Me & this guy have been dating for a while, & I called things off because of something he did even though he wanted to say it was my fault. After a couple of months he contacted me & we were trying to start over. He has now done something else that he would like to say is my fault when it's not, but since I tried to grow a little from our last falling out I decided that my walking away might need to come to an end. I have tried to contact him twice once yesterday, & once this morning. He did not respond to either so I said oh well at least I was trying to be different than I was before. The day is almost over & he decides to send me an IM saying that we were not cool because I was wrong. I asked did he want to talk about it & he did not respond so I tried to call him & he did not answer. I sent him a message saying whenever he is ready let me know, but I am not trying anymore because I am tired. Besides immaturity & him wanting me to chase him I guess, What do you call this behavior?
2007-01-01 11:23:08 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
We have been dating for almost a year, and we are in our mid 20's. We don't have many problems, but the 2 or 3 that we do have seem to be really big.
2007-01-01 11:25:45 · update #1
It kinda depends on wut he did that he's tryna blame you for. If you think it's his fault n he thinks the other way, maybe it's both your faults to an extent. His behavior is jus a stubborn guy. It normally the girl who doesn't answer. He jus wants to to want him, most likely. I call this stubborn childish. He needs to sit down wit u n have a conversation about wut happened. If it's not a serious thing, maybe jus forget about it
2007-01-01 11:28:07 · answer #1 · answered by Kate 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I call this behavior CONTROL!! He is blaming you, deciding when to talk to you and when not, and saying that he will not talk to you until you apologize for something you didn't do!
Check out this web page and see if there are other bothersome behaviors that you see there. Please note that the behavior you just described falls under the minimizing, denying and blaming category as well as the emotionally abusive one. (He is playing mind games.)
2007-01-01 20:00:07 · answer #2 · answered by brighterdayscounseling 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Move on to someone you get along with. The fact that you haven't shows that you are also immature in your beleifs about how adults need to act. It may or may not come to both of you in time... some never learn.. I hope you do.
2007-01-01 19:29:03 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like it to me. it is a control thing. He seems to know he can make you feel guilty and chase him.
Reverse the roles. Don't call, reply, or answer him when he comes around. i am willing to bet he falls into the same trap he tries to get you into.
2007-01-01 19:27:16 · answer #4 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He took the cowards way out. He's too immature for you, he probably has no idea how to learn anything. You grew up he didn't. Find yourself a man, not a little boy.
2007-01-01 19:31:27 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Childish!
2007-01-01 19:25:16 · answer #6 · answered by olderbutwiser 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is very immature, ecspecially if he will not talk with you about it. It would be a very good sign to get out before it gets worse.
2007-01-01 20:23:37 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋