We have 1 child and we have divorced for 9 yrs and now I find myself wanting to rekindle the old relationship but in a new way. What should I do? Try or leave it alone?
2007-01-01 10:42:51 · 19 answers · asked by turtledove264 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Is he single? If he is then try, there's nothing to lose. You're already divorced.
2007-01-01 10:44:38 · answer #1 · answered by mamabear 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i have many books on this topic- rekindling a love long lost. the trouble you will face is growth and change, he may have grown away from being attracted to the sort of person you represent. he might have grown fond of someone or many new someones. he might be looking only towards the future and not the past...but his changes might be a good thing too, it could mean whatever caused the divorce has evolved. maybe he's more mature or stable. it all depends on the person and how close you two are in contact. that you still love him is amazing, nine years, you're my hero!
if it's meant to be i believe you will find a way
2007-01-01 18:49:35 · answer #2 · answered by brandylyn_kay 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I do not think it to be wrong to want your ex back. If you say you still love him after 9 years, there must be something there.I would try to rekindle. You both are older, wiser, and more mature now. Just think what a joy it would be for the child. Go for it, and the best of luck.
2007-01-01 18:48:55 · answer #3 · answered by PEPPER 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
greatly depends on what situation hes in. Is he married? does he have children from another relationship? How dose he feel about that? Does He know.? THere aint nothing wrong to "rekindle" the old relationship. Have a talk to with him for once. Express to him how u feel, and ask what are the chances of giving it another try, even maybe for ur child's sake...
2007-01-01 18:47:23 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to look back and figure out why the marriage ended in the first place. We're you both just too immature at the time to make a marriage work? If you both have grown up since then, then maybe you have a chance. Or did he make it clear that he wanted out of the marriage? Was there drugs, booze, abuse, the memory of which has faded over time? Then nothing has changed, and don't even go there again.
2007-01-01 18:47:03 · answer #5 · answered by silverside 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Does it honestly Hurt to try. I mean that you have been divorced for 9 yrs and Still love him. There is something there still.. Does he feel the same.?? Or hint at it.? Good Luck and Dont back down or settle for a no
2007-01-01 18:45:56 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
A lot depends on him.
Does he have a new family of his own? If he does...splitting up the new family to try to mend yours is probably not a good idea after nine years. If not, can't you drop a subtle hint to see if there's any interest, without making a huge scene? (If he has stayed single all this time, it seems likely this thought has crossed his mind too...you need to find out.)
There's nothing wrong with what you're feeling, but the circumstances may dictate what you can do with those feelings.
2007-01-01 18:47:41 · answer #7 · answered by David G 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He is an "EX" for a reason, and he has been for 9 years now, so in my opinion, you need to leave it alone. Too much water has run under that bridge, for that to work. Move on.....find someone else. Good Luck!
2007-01-01 18:47:35 · answer #8 · answered by olderbutwiser 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should go out and buy a copy of The Grief Recovery Handbook. There is an awesome chapter on relationships and how to handle exactly what you are going through.
2007-01-01 18:45:33 · answer #9 · answered by darrellkern 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like a Lifetime Channel Movie. This one could have a happy ending.
2007-01-01 20:19:04 · answer #10 · answered by ms bella 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that this is normal and if he's not with anyone then maybe it might be a good thing to try and it may be better the 2nd time around. Good Luck!
2007-01-01 18:47:25 · answer #11 · answered by 2sweet4u 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋