grandchildren. I want to hang it. He doesn't. He says, "Do whatever you want, you will anyway." I don't feel that I do that. He wants nothing up, I want things I love up. What do I do?
2007-01-01 10:46:08 · 10 answers · asked by Connie S 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
PUT THE PICTURE UP! He sounds like a grouch anyway, so he's not going to be happy either way you choose. They're your grandkids.....and his....the old grouch!
2007-01-01 10:50:12 · answer #1 · answered by olderbutwiser 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You said "a large picture", how large a picture? Is the whole house full of family pictures everywhere. Maybe this is too large and too many... is it the straw that broke the husband's back? You want things that you love, OK... if you stand back and touched every object in your home or this room and say out loud "mine" or "yours" or "ours". What do you hear? Have you controlled all the things in the home? You have to talk to your husband about this and he needs to state why he is against this "large" picture.
2007-01-02 15:42:27 · answer #2 · answered by Mal 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You said it (OUR HOUSE) it's not just his place. You should put things up if you want. Why shouldn't you do anything in the home that you want within reason? I have pics. up of not only my grandchildren but of my whole family. I made a collage on the huge mirror behind our tv and everyone that comes to our home just loves it. Put it up and he will come around and later wonder why he made such a big deal about the whole thing. Good luck.
2007-01-01 11:02:26 · answer #3 · answered by lynnie 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
put the picture up. tell the grump to get over it. my husband is the same way he likes to tell me what i want won't work. we are about to build a house and he said he keeps telling me how we are going to decorate and I told him nope not going to be that way. this house unlike the last WILL show my tastes if he doesn't like he can leave. I've been straight with him along he's going to find out if he doesn't open his mind up to any of my ideas he's going to have no say, he'll be on the outside looking in.
2007-01-01 11:23:06 · answer #4 · answered by Pandora 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I THINK THAT YOU SHOULD REALLY PICK YOUR BATTLES, MAYBE HE THINKS YOU DO JUST WHAT HE SAID, DID YOU TAKE THE TIME TO ASK HIM IF HE REALLY THOUGHT THAT ABOUT YOU? I WOULD ALSO ASK HIM TO GIVE YOU A LEGITIMATE REASON AS TO WHY HE DOESN'T WANT THINGS UP, MAYBE IF YOU TAKE THE TIME TO HEAR WHAT HE HAS TO SAY, YOU MIGHT FIND OUT SOMETHING. I WOULDN'T PUT IT UP ONLY IF I KNEW IT WAS NOT GOING TO BE A BIG DEAL. I WOULD PICK ONE ROOM OUT IN THE HOUSE WHERE YOU AND HIM CAN NEGOTIATE A PLACE TO HAVE A FAMILY ROOM WHERE YOU CAN PUT UP PICTURES.. TALK TO HIM IT IS WORTH IT IF HE IS OTHER WISE A GOOD HUSBAND.
2007-01-01 11:03:26 · answer #5 · answered by LittleDaisy. 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry but he sounds like a controlling bastard. I know, I live with one.
A man who has a say, let alone insists, about house decor?? Give me a break. Tell him to stfu about it. He just wants control.
2007-01-01 11:08:41 · answer #6 · answered by Ade 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is there a possibility that you two can bargain that say, a certain room or wall of a room belongs to you, where your design choices win? Or he has a room (guest room, or something like that) that is his "domain"? Many times, it's less about things, and more about having our own "space" that drives design arguments. Good luck working it out!
2007-01-01 10:50:50 · answer #7 · answered by saintsfanatik 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its your Grandchildren for crying out loud, put up the picture and tell him don't worry about it!
2007-01-01 11:30:55 · answer #8 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my husband dont nothing our walls either. suggest making one wall in the family wall, for family pictures.
on 1 dr. phil show he said this is what women do, we like to make our home a "nest". its a good thing. i told my husband its my right as a woman. they have hooks that dont make holes in the walls anymore. try those. found at walmart.
2007-01-01 10:57:52 · answer #9 · answered by cats3inhouse 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think he's just being difficult. I think it's more about control. You better talk this out, before things escalate.
2007-01-01 10:52:55 · answer #10 · answered by mamabear 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋