Ive been with my boyfriend for over 2years and we are both in love with each other, he always tells me he wants to spend the rest of his life with me and we plan on getting married right after college ( 3years left). He hasnt proposed yet and he knows we need time to plan the wedding. Am i getting too anxiouos? Should I just let it be and when he does then it will be out of the blue?
2007-01-01 10:52:06 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Let him do it in his time. I kinda rushed my now husband and I wish we could go back. He ended up proposing in his bedroom at his parents house. I think that he would have come up with a better idea. Don't rush him. If it is meant to be than it will happen. If you rush him he might feel pressured. He might feel pressured and not take the time to come up with a unique idea of his own.
2007-01-01 10:55:48 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband and I lived common law for 5 years before our wedding (we were together for 31/2 years when he proposed). But we talked a lot about it before hand and we both new that is what we wanted, but he wasn't ready quite as soon as I was. I knew when we were going to get engaged and even picked out the ring. In retrospect I wish I had just been more patient and let him propose as as a surprise. In the end we have a great marriage, but if you trust him and know you are both on the same wave length, let it be. You still have 3 years of school to go. It doesn't take that long to plan a wedding. Let it be for now, maybe it will be more romantic that way when he does propose. But keep an open line of communication.
2007-01-01 19:03:52 · answer #2 · answered by wendygirl1000 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes you are rushing it. How it feels now may not be the same in 3 years. Give it until you're both close to graduation before making any real plans for a wedding. Trust me.
2007-01-01 18:54:28 · answer #3 · answered by Pretti Poodle 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would bring it up occasionally but give the guy some more time! if he wants to marry you he will ask. either way your not getting married until after college so whats the rush? he is probably a logical thinker and wants to wait until everything is more settled and he has a nice job. who needs 3 years to plan a wedding anyway? sounds to me like you might be insecure about not being engaged
2007-01-01 18:55:52 · answer #4 · answered by Sleepyguy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Alot can happen in 3 yrs, give it to the back burner and enjoy what you have now. If he is serious it will come when he is ready and not until then, if you push him he may slip out of site and if he really loves you then it really shouldn't matter when he proposes because you are together now and have plans for the future. Relax and it will happen, good luck...
2007-01-01 18:56:54 · answer #5 · answered by turtledove264 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is he ur first bf? Cuz if he is, you haven't really been with enough people to tell if he's the one. Honestly, I think being with him for 2 yrs isn't enough. Are you sure that he's the one? Honestly ask yourself, can you spend the rest of ur life with him? This is the rest of ur life that ur talkin about. Ya, you can get a divorce, but there's alot of pain and wasted years involved. Do you honestly love him? Are you ready to get married? Ask yourself.
2007-01-01 19:16:50 · answer #6 · answered by Advice Giver 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes you are rushing it. You don't need 3 years to plan a wedding. Let it be.
2007-01-01 18:55:10 · answer #7 · answered by Pandora 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes.
Since you have already spoken about getting married in the near future, just sit back and wait for him to propose. He will. I know it's hard, but you just have to be patient.
2007-01-01 18:56:59 · answer #8 · answered by Nancy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh gosh...yes let it be!!! 3 yrs is still far away!!! If you try and rush it you may scare him or make him fustrated enough to just give up. Right now just concentrate on school and each other..enjoy life as it is right now!!!
2007-01-01 18:55:05 · answer #9 · answered by mysweetluvie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think u are rushing it... why get married?? ... whats the big deal with marriage... will it really make much of a difference... cant u just be with him and be happy... plus ur very young... people grow and change as they get older and go separate ways... let ur relationship be... ur 2 young 2 get tied down yet... and even tho u may think it will last forever... it probably wont wen ur so young
2007-01-01 18:57:11 · answer #10 · answered by clemmie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋