I know she has depression, because I've gone through it as well... well, I am still fighting.
She is in a relationship that has not been good for her. The guy is totally taking her for granted doing a lot of stuff that is tearing her down. His mom hates her and doesn't let a moment pass where she doesn't make that known.
Her family life isn't going to well either. Her sister seems to get the run of the house etc.
All she really ever wants to do is sleep, and I am seriously concerned for her. She also thinks running away from everything will make things better.
I have advised her to maybe get out of the relationship, to try and sort things out with the mother. I've told her all I know that may help, but nothing has worked.
Does anyone know anything else I can do to help?
2007-01-01 10:49:42 · 13 answers · asked by Jon M 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Some of your answers reminded me, she is going to counceling, but I don't know much about how that is going... I don't really know how I would address that, since I have not gone that route myself.
2007-01-01 10:59:48 · update #1
Unfortunately depression is something that is very hard to deal with. As for her relationship no matter how much you tell her to leave she has to make this decision for herself. As a friend all you can do is make sure she knows you are there for her!
As for always wanting to sleep i have found that when times get hard i would hide in my room and just want to stay there but in the end it just makes it worse. For me it helped that my friends took me out. Take her places to keep her occupied, it'l help honestly but accept if she really doesn't want to go out, don't force her.
You sound like a very good friend and i wish you luck and hope i was slightly helpful at least.
x
2007-01-01 10:57:49 · answer #1 · answered by MaH 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've been in similar situations, it's hard to really see what's going on when you're "in" the situation yourself. Be there to listen to her, you were right to suggest her getting out of the relationship, especially if he is taking her for granted. Honestly, if she removed herself from the situation for a while, maybe took a break from the relationship, he may either see how much she really means to him, or end up realizing she isn't the right one at all. So to a degree, she may be right in thinking she should run away from everything, but running won't solve anything, i really think she may just need a break, time to step back and observe what is really going on.
It's definetely hard being the friend of someone going through something like this. Just be there for her, listen to her, offer her advice, and yes, try and make her see that she deserves the best!
Good Luck!
2007-01-01 18:58:32 · answer #2 · answered by ANGELA P 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your really concerned about her and you think she needs help maybe you can sit down with her mother and explain the situation and how concerned you are. Unfortunately you probably can't help her if she is really depressed. She needs professional help maybe even medication to combat her depression especially if she wants to sleep all the time and run away from her problems. Maybe you can get her to talk to a counselor or clergy at her local church if she attends one. Other than that just be her friend. Hopefully things will turn out okay. Good Luck
2007-01-01 18:57:49 · answer #3 · answered by smile4u 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I got a friend or 2 who sufferes from depression too need to just be patient with her and yes i would advise her to get out of that relationship with that guy. if she is sleeping alot means she is very depressed and has no desire to do anything else. I think she needs to stand up for herself as well don't let people run all over her. Keep talking to her and making sure she knows your there for her it may take time for her to open up but she will when she is ready. Good luck
2007-01-01 18:56:05 · answer #4 · answered by curious 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try to get her on some kind of medication or in therapy, I had depression last year, and the worst part of it was that I thought that there was nothing I could do about it. Help her realize that she shouldn't need anyone else to make her happy. Everyone should be able to find personal happiness. She doesn't need this guy or his mom.
2007-01-01 18:55:11 · answer #5 · answered by Wishful Writer 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds to me that your friend has trapped herself and unfortunately she is the only one who has the key. She is very lucky to have you as a friend. All you can do is be there for her.
Since you are dealing with depression yourself, you could always give her a gift certificate to your therapist. If you're not in therapy maybe you could suggest going together or going to a support group one night and see what happens.
I wish you and yourt friend the best...And happy New Year!
2007-01-01 18:55:05 · answer #6 · answered by darrellkern 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Since you both have a depression problem, how about suggesting you both go to a group therapy session together. You are correct in all you said but she needs to get emotionally stronger to do the things you suggest. Good luck, you are a good friend.
2007-01-01 18:52:55 · answer #7 · answered by Santa's Elf 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i think you have done the right thing looking out for your friend but there really isn't much that you can do.she should get out of that relationship quick before anything else happens.
2007-01-01 18:54:09 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i don't think ther's much you can do except be with her and help her through it. and maybe you can talk to her boyfriend and see if that helps. Good luck+happy new year. hope thinks work out.
2007-01-01 18:53:02 · answer #9 · answered by Clumsi_Muneca 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Convince her to go to the dr. She need help. Counseling or medication, don't let this continue.
2007-01-01 18:56:43 · answer #10 · answered by mamabear 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋