in your life that had joy in it. Be appreciative of the past but, create a new life for yourself.
2007-01-01 19:55:48 · answer #2 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It takes some time to get rid of such emotions. There are always the memories all around you, for the man you are emotionally attached to. But it is life. You have many ups and downs. There are lot of tasks to be fulfilled. You have to travel miles and miles before you reach your destination. So many places, so many persons, so many circumstances and resistances come in the way; you have to face them all. Emotions are important but you have to leave them and carry forward the duties, the responsibilities and tasks assigned to you. Time is also a good cure. Get your self involved 100% in the assignments, the tasks you have to fulfill for the society. Look and Target on your goal of life and you will see that the time for emotions and thinking has passed and you have not noticed it even. I wish and am sure you will win over this situation in a very nice way.
2007-01-01 20:01:56 · answer #3 · answered by Pramod 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Everybody is different. Stop playing the sappy songs. Live your life in a more constructive way. Establish different social patterns. Don't be idle. Eventually your brain and heart will appreciate new things. I think you have to morn the death of a relationship, but don't let it overwhelm you.
2007-01-01 19:46:35 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends on how fed up you are...half the battle is deciding on whether or not the relationship can work, which you have already done.
By getting rid of false friends and focusing your newly opened available time on REAL friends, it makes it go by a lot quicker...
2007-01-01 19:43:05 · answer #5 · answered by Kiss My Shaz 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Analyze your reasons for wanting out of the relationship, and if they are valid, and in your best interest, then stand by what you know you HAVE to do. Easy??? No way, but you're much stronger than you think you are, when you've made up your mind.
2007-01-01 19:44:59 · answer #6 · answered by olderbutwiser 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a very sad time for you, I'm sure. The best way to deal with this is to become very selfish. think about you and what you do want. Treat yourself to nice things, a pedicure, new nails, things you like. The greatest advice is keep busy!
2007-01-01 19:44:51 · answer #7 · answered by cuinclaz 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
As soon as you can get your mind and attention focus on something else you will have forgotten him before you realized it.
2007-01-01 19:46:19 · answer #8 · answered by Want2know 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just sit down and tell him that it's not working out
2007-01-01 19:42:37 · answer #9 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sleep with someone else.
2007-01-01 19:42:11 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋