My parents have been divorced since I was 2, split up when I was 6 months old. (I'm 16) Anyways since the 5th grade I have been bouncing back and forth from Indiana to Florida. My dad lives in FL and so do all of my true friends. I really want to go back there for my senior year, but there is my mom. I love my mom sooooo much, but I don't think she understands all the time.. At the high school I am at right now, my life is a living hell. I am an excellent student and a very good tennis player...but, my "friends" told me I had changed. So everyday, I talk to not one person really, and I also love it how they make plans in front of me without inviting me. I would go back to Florida in a heartbeat, but my mom gives me such a terrible guilt trip. I am not happy then either.......ahhhh who knows.....I just want to be a more happy person again...
2007-01-01 11:38:07 · 14 answers · asked by gdubs 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Wow, everyone of your answers have helped.
It has always been rough going back and forth...
(5th grade -Florida, 6-IN, 7&8-Fl, 9-IN, 1st semester 10th-FL, 2nd semester 10-IN, 11-will be all IN
I know this is crazy, and that is also a reaon why i believe maybe people aren't as nice...in Indiana. I can tell who my true friends are because the ones I made in 7 and 8th (plus when I was like 3, my dad has lived there since i was that age) .....they have all stuck with me and my decisions....
Thank you all sooo much, I really hope I can work things out...
2007-01-01 18:16:58 · update #1
Talk to your mom and tell her how un happy you are. That this isnt about her needs but yours. A. parents first priority is the child. I am sure she is trying to look out for you. Being a parent is so hard. Tell her what is going on at school . Talk to a trusted adult to mediate for u. School counselor! at your age it relly is your decision. Respectfully stick to your guns! Who ultimate pays the price ? U do?God bless u sweet pea!
2007-01-01 15:53:36 · answer #1 · answered by tennessee 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I really feel sorry for you. It is so unfair that you are so sad. If l was you l would speak to your mum and tell her that you love her dearly but that you are very unhappy at your new school and would rather live with your dad, go back to your old school and visit her on holidays. If she loves you, she will know how sad you are and she will understand where you are coming from. You deserve to be happy, after all the divorce and the move were not your fault or your idea. She must understand that. Best of luck to you. I hope everything works out. Happy New Year
2007-01-01 11:50:54 · answer #2 · answered by kazzadanni 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Make a list of the pros and cons. Which ever list is best will give you your decision. Let each parent know that there were a lot of factors that you took into consideration when making your decision. School is a major part of your life right now and therefore your happiness at school is vital. Also, you should spend the holidays with whoever you dont live with during the school year. This will keep you from feeling guilty and spread yourself amongst both parents. Good luck- I'm sure it's hard!
2007-01-01 11:42:52 · answer #3 · answered by flirt6angel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would talk to your mother. Explain to her about how you are feeling. Of course her feelings are important but if you are really unhappy she will want to make you feel better. Maybe you can sort out a compromise. Maybe there is another time like during the holidays when you can see her for a while. You should explain to her that the reason you want to leave isn't because you don't love her or that you love your dad more. Its because you miss your real friends. Maybe she could visit you occasionally in Florida. I hope that helps. I think its admirable that you are so considerate of how this affects your mother.
2007-01-01 11:42:57 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your friends don't sound very nice. I'm sure that others in that high school would be willing to be friends with you. No one has too many friends and all you have to do to find new friends is to be friendly.
Ask someone you think you might like as a friend to play tennis or talk to someone you think would make a good friend in class. People are generally shy, so when someone comes up to them and is friendly, they appreciate it a lot.
You will be 18 soon and will be able to go to college, university work wherever you want.
I don't think your Mom wants you to be unhappy, but it is true that as you grow older, your friends change because you are growing up and changing. I think that's all that is happening, you have changed -- despite what your old friends think, its a good thing to change and grow.
2007-01-01 11:56:43 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you sat down with your Mom and told her your true feelings like you are telling us? I think she would understand and hopefully you could come to some sort of agreement. Get your Dad on the phone too and have a 3 way conversation to involve all of you to get both parents opinions and to get them to understand how you feel and for you to understand their opinions and their feelings.
I will pray for your best wishes and happiness and I know that what is meant to be will work out for you in the long run. Hugs for you. Hang in there, don't give up your faith. Find the positive in whatever situation you wind up in. Don't look at the negative as it always pulls you down. See the positive and it will pull you through. God Bless.
2007-01-01 11:43:34 · answer #6 · answered by Stephanie F 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are at an age where its ok for you to decide. If Florida is where you feel you belong and you have good friends there, then tell your Mom that its nothing personal, that you love her, but need to be where you fit best.
Now with that said, if your really wanting to move to Florida, because of a GUY,, then get honest here,, that is not a valid reason for moving to Dad.
2007-01-01 11:41:56 · answer #7 · answered by yeller 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to your mom, let her know whats going on and how you feel. Make sure she knows how much you love her and want to be with her. I am sure if you tell her your true feelings she will be able to help you decide what is best. Good luck to you.
2007-01-01 11:44:11 · answer #8 · answered by Badkitty 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well honey, give your mom a break. Talk to her. Tell her how you feel. Don't beat around the bush, come right out and tell her. Maybe you and her can work things out. Good luck!
2007-01-01 11:41:10 · answer #9 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell your Mum you want to go back to Florida because of the reasons you just told us. If she thinks you want to go there to be with your dad (and not with her) of course she will be upset. Maybe you could ask your Mum to move with you?
2007-01-01 11:47:48 · answer #10 · answered by djtanybee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋