I have been with my boyfriend for a little over 4 yrs. and we have a 3 yr. old beautiful daughter together but problem is I have been in love with his brother the whole almost last 4 yrs. It wasn't something I seeked and even wanted.
I just looked into his brothers eyes one day and that was it for me. My heart had confirmed what it had been telling me for a while.
I haven't said or done anything out of the way. I haven't even gone as far as to talk to his brother about this. It's for fear of rejection, breaking up my family and his.
Some could sit here and call me a home wrecker but I have kept to myself. I have kept it a secret cuz I don't want others hurt.
I believe he had crushed over me for a little bit and I never persued it. I could have done more, I didn't. And now I'm not sure if he still thinks about me the way I do him because I kept brushing him off at times.
I sit up all night thinking about him and loose sleep, hurt over him cuz I love him and ache to be with him.
2007-01-01 10:56:29 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Carebear-I know I love him. I had been with my boyfriend for a while before meeting his brother.
Gooshy-Yes I have been cheated on and it sucks.
Ad Giver-I do truly love his brother. I'm nuts over him.
Hotte-I've held it for almost 4 yrs. and know in my heart that I shouldn't say anything but I'll always hurt wondering what might have been.
Lucky-Yes I did or else I wouldn't be with my boyfriend but it's not same.
And it's hard not to think of him. I loose sleep over him and it's hurting my own relationship.
Tomy-that's not a good scenario to think of. I love my boyfriend and wouldn't want him hurt and wouldn't risk him hurt no matter what which is why I have remained silent.
DKH-I know what you mean but it's not that easy.
2007-01-01 15:06:24 · update #1
So basically what I'm wondering is what would ya'll do? I can't sleep, think without him being in my head. I even went as far one time of praying and praying for me to forget him. And as soon as I saw him this last christmas or any other time fo that matter then all those old feelings were there. And it's not at all lust because when I think of something sexual with him then I can't imagine it because what I feel is true feelings.
Even when me and my boyfriend have sex-I have imagined kissing his brother and it's made sex alot better. :( I don't know what to do.
I love my boyfriend and don't want him hurt and know I'd avoid alot of hurt people if I just walked away but it's not that easy. What would ya'll do and what are your thoughts on it?
2007-01-01 15:10:01 · update #2
Well, do you truly love ur bf? And do you truly love his bro? Honestly, if you break ur family up and go for his bro, there's no goin back. Talk to his bro, and try and find out if he loves you. Just be VERY careful. But also think of ur daughter. Ask what she wants, but dont tell her how you feel, cuz 3 yr olds cant keep their mouths shut. If you have no idea what to do, do whats best for ur daughter.
2007-01-01 11:21:24 · answer #1 · answered by Advice Giver 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
"Now, I heard that it is better to believe in God and be wrong instead of not believing and going to Hell." This assumes that belief is a choice. You have to ask yourself do you really believe a god exists or do you just try to make yourself believe out of fear or to fit in? If you are simply pretended to believe for any reason, would you say any god you've been told about would truly be fooled by this? Do you think they'd treat a liar better than one who honestly doesn't believe? This also assumes there's only two options when any of the millions of gods beleived in over time really aren't any more or less likely than the christian one, so there may be gods out there you're not believing in that do exist and would send you to hell for being a christian anyways. In short, this argument isn't really valid. I honestly encourage you to study evidence for and against various religions and decide which, if any, you truly believe in. I did that around your age and am happy I did so.
2016-05-23 04:14:13 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow girl. That is mighty selfish of you. I mean if your not happy get out of the relationship. If you sleep with his brother that will be lower then low. There is a lot of temptation out there drugs,sex,gambling but you need to control you emotions. Just because something feels good doesn't mean its right. Have you ever been cheated on? Not a great feeling is it
2007-01-01 11:02:49 · answer #3 · answered by gooshyemail 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's a line you don't cross!!!!!!!!!!
You probably felt like this with your boyfriend at first also!!!!!!!!!!
Don't let your desires go any further and hurt their family!
Make yourself think of any thing, but the brother!
You need to work at getting over your lust for the brother!
Stay away from seeing him unless you have to see him, and then when you do....Avoid all eye contact.
Your dealing with infatuation and it will pass, but it will take time!
2007-01-01 11:22:48 · answer #4 · answered by Lucky 7 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow! I guess, I would be open and honset with yourself and your boyfriend. Then I would just walk away from the both of them cuz you might damage the family! I had a friend in the same sitaution and she ended up date the brother and it all went bad for all! Good luck!
2007-01-01 14:39:32 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i wouldnt call you selfish because a lot of people date guys just for there best friend or brother but your situation is not good you know you wont be able to hold it in forever if i were you i would tell your boyfriend cause its not like you married him or anything and your daughters too young to know whats going on so dont wait any longer or theyll just get madder at you
2007-01-01 11:21:57 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have a really good technique for you to try.
This sounds graphic but its a good test and will answer this question for you and help you.
Picture the father of you're child in a coffin.
Imagine that.
People say guys only think with they're *****.
Now i know women do it for real.
Picture him in a coffin girl....the father of ure child.
Who do you love most?......
The infactuation with his brother?
2007-01-01 11:27:14 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
how do you know you love him so much? why did you go so far with your boyfriend if you like his brother?
2007-01-01 11:01:03 · answer #8 · answered by carebear_destroyer 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not sure what advice to give you!!!
2007-01-01 11:00:26 · answer #9 · answered by mustanglady 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no but yeah ........
always love somone who loves u n only u ....
not the one who you like n only u like him/her..........
2007-01-01 11:05:38 · answer #10 · answered by Neeto 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋