i'm really scared because i've been off school for nearly 3 months cause i got beaten up and i'm going to a new school soon i'm really scared and my parents don't understand everyone says i'm a BIG BABY i'm 13 and i'm scared of getting lost and making new friends i make myself ill and i feel like crying all the time is this normall and how can i face this fear?
thx
pinky
2007-01-01 11:18:06 · 20 answers · asked by danni 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
Hey i totally understand that ur scared. U have just gotta be as confident as you can and try your best not to show anyone in that new school that ur scared because this will give nasty bullies a reason to pick on you!! You may even get to school and make loadsa friends and find that its bully-free. Woteva u do just throw urself in and hold ur head high! Good luck, Best wishes at ur new school and for 2007 xx
2007-01-01 11:23:11 · answer #1 · answered by Jenna♥♥♥ 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
When I was 12 I had to move to a new school and it's about the hardest time ever to have to move. It's normal to be nervous and scared. Remember that no matter what happened at your last school this is a fresh beginning. Get involved with something when you start school, some kind of club, sport, band something. This will let you meet people right away. Part of your problem is probably hormones. Every teenager has that problem, thats why you want to cry alot and stuff like that. Things get easier but until then keep your head high, no one is any better then you in anyway. The better you feel or act like you feel about yourself the more other people will like you and want to be your friend.
2007-01-01 11:31:33 · answer #2 · answered by Angee D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First you are NOT a big baby, when people dont know how to deal with situations they think the best thing they can say is its either your fault you get bullied or better still become a bully yourself and start hitting people back! Hun your self esteem and confidence has been knocked out of you and at 13 its normal to feel what your feeling...if you think your parents do not understand is there someone else you can talk to within your family maybe that you can confide in? someone else who is close maybe...if you do not feel confident to talk to your new head of year maybe someone else can for you...as others have said on here already once you you make a few friends things will start to look better, keep telling yourself that you are a brilliant person and that things will get better...new school ...new life good luck hun :)
2007-01-01 11:41:54 · answer #3 · answered by English Knight 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to your parents. They will listen, if not go to another adult you trust. YOU ARE NOT A BIG BABY. A similar thing happened to my goddaughter, she needed to see a counsellor and she went on Zanax and Ativan (not at the same time). At first she needed the med all the time, then once and awhile, then almost never. What she had was Post Traumatic stress disorder which is real.
Good news things do get better. My Goddaughter was 14 when it happened to her she is now 19, married and has a baby so things get 100% better with time.
Do not be afraid to ask for help, maybe at the new school they have a therapist that can help.
2007-01-01 11:33:23 · answer #4 · answered by mimi1 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I really want to give you some support here: You are not a big baby. It is not your fault that you are in this situation and that you have to deal with a school change is tuff, especally when you have made such experiences. But: I have a friend who, before coming to my school, used to get beaten up as well. At my school he showed that he was a nice, honest and fair person. His good personaluty made others like him too and he made friends and was not beaten up anymore. I hope this can encourage you a little bit. Keep your head up, I am sure you are a wonderful person. All the best to you.
2007-01-01 11:26:52 · answer #5 · answered by Skiru 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was in the same situation when i was your age, when you start school watch your new classmates it wont take long before there true personalities come through, then you will know which people fit in with your personality and make an effort with those people, not all schools are teh same, you are bound to be nervous and worried, try explaining your fears to your mum and dad or siblings if you have nay, if not try keeping a diary that way you can see how far you have come when you have settled down there. Good luck you will fine.
2007-01-02 01:10:13 · answer #6 · answered by lazadoot 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
omg! im lee im 14 and know how you feel. i was a walking target last year for the older kids. i have had 21 girls surround my locker and we all just would start fighting. i have gotten suspended because of it and know how you feel. if you face your fears you concer them! just go to school and if they do somthing you fight back. as for friends im sure you will make friends everyone dose. just talk to people and dont be shy or its hard to talk to people. and if you get lost just ask a teacher for help! listen to me... you may feel like you are never going to survive but in the end you will come out on top... i was torcherd for a year i got bruses and my feelings hurt but i sucked it up and took the punches that came at me! just roll with it. ya know. dont think to much of what MIGHT happen just think of all the fun things you will be doing. i wasent scared to go to school because i take care of might fights. i gues you could say i (finish my buisness) dont let people walk all over ypu. its all about your self confidence.. look in a mror and say all the good about you and what you want to change. then if your worried about getting beaten up try ti get stronger so you can take care of your self. the only wat to get over a fear is to face it! you are not a baby and dont you ever let somone make you feel that way! FACE YOUR FEARS AND HAVE FUN! i hoped i helped! i am right there eith ya.... 14 year old and fights... drama drama drama rember happy thoughts be your self.... and start new
2007-01-01 11:29:34 · answer #7 · answered by MICKIE JAMES #1 FAN 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Those are very common fears and perfectly normal because of your bad experience in another school. Ask one of your parents to take you to school before you start so you can find your way around and feel more comfortable there. One of the counselors or the principal can assign a buddy to you to show you around and help you meet new friends. You can do it.
2007-01-01 11:27:09 · answer #8 · answered by notyou311 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was new to my high school two years ago. Luckly I had gone to school with some of them before. I had moved with my dad at end of eighth grade to a new town and moved back with my mom two months in 9th grade. I knew people from my town but didn't know anyone else from the other towns. It was scary. My advice is be yourself, think positive, and keep a happy face on so people know your approchable. Be nice to everyone but number one be yourself. As for getting around the school they might give you a guide buddy but you will have your schedule too help you. Ask them for a map around the school. Good Luck.
2007-01-01 11:28:50 · answer #9 · answered by shiningstars 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
hunn i understand you COMPLETELY!
i switched schools over 7 times in my life
ive been to shrinks, my school counseler
and some other things, and honestly nothing
helped.
i have social anxiety which means i
freak out when i am around big groups of
people. i was w/ my friend at the mall the
day after christmas, and walked in and froze
because of all the people. maybe you have
something like this and should get it checked.
in the end, things will work out. make sure you
hang out w/ the right group of people. if you hang
out w/ the bad kids, its just going to make it worse
happy new year.
2007-01-01 12:13:14 · answer #10 · answered by chelsღ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋