perhaps i am the only one encountering this, but i thought i might ask. if you meet a man who tells you he is getting a divorce, what automatically comes to mind? currently i am facing the problem that many people foresee the divorce as being caused by the wife. we have all these ideas of gold diggers and cheating wives, is it that over whelming that we expect females to be the demise of every young marriage?
granted both sides in every marriage do wrong, but- more likely to be the wife's fault or the husband's? what do you think?
2007-01-01 10:21:43 · 13 answers · asked by brandylyn_kay 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
i'm writing this on the basis that you have never met this man before, his demeanor and emotions would leave you to believe that he was just thurougly abused in his relationship and entirely innocent. for this is how my husband obtained many girlfriends recently, by playing it off as the wife's fault- and not even in words! just actions, body language when they meet and so forth. do we feel empathy for the man or woman who we have never met?
2007-01-01 10:45:26 · update #1
Actually, I alway envision the man having an affair as the cause of a divorce unless I am told otherwise. I suppose that is because most of the women I know who have been divorced, the husband cheated on them with a younger woman.
2007-01-01 10:25:41 · answer #1 · answered by physandchemteach 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
change into the divorce comprehensible? sure...for good right here causes: a million) Watch too a lot Jersey Snore 2) Watch too a lot Kartrashians 3) Watch too a lot little ones & Tieras 4) Has an IQ lower than 3 5) Lives on facebook 6) Owns more suitable than seventy 9 pairs of boots. 7) would not artwork 8) can't artwork 9) Has no education 10) makes use of words like 'nucular'....'supposebly'...etc 11) Stand to win massive payola if, can practice the 127 lbs of organic fat bumped off in liposuction change into for medicinal causes.... . . . . Is that sufficient??
2016-12-01 10:02:03 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I just wanted to say thanks for your answer on my problem. I didn't think there would be a way for it to be fixed...and, it really wasn't a big deal in the first place.
An answer to your question so I'm not completely just blowing smoke: I think it depends on the situation whether it's the man that causes the divorce or if it's the woman that does. Like, if a woman cheats, it's her fault and if a man cheats it's her fault. But, after watching Maury and shows like that, it seems that it's usually either or in my oppinion...
2007-01-01 12:15:26 · answer #3 · answered by xo_sarah_ox 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no norm for divoirce fault. When I met my husband he had said his now-ex left because she said he didn't grow and she did. You know I think that is true I've known him 18 years and married 6 and he has not changed. so I can see why his ex left. I don't think that made her a bad person. Just for the record no kids involved. I've changed and I want different things from life now too I might end up leaving if he wants to stay stagnant. I don't want him to do a complete change but I do want him to want to try new things and if he doesn't want to well I will go it alone.
2007-01-01 11:09:29 · answer #4 · answered by Pandora 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are too many reasons couples divorce to make a judgment just from knowing that someone is getting divorced.
sometimes there is no fault just a general growing apart.
other times people just find that the little things they thought they could change or live with aren't going to change or they just don't can't deal with.
maybe the way he acted lead her to cheat
maybe the way he acted lead him to cheat
maybe they just want different things in life
Every case is different.
if you like hime learn more about hime and maybe he'll tell you why they are getting divorced.
2007-01-01 10:29:10 · answer #5 · answered by Insane 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i agree with you. i also think that when you meet someone and they tell you they are getting a divorce they try and make the other one look bad. maybe it is the way they say it or their body language when they are talking about their spouse. and then sometimes we automatically think oh this is a good man what did she do to make him want a divorce or vice versa
2007-01-01 10:27:35 · answer #6 · answered by jumiboo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont think my divorce was my fault...my ex started drinking, hanging out thinking he was 18 and cheated on me....now he is a dead beat dad....nope not my fault
Now I am raising 2 wonderful boys who are learning to respect people not only women and to be honest....I hope they dont end up like him_
2007-01-01 10:24:24 · answer #7 · answered by Chickybabe 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
not a fair q?.....
should not put people in a box....
my ex did bad... had 2 divorce him....
he is useless....but I am not ugly about it.
I have 2 male friends.....
their wives left them 4 another man & had a baby....
not sure how that works......
my brother' wife left him 4 sum1 else....
I think it really has 2 do w/ communication...
any1 can leave any1 for any reason.
2007-01-01 10:28:59 · answer #8 · answered by katwaxr 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hard to say...come right out and ask him. In my case its me wanting the divorce. Hubby has a girlfriend BUT he wants to keep both of us. He doesn't want a divorce. Told him no way and kicked him out!!!
2007-01-01 10:40:57 · answer #9 · answered by mysweetluvie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My best guess is that divorces are probably 60% mans fault,
40% womens fault...
I have no hard data..
This is just a guess..
2007-01-01 10:25:08 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋